Would You??

[mono]

Hmmm, to 'lose' an argument - I often lose, in fact, without even trying. :lol:
In terms of debating, I really enjoy the occasional debate, but there does not necessarily have to exist a 'winner' or 'loser,' though some debates can get quite heated (especially on subjects on which I tend to feel very passionate, such as literature, poetry, philosophy, natural sciences, medicine, politics, and, how random, chess).

To the person below me: in a debate or argument that you very obviously lost, would you admit your wrongness and apologize, or continue debating or arguing (as in Sophism)?

[Pendragon]

If I'm proven wrong, I'm wrong. I don't claim to be unfailable, or to have all the answers. If it's a matter of opinion, I will agree to disagree, and remain friends, because there is too much fighting over stuff that really doesn't amount to much now.

Would you stand up for the rights of the "forgotten people", elderly, disabled, homeless, etc.?

[Chava]

I do, in fact, i once went as a representative for "Center for Conflict resolution" (I was 16) to a press conference about the UN, with top politicians and representatives from in the form of the swedish PM's press conference leader, and secretary of state. After a while i got tired of all their vague talk about improvements, and i raised ym hand, again i was 16 in a room full of proffesional journalists, i have no idea where i got the courage, and asked them how UN agreements etc could be valid when large nations chose to ignore some of the regulations, and somehow managed to include the lack of assitance given to the people in Aceh, Indonesia, whom have been supressed for many years by the government. :) what followed was a long silence, and a few meagre responses.
After at the champagne reception, i was approached by the leader of Unicef for children, as well as the swedish leader of the international department who gave me her card and asked me to do a broadcast about the Aceh minorities. A very cool incident.

In any case, i do things like that upon occasion, and i don't hesitate to stand up for the weaker.

Do you ever feel a strange surge of courage which allows you to do things you wouldn't normally do?

[adilyoussef]

Yep, then I think I'm crazy.

Would you ever do something illeagal?

[Pendragon]

Not knowingly. If I broke a law, if would have to be because I did not know said law existed. A good example is that here in the USA, what is legal may vary from state to state. As I live near the borders of three other states, I cross into them often. A policeman in that state might stop me and find that the pocketknife I carry is illegal in that state, while it isn’t in mine. I would still be charged with breaking the law. That happened to a bounty hunter coming through here. He was caught with an illegal gun, legal in his home state. He was charged; the gun confiscated. So it's easy to do.

Would you run ten miles for charity?

[Chava]

I would if i could,

would you?

[AimusSage]

I run 10 miles for the fun of it, so I'd do it for charitiy too. :)

Would you swallow chewing gum if there is no place to put it and you are about to go into an important interview?

[Jean-Baptiste]

Sure. I quit chewing gum, as I would too often find myself faced with that dilemma.

Same Q

[Shalot]

I would definately swallow the gum. Supposedly it takes seven years to digest, but I've swallowed a lot of gum in my life and I'm still alive so I don't think it's that big of a deal.

Would you just up and quit a job if all the people you worked with did not like you and made your life miserable on the job (this means that you don't give the customary two-weeks notice -- you're just out of a job that very day. This means that you just walk out of the office or whatever facility it is and just go home...would you?)

[Pendragon]

In hindsight, I wish I had. Then maybe I wouldn't have cracked up quite as quickly. Don't get me wrong, my illness is genetic, and would have happened anyway (my brother is showing bad symptoms now 12 years later.) But I wouldn't leave because I have a wife and three kids, the pay was good and the health plan unbeatable. But I cracked like an egg at age 34. My brother made it to 40.

If you walk off said job, would you go quietly, or have to say a final word to your tormenters?

[mono]

I would go quietly; I do not need some dramatic exit to feel 'remembered,' nor to toss threats, retain a grudge, etc.

To the person below me: would you consider yourself quick to forgive, quick to forget, or do you feel to dwell on problems?

[Hyacinth Girl]

I tend to forgive and forget rather quickly. . . why bother holding on to something negative?

Next poster: same question

[AimusSage]

I dwell on problems, but I'm also quick to forgive and forget, just not myself, although it also depends on what I am dwelling on, there are things I'm very quick to forgive and forget off myself, while still learning from it, but there are certain things that I have a hard time forgiving or forgetting.
I can't actually think of something that I haven't forgiven someone for, or haven't forgotten, so that means I either both forgave and forgot, or I simply forgot. But I can think of things I did 10 years ago that I haven't forgiven myself for, or forgot. But I try not to dwell on things too much, and instead live in the present and look to the future. :nod:

Same Q.

[Madhuri]

I would go quietly; I do not need some dramatic exit to feel 'remembered,' nor to toss threats, retain a grudge, etc.

To the person below me: would you consider yourself quick to forgive, quick to forget, or do you feel to dwell on problems?

I take time in forgiving and forgetting (but this usually happens when the intensity of the emotion has reduced, or that now it doesnt make any difference), which means it is not quick and which also means I have a tendency to dwell on problems (I must say it is not a good habit).

Same question.

[Chava]

hmm, allright a confession. I usually connsider myself a fairly reasonable person, and i can't be bothered into harbouring a grudge... BUT - and this is really silly, there is one girl that i do not only intensely dislike, but really hate! and for some reason i cannot stop getting irritated by her very prescence, and infact, i sometimes feel a claustrophobic need to remove myself from a room if we are alone in it together. I know it's really strange, and highly immature, but i really can't help it... i feel a physical discomfort about her. (blah, long story) in short, i can't just "forget" abut her....

Would you tell such a person about your issues in an attempt to resolve the matter?

[Shalot]

No -- I think it's a bad idea to tell someone about how uncomfortable you are in their presence. I think it's best to just stay the hell away from him/her and not waste too much energy with that. If they've already upset you with their actions or inconsideration or whatever (and you have such instense feelings of hatred towards them for it), chances are they don't really care about you and your feelings. Whatever they did was pretty bad and the best thing you can do is stay as far away from that person as possible.

Would you skip your grandmother's funeral if she was nothing but a toad to you when she was alive? If you go to the funeral, you have to run into your self-absorbed, psycho aunt who has also been nothing but a toad to you. Would you skip it, or go?

[adilyoussef]

Go and face myself. Whatever she might be in my life, now dead I should show some respect, if not to myself.

Would you face your own fears or just acknowledge them?

[Virgil]

That's a tough question. It's easy to say I'll face them, but there have been times where I'v been frozen in fear and not able to confront them. One doesn't know until we come face to face with it.

Same Q

[Pendragon]

I say that there are only two types of fear: that of what we do not know or cannot understand, and that of what we know all too well and refuse to acknowledge. (The philosophers on this forum would have a good round with this statement!) That being said, I think everyone sooner or later fails the test, because there is something in everyone's life that one doesn't want to face.

It's a very good question, however, and I will pass it on.
Would you face your own fears or just acknowledge them?

[WhimsySA]

Acknowledge them - that way you have more time to do the things you actually want to do!

[WhimsySA]

Oh sorry I forgot!!! :D

Same Q

[mono]

Hmmm, good question. I would first attempt to acknowledge them, then 'play it by ear,' so to speak. Some fears exist that I will likely never face, and would rather never try (like water), yet, even by admitting my fear, I acknowledge it; like several others, however, I have the common fear of failure - that I have both acknowledged and faced.

To the person below me: if you could save the life of only one person - an elderly but healthy individual or a baby, who would you save, and why?

[AimusSage]

Now this is a difficult question, I'd probably save the baby, despite the fact that I think they are smelly, wrinkly and all that stuff. But a baby still has a full life in which it can possibly offer a great contribution to humanity or at least be a productive member of society. The elderly is likely to die within 15 years anyway, that is, if elderly means old people that have already retired, which I think it does. :) Not that I want the elderly person to die, but if I had a choice, the potential value of a baby's life far exceeds that of an elderly member of society.

Of course, the baby could grow up to become a killer or thief or what not, but it's a risk I'll have to take.

What does it take to get you upset, or to rephrase, what upsets you?

[Shalot]

Mean people upset me.

Would you ever walk barefoot in a gas-station bathroom? Or in any public restroom for that matter?

[Pendragon]

I don't set foot out of the house barefoot!

Would you travel a long distace based only on the map in your head, with no back-up plan at all? We are talking a trip of, say 750 miles one way, car trip?

[Shalot]

No - absolutely not. I would never get back to where I needed to be.

Would you tell your mom that you were sorry for being an inconsiderate bratty teenager?

[mono]

I have apologized many times, but, of her other three sons (I have an older brother and a younger brother), she called me the 'most well-behaved by a small margin.' We both survived, nonetheless, and learned a lot from each other. The same story goes with my father - both very understanding, patient, warm, and wise people.

To the person below me: if you could re-experience one moment in your lifetime, would you merely desire to re-experience it, or would you alter it somehow, especially the result of the moment?

[Shalot]

To the person below me: if you could re-experience one moment in your lifetime, would you merely desire to re-experience it, or would you alter it somehow, especially the result of the moment?

I would alter it - change what I did at the moment. (I would get in the car and speed away from it in fact).

Same Q to the next person

[Pendragon]

As I once wrote in a poem "the road behind, not the road ahead, is the one forever barred to our footsteps" . But I would love to have a "second chance" on many things, which I would change if I could.

Would you consider a terse dismisal from a job as a personal affront?

[Virgil]

I don't know about an affront. I certainly want to know why. If it was expected I would just move on. Otherwise I would want answers.

Same Q

[Jean-Baptiste]

Well, I pride myself on my work ethic, so I would probably want to know why, as it would seem to me to be very unjustified. I could only believe that there were personal matters involved, so I would tend to take it personally.

Same question

[Pendragon]

Well, as you have probably guessed, I had this happen to me. It was not a downsizing, but a department change with a significant decrease in salary. My department manager, and the manager of the department we serviced both begged higher-up to reconsider. There was no explanation, no reasons given; my job was considered "culled". However, it would need to be done from time to time, and I would be expected to come back and do it, and ask no questions. This went totally against company policy as stated in the employee's rights handbook. I was supposed to be transferred to an equal status job only. There was one available. They gave it to my brother, over whom I had at least four years seniority and skill level. Yes, I took it personally! :flare:

Would you feel obligated to go do your old job in the above situation?

[Shalot]

No I wouldn't feel obligated to do the job. I don't know what they ended up paying the other person but it sounds pretty bad all the way around.

I consider my work environment to be pretty crappy right now too. I know that I am not going to work there forever. I can't believe what ***holes these people can be sometimes and the stuff that goes on is just ridiculous. I often wonder if I've died and gone to hell and this is my punishment. Anyway, when I quit, I am going to try to do so on good terms and I am NOT going to tell some of these trolls what I think of them, but I sure would like to.

So my question for the next person is, would you quit a job and leave behind lots of "problems" on purpose that you know your coworkers (who treated very badly on the job) will have to work out? Lots of real irritating messes that will be dumped on them to sort out, just out of spite. Me personally, I wouldn't because I can't afford it.

[Pendragon]

No, I went on to the other job, and tried to become the best I could be in that department. Unfortunately, I had a total nervous breakdown and was out of work for a long while. During this time, higher up realized their mistake. But they were getting ready to "shaft" the company, and they all quit with no warning to start their own business. In the ensuing chaos, the new H.R. manager kept me on medical leave for over a year, trying to get me back. But my genetic time bomb had gone off and it was too late. I've tried everything to get back to work, but they think it too much of a risk. So I am disabled. But I left no problems and I wouldn't have if I could.

So I pass the excellent question: Would you quit a job and leave behind lots of "problems" on purpose that you know your coworkers (who treated very badly on the job) will have to work out?

[Chava]

Absolutely not. Work can be complex enough, there's no need to make it more difficult. People get angry and frustrated and stressed when there's messes like that, and that will hardly make them more friendly to your replacement. No need to take it out on them.

Same question . (feeling low on creativity)

[Madhuri]

No I will not...I will always want to quit on good terms, whatever the reason, and I'll handover my responsibilities properly, and may also offer to visit incase they need me later.

Next person:
What would you do if you knew this was your only chance and you didnt get through somehow?

[sinoluke]

I never did that , but if I have the opportunity, I would try

[Pendragon]

In answer to Maddie's question, if I knew this was my only chance and somehow I didn't make it through, I would know at the end of the road that I had given it my very best shot. "Live every moment, leave nothing to chance." as Michael W. Smith sings.

With that in mind, when you make a mess out of things do you tend to beat yourself up over it, or try to straighten out what you can and keep going? A child who does not fall never learns to walk. ;) :nod:

[Shalot]

It depends, but for the most part I tend to dwell on it.

Same Q to the next poster

[OZEED]

"falling down doesn't make you a loser, staying down does." I once heard someone say.
would you keep quite about the extra change that you were incorrectly given?

[Kaltrina]

No, actually I never did... I never wanted something that is not mine...

Same Q.

[ktd222]

I've done both. It's just an impulse at the time. Sometimes I'll give the change back and other times I would just keep quite.

Would you stop all communications with your family to be with the love of your life?

[Hyacinth Girl]

I assume that they are the ones refusing to communicate and that it is due to disapproval of my choice in love. If that is the case. If so, I would have to say yes. If they truly love me, they will try to communicate, work things out. If my family can so easily write me off, I would have to take my chances with my lover.
Now, if it were something like my lover wanting me to have no contact with my family at all. I'd say there was something creepy about that and would refuse to drop communications with my family.

Next poster, same question

[Pendragon]

In life, you cannot choose family. You can choose who you fall in love with and develop a relationship. I know people that if family would have stayed out of the picture would be happy today, but because of family they made the wrong decision. I know others that probably should have listened to family. It's a judgement call, and the indivual must make it for themselves. I stay out of my kids relationships. Unless I felt they were in mortal danger, I would never interfer. That's the one choice that they totally control, the building of their relationship and family.

Same question, as it is a very good one. So, would you stop all communications with your family to be with the love of your life? from ktd222

[Shalot]

Yes I would stop all communications with my family to be with the one I love. Always forward, never straight.

Would you wash your hair with cheap shampoo if your stylist recommends that you use only the products that his/her employer sells?

[Pendragon]

Hee-hee. My "stylist" is my wife and I use what she recomends, which is whatever happens to be on sale! ;) But in the given situation, no, the guy's probably getting kick-back for everyone he can get to use the product. Had a doctor once who told me I should drink bottled water. Then he specified Aquafina. I check lables. The cheaper stuff says the same thing. Turns out he has stock in the company that bottles Aquafina. :rolleyes:

Would you run for say Mayor on a dare?

[Madhuri]

No, I have no interest in politics, and this doesnt seem a very interesting challenge for me to accept.

How long can you postpone an important project, if your career or your degree depended on it??

[Kelly_Sprout]

Until the moment passes and there is nothing left to do but accept the consequences.


How long can you kick yourself after blowing something important to your career or self-esteem?

[alennox21]

No.
Money and I have always been strangers.
I prefer it that way.

re-v

although I do have an occasion dream of visiting Yap

[ktd222]

Usually until the next opportunity presents itself.

Would you wear a retainer even though you had straight teeth?

[Pendragon]

Hee. We never had the money when I was a kid to get my teeth straightened. The front two bend in, (my sister's bend out!), and aproaching my 46th birthday I'm not vain enough to have it done now! :D

Would you finally tell a charity to leave you alone if you had made a donation that was a sacrifice for you at the time, and you simply cannot do more—you wish you could but you can't— and you've tried to explain this to them, but they waste more than you gave on mail trying to get more money?

[Hyacinth Girl]

I think that I would definitely point that out to them! I understand that charities need to keep in contact with donors, but there comes a point when it is not fiscally productive to keep at it.
(If only the UM Alumni society felt the same way. . .)

Would you quit your job and move yourself to a distant city to maintain a relationship with someone you had known for less than a month, or would you do the long distance thing?

[Shalot]

I think that I would definitely point that out to them! I understand that charities need to keep in contact with donors, but there comes a point when it is not fiscally productive to keep at it.
(If only the UM Alumni society felt the same way. . .)

Would you quit your job and move yourself to a distant city to maintain a relationship with someone you had known for less than a month, or would you do the long distance thing?

I wouldn't quit for someone I hadn't known less than a month unless I really hated my job. But I had such a hard time getting the job I have that I would be really afraid unless I knew for sure that something fabulous would come of me just dropping everything for that person. But if I were pretty confident that I could find work in any town, I would go for it.


And I guess I would tell those charities to stop sending me notes because they are wasting postage --- the alumni association at my old school won't be getting a dime from me anytime soon and I really need to tell them that. Maybe they will stop sending me all that junk mail. But it probably won't do any good. I have notified them several times that I have a new address and a new name and they continue to send it to my mom's house.

Would you tell your husband's family that you didn't want any gifts from them for Christmas because you can't afford to buy gifts for them?

[Pendragon]

Would you tell your husband's family that you didn't want any gifts from them for Christmas because you can't afford to buy gifts for them?

Actually, as our extended family grew, my wife and I decided to do just that, and we draw names at Christmas for the children to see that the kids are not left out. Both sides of the family agreed, and it has worked nicely.

Do you feel that any type of religious meaning has been crushed out of Christmas by the merchandising? I mean, they start the Christmas stuff in stores often before Halloween is even over, and certainly before Thanksgiving!

[Shalot]

Yes, Christmas is about sales revenue more so than about Christ. But since we can't have prayer in school or the 10 commandments posted at the court house ;) then I guess we should expect that.

Would you get rid of the cat because she hurled on your couch?:sick:

[Chava]

haha, no. I usually perform an emergency evacuation of cat to the outdoors, whenever she starts to do her coughing rutine...

Would you?

[RobinHood3000]

Probably easier to get rid of the couch. And stop feeding the cat. :goof:

I'm an atheist who celebrates Christmas because it's basically unavoidable in my area and because I'm "celebrating the joy of others." Plus my parents are Christianish.

[Pendragon]

I have two cats and would get rid of niether. I personally feel that Christmas has little to do with Christ, and He told us to "shew forth His death til He come" not His birth, anyway. (Put down the pitchforks and torches! :lol: )

How many pets would you consider too many? :)

[AimusSage]

One, if I was living on my own, but as it is, my parents have three cats, which I love very much :lol: they're just very funny, with wonderful characters, but the dog beats them all hands down, he has to be the best dog in the world. Anyway, I don't want pets when living on my own, which should be soon. :D

Would you drink a beer with your friends eventhough you know it's going to be late and you have to get up early in the morning?

[Shalot]

well yeah, beer is good and friends should be cherished.

Would put your leg in an alligator's mouth on a dare?

[miss tenderness]

I never drinks:)




same q!

[cuppajoe_9]

Would and have done many times. Fun fact: beer is a good source of vitamin B12, something that vegetarians (like myself) need, since it is normally found only in animal products.

Would you give the dollar that you had hoped to buy coffee with to a busker, if he or she was tallented enough?

[miss tenderness]

yes, absoulotly:)



same q

[Pendragon]

Why not? If they have the moxie to get out on the street and entertain for whatever people donate, that's more guts than I would probably have.

How do you deal with people who knock on your door trying to get you to join up with their religion?

[AimusSage]

I tell them the devil is already my best friend, and if they don't run away fast enough he will get them. (The devil being my playful and always happy dog)

Nah, seriously, I try to convert them to atheism, usually has them leaving very quickly. Unless I'm in a hurry, in which case I tell them I'm in a hurry and don't have time for them, upon which I just close the door.

Same Q.

[optimisticnad]

i never take witheld numbered call, i never oopen door if i recognise the person...and usually u can tell if its one of those kinds of people here to convert u to their religion. u know what works best? if u know a little about thier religion and quote it back to them and ask them 'ahh, yes, but here...' blah blah usually gets them scared and running.

or the more fun approach is to them that someone has to go to hell right? whose going to keep hell running?

same q. (see three posts above or is two?)lol

[miss tenderness]

I'll listen to what they have and then discuss it with them!


same Q!

[Tinita09]

I try to smile politely and get them to go away as soon as possible.

same q

[cuppajoe_9]

I'll talk with them, but they usually bugger off pretty quickly once I tell them that I don't believe in god. The last one had some interesting ideas about consumerism and looked exactly like the world's greasiest insurance salesman. He brought his son.

Who you care to comment on how much do you usually tip the pizza delivery guy?

[Shalot]

We usually give the pizza guy two or three bucks. We don't do a percentage on that because here pizza is everywhere and you can always find a cheap pizza. But since they have to drive their own cars I think a tip is in order. Plus I hear from a former pizza guy in my psych class that it's bad manners to not tip. Or is it all just a scam? Do they take our tips and laugh at us later?

At restaurants, you're supposed to tip at least 15% percent but if I get bad service then I won't. Rumor has it you're supposed to tip the person who cuts/colors your hair.

Do you agree that you should tip the person who cuts or colors or styles your hair (or give you a manicure, pedicure or wax) and if so, how much?

[Kelly_Sprout]

I am required to maintain insurance and a perfect driving record and for that I get paid... gas money. My income comes from my tips. How much did you think a pizza place would pay its drivers for a $10 pizza? My guess is that the same thing applies to a $10 haircut.

My answer to your question is: yes, I think that tipping for service is appropriate in all cases, as a form of saying "Thank you for the service" even when the service itself is also being paid for. In other words, the employer guarantees that the service is available, so you pay for the service, but this individual, not some other flunkie, actually provided the service, so if it was service that merits a common-courtesy "Thank you," the appropriate way of saying "Thank you" is with the tip. Depending on the complexity of the service, I value the "Thank you" between 10% and 18%, but since 18% is difficult to calculate in my head, I'll often round up to 20% or down to 15% depending on the quality of the service. And... if I want to say, "Thanks for nuthin', bozo!" I'll tip ten cents. Leaving no tip at all can be misconstrued as forgetfulness.

Next question: should computer data recovery or user training be considered a "service"?

[Bookworm89]

Yes, since not every one is skilled enough to do it.

Would you eat a jalapeno pepper just to prove you're tough enough?

[Pendragon]

Not really. If people don't get an idea by just looking at me, I can always break a brick with my head. Actually, I'm beyond all this foolish "see how tough I am" stuff, being age 46 next month. At one time I might have though. :p

Why would you wish people to think you were someone who is tough and bad to begin with?

[Madhuri]

I do not think I would want to make such a wish, I am not tough (physically), mentally I can take a lot of pressure, and I have no intention of faking something that is very apparent. And I dont think I am bad either, I am okay (good and bad, both).

What will you do if you were in a relation, where you increasingly feel that the other person is taking advantage of you, and present all things done as if done for love.

[miss tenderness]

:( simply discuss the matter,if there is no agreement and we reached a point of NO UNNDERSTANDIN>>>>break up is the sulotion:)


same q.

[Pendragon]

Get out as fast as I can say good-bye. I had that happen to me when I was young and dating. Dated a girl for two years, and now we were both Seniors in high school and there was talk of marriage--all on her side, I wasn't sure at all that I wanted that. She pushed to far and I did some checking up on her. What I discovered wasn't at all pretty. But it lead to me asking out the girl I'd been a best friend with since 9th grade. We went steady for 11 months and got married. December 21 marks our 27th anniversary.

Pass the question.

[Shalot]

I am required to maintain insurance and a perfect driving record and for that I get paid... gas money. My income comes from my tips. How much did you think a pizza place would pay its drivers for a $10 pizza? My guess is that the same thing applies to a $10 haircut.

My answer to your question is: yes, I think that tipping for service is appropriate in all cases, as a form of saying "Thank you for the service" even when the service itself is also being paid for. In other words, the employer guarantees that the service is available, so you pay for the service, but this individual, not some other flunkie, actually provided the service, so if it was service that merits a common-courtesy "Thank you," the appropriate way of saying "Thank you" is with the tip. Depending on the complexity of the service, I value the "Thank you" between 10% and 18%, but since 18% is difficult to calculate in my head, I'll often round up to 20% or down to 15% depending on the quality of the service. And... if I want to say, "Thanks for nuthin', bozo!" I'll tip ten cents. Leaving no tip at all can be misconstrued as forgetfulness.

Next question: should computer data recovery or user training be considered a "service"?


Well, then I guess I tip the pizza person about 20 to 30 percent since we never spend more than about 10 bucks on a pizza. We're not rich either --- in fact I almost took a job as a pizza person because the starting hourly wage was the same as what I make now with the possibility of tips. But instead of I have a desk job. So I guess I have not stiffed the pizza delivery person. Maybe I just won't buy any more pizza. It's too much of an extravagance for me, apparently. Apparently I can't afford pizza.

[Shalot]

Oh and to answer the previous question, I hope I would get out of the relationship. It might take it a while for the reality of the situation to register depending on how infatuated I was with the person but I know me, and I only put up with crap for so long and in the past I have always found a way to extricate myself from bad situations or relationships.

Suppose it's a girl scout mini-olympic team tryouts and your daughter is a really slow runner and kind of clumsy, but you think she might be able to compete in the softball throw competition. So you volunteer to help out with tryouts and you're measuring the softball throw distances. You see that your daughter wasn't able to throw the softball far enough. Would you kick her softball ahead so that she can compete in an event?

[Madhuri]

No, I will encourage her to do better.

What will you do, if you have a friend who consistently has problems, which obviously are for no apparent reasons, and at times you feel as if they just want to gain sympathy and even though they are capable, they always want others to solve their problems (no matter how much you encourage them to do it themselves, they insist that you do it for them coz they are, oh so incapable), and they are never there for you when you need them coz they are again incapable to help as they are facing huge problems?

[Pendragon]

Maddie, I think of the words of a song:

Someone to Lean On by Bill Withers

Sometimes in our lives we all have pain
We all have sorrow
But if we are wise
We know that there's always tomorrow

Lean on me, when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend
I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
'Til I'm gonna need
Somebody to lean on

Please swallow your pride
If I have things you need to borrow
For no one can fill those of your needs
That you don't let show

Lean on me, when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend
I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
'Til I'm gonna need
Somebody to lean on

If there is a load you have to bear
That you can't carry
I'm right up the road
I'll share your load
If you just call me

So just call on me brother, when you need a hand
We all need somebody to lean on
I just might have a problem that you'd understand
We all need somebody to lean on

Lean on me when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend
I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
Till I'm gonna need
Somebody to lean on

Sharing and caring is a two-way street. My friends here on the net have helped me through many dark hours. But I will always be there for them, if they need me. I'm a PM or e-mail away. Talk to me, and if I can I'll help. I think that is duty of people to each other. Sooner or later you need someone to lean on.

Pass Maddie's question:What will you do, if you have a friend who consistently has problems, which obviously are for no apparent reasons, and at times you feel as if they just want to gain sympathy and even though they are capable, they always want others to solve their problems (no matter how much you encourage them to do it themselves, they insist that you do it for them coz they are, oh so incapable), and they are never there for you when you need them coz they are again incapable to help as they are facing huge problems?

[Madhuri]

So it is not wrong to have expectations, as in, if one has given a lot, it is not unreasonable for the person to expect some validity of the efforts. It is okay to expect to have a chance too, to feel for the same care that was given.

If yes then why do I hear this phrase so often 'unconditional love'?

The question passes.

[mtpspur]

Unconditional love - in my experience is usually bargaining chips people use with each other to get what they think they want-need that's a bit more out of the ordinary--or to avoid dealing with problems. My ex daughter-in-law saw absolutely no reason why I should think she was crazy when I refused to take her to a (3 days late) 21st birthday party at her rreal father's aunt's home so she could celebrate by getting stone cold party animal drunk. (irony is she really wanted a free ride to meet up with her lover since at least for a short while her mother was ignoring her infidelities (my son was at his Army base at the time waiitng for her to get moved down) (this was the first of several trysts she had until my son got the divorce but the child custody is getting interesting.

Bottom line for me I'm old enough (55) to realize I put conditions on ALL my relationsships---I just hope MOST of them are tinged with mercy and empathy. The mantra for me is There but the for the grace of God and I've stepped off that platform a few times and it's never pretty.

[Pendragon]

Certainly, one may expect to have others be there for them if they have been there for others. It is not unreasonable to feel that way, it is a normal human reaction. We may aspire to the "unconditional love" of giving with no thought of receiving anything in return. Sometimes we may even succeed. But since we are only human, the time comes when we hurt, when we have to deal with something we cannot understand nor handle by ourselves. I feel it is justifiable to expect a person you've stuck by in a crisis to stick by you through yours. It doesn't always happen. I stuck by a family member when he was in a very bad crisis, risking a lot for his sake. When my own crisis struck, I reached out to him, and he spurned me. I reminded him of how I stuck by him when no one else would. To this day, he still doesn't support me at all.

Bottom line, Maddie, it is no wrong to expect it, but steel yourself for the possibility of rejection.

How do you react when someone you've risked everything for shuns you?

[Virgil]

Who would want to look at me naked? Yuk. No.

Same Q.

[Shalot]

No - but Virgil's response to this is up in the wrong spot. It's funny.

Are you in the mood for coffee and doughnuts right now?

[Shalot]

And apparently so is mine?

Would you pose nude for YouTube while eating coffee and doughnuts?

Are there time stamps on these posts? I read earlier that things were going wrong on the forum but I thought it was corrected. What do you do when some technical problem arises? I was going to report the post but I saw that was only for harrassing posts and posts that are political, offensive or whatever. (I don't like to look for directions --- I don't mind reading them but if someone could point out where I should look...)

[cuppajoe_9]

I have no desire whatsoever to own one million dollars, so I'll pass the question.

[Shalot]

Hmmm, where will this one end up?:D

[tainaprincess]

Personally, I would be very frustrated, but hurt at the same time. After the hurt has passed, I would have to say, I would get angry, passive though it may be.

What would be your limit if the person you "love" asks you to do something for them or else they would leave? I mean, what would be the worst thing?

[AimusSage]

If someone were to say that, I would leave. No one is allowed to abuse me in such manner, not even someone I love. Now, if someone asks me to do something, I might do it, but trying to get me to do it by threathing to leave will be a mistake.

Would you eat a pie made by your friend who absolutely can't make a pie, but tried to and failed?

[miss tenderness]

:lol: I'll taste it, if it is eatable I will, if not:lol: I'll ask to be excused ,I need to use the toilett!

same q!

[toni]

Yep, *gulps the pie down hesitantly*. But only for the sake of friendship and then I'll tell her "Okay, you tried and failed. Now go back to stitching."

Would you pose in front of a media camera in the nude, post it on Youtube.com for a million bucks?

[miss tenderness]

worthy to think about it but Nah!


same q!

[toni]

Uh, I don't think I could do that!

Would you run in the hallway full of people naked to win a date with your fave celebrity?

[Pensive]

Hell No!

Would you express your feelings to the one you love? (Hehe, the same old question but that's the only one I can think of at the moment.)

[toni]

Why duh?

Would you like to join Fear Factor if it included you eating scorpions, worms, roaches and other morbid critters?

[Pendragon]

May I ask what that proves beyond the fact that people will do almost anything for money and 15 minutes of fame? Does it show bravery? You want that, go see a firefighter, policeman, soldier, or someone like that who has put their life on the line time and time again for others, whom they don't even know. I don't care what kind of disgusting filth you are willing to eat, or what you are willing to do in a situation where you can always walk away. A brave man or woman is the one who walks into a flaming building to rescue a stranger, knowing they might not come out again themselves.

Do you consider yourself that brave?

[miss tenderness]

not at all:lol:

same q!

[Aiko]

No way! :D

Would you go out with someone you really like but do not love, to make him/her happy?

[miss tenderness]

yes,sounds like me:(



would u refuse a favor asked by someone dear to you because you really can't do?or you are going to try your best to please him?

[AimusSage]

refuse it, obviously, if I can't do it, there is no point in trying. That'll only cause more harm later, when there is the inevitable failure to report. Better to refuse now so he/she can ask someone else who is able to do it.

Would you compliment others just to make them feel better?

[ElizabethSewall]

Hey Aimus! :wave: How are you?

No, I don't think compliments, if they aren't sincere or deserved, could make anyone feel better. (Yet, my utopian self would add that there is probably something worth praising in everyone one.)

Same Q. (too lazy to think of a new one. :p )

[Miss Darcy]

I think I have done so...but only sincerely. :)

Would you cross-dress?

[BTW: Elizabeth, have you read the Three Musketeers?]

[ElizabethSewall]

I think I would, on a special occasion that is. It could be fun to observe people's change in attitude towards me if they thought me a boy.

Would you take a risk and leave your job to fulfill your passion?

[Yes, I have, a few years ago. Why?]

[AimusSage]

Hi! :wave: I'm very well. Glad to see you're back :D

I would take that risk, but I need to find a passion first, as it is right now, my studies are a bit of a passion :lol: (not really, but it beats not having one at all.:nod:)

Same Q.... :)

[Chava]

Hmm, yes, i would do that, since it's what makes life fun. I've taken a lot of risks lately anyway, so why not :)

would you wear clothes inherited from a deceased realtive, because you think they're funky?

[Laindessiel]

Not if I don't wanna stink big time like them...;)

Woud you rather be an Asian or a European? :p

[Serenata]

European.

Would you wear paint instead of clothes with something covering personal bits?

[shinigami]

No, I wouldn't...

Would you eat a native delicacy that is cooked pigs blood with all the organs of the digestive system.. and the heart.. If you were given 10dollars for it??????

[Pendragon]

I have eaten many strange things, but they'd have to really up the ante on that one to get me to try it!

Anyone else want a taste?

[Laindessiel]

Nyah...

I have had already enough of my dad's almost every week delicacies of all sorts of tongues and livers and intestines and all the foul things found inside animals' bodies. If they didn't taste so good, you wouldn't have forgotten what they really are...

Do you think George W. Bush would ever get better?

[Chava]

better? he was best before he was born, at which point he was probably a rotten egg... but don't get me started.

A long past question :

Would you learn a talent just to impress other people, even if you would not have chosen it normally?

[Laindessiel]

better? he was best before he was born, at which point he was probably a rotten egg... but don't get me started.

A long past question :

Would you learn a talent just to impress other people, even if you would not have chosen it normally?

Sorry for the upstart, Chava...was just wondering if anyone would bite...;)

About your query, it would be easier if that "other people" would have been your family, or one of its members, as I was close to doing before. If they really push you hard on it, it's impossible not to have even an atom of attraction on it, like I have. But they have to understand that it IS YOUR LIFE, not theirs, and that they are there to just guide you well through it. Fortunately, my family and my mom, especially, are very supportive of what we would like to pursue, and what we really wanna do. ;) It's just that sometimes she introduces to us new things and encourages us to try it, but she doesn't ask if we would be intrested to take the plunge. It's my fault also...I'm afraid to ask...:bawling:

Now, would you either spend the rest of your night for a date with your crush (or for older guys, a hard night with friends and pals) or keeping this forum company? :D :D :D

[Shalot]

I would rather go out, but I have to work tomorrow. Being an adult sucks.

If you could go back in time and relive your childhood knowing all that you know now, would you?

[blacksheep]

If you could go back in time and relive your childhood knowing all that you know now, would you?

of course!

would you run around naked in downtown of your city if it weren't illegal and no one would recognize it was you?

[Bookworm89]

No!

Would you sell your body or your soul?

[Kelly_Sprout]

of course!

would you run around naked in downtown of your city if it weren't illegal and no one would recognize it was you?

Yes! In fact, if it wasn't illegal and anti-social, I would make love in public if the moment warranted it. Nudity, and for that matter, sex, are only shameful to humans. Animals embrace their natural inclinations. Frankly, I think that we make too much about the ethics of natural inclinations.


Would you sell your body or your soul?

Done. Have the Tee-shirt. At least the selling my soul part. I have withheld my body for several years, now, out of revenge. Next question?

Oh! That is up to me! OK, (and please, only imbibers answer, please): What is your favorite alcoholic drink?

[tucsongirl]

I don't know what a " imbiber" is but I do love the drink.
My favorite is a mojito.

I love the question. So let's see who else has a favorite drink

[blacksheep]

kelly, i've actually be thinking of taking part in nudist movements. in my state, indecent exposure is exposing genitals or anus. i can go around basically nude if i wanted to. of course, it wouldnt be that good for my future which is why im not doing it. however, if i were to wear a mask and my parents were nonexistant, i have a good chance...

im not a habitual imbiber. so the question shall pass. (however i'd like to say i like pina colada and eggnog. beer is yucky and so is most red wine - especially after microwaving.)

[Madhuri]

I dont drink alcohol in any form...so I am not an imbiber....

I love tea though. :D

Next poster --

How unreasonable is unreasonable for you??

( I mean the degree to which you think something could be unreasonable for you...eg - drinks...two glasses might be unreasonable to you but maynot be for someone else)

Am I making any sense??

[Laindessiel]

I dont drink alcohol in any form...so I am not an imbiber....

I love tea though. :D

Next poster --

How unreasonable is unreasonable for you??

( I mean the degree to which you think something could be unreasonable for you...eg - drinks...two glasses might be unreasonable to you but maynot be for someone else)

Am I making any sense??

Yes you are.

Unreasonable to the point when I am not able to hear the indistinctive flow in my brain which tells me that enough is enough. I'd like to answer Marcel Proust's question

"For what fault have you most toleration?"

Answer: bad surprises. I mean we can't do anything about it anymore, right? It's there and we just have to learn how to go about life with it and learn to succumb, transcend and deal with it. Eventually, you'll be grateful for it.

"To miss the opportunities of the "wild" just because we judge them bad, intolerable or dangerous may require missing the glory of the journey and the opportunities that result."

Now, would you rather be the worst at something you love or the best at something you hate?

(I know that in some situations, you can't be best at something you don't put all your heart in but just in case....as it have been with me...) ;)

[shinigami]

I'd rather be the worst of something I love... just for the fact that I love it...
:)

Would you rather eat mud or eat a cockroach?

[Vada Dagon]

MUD for sure! As long as it is not tainted!

[Vada Dagon]

Would you live to be 100?

[shinigami]

granted a very healthy, active, beautiful 100 year old....

Would you rather be extremely skinny or extremely fat.?

[Vada Dagon]

Skinny for sure! Then I could still eat!

Would you take a bullet for a friend?

[shinigami]

certainly would.. even if it went through my heart... IF it was a REAL friend...

same q...

[Vada Dagon]

Absolutetly. Without a doubt

Would you live your life boldly or to please others

[Laindessiel]

A bit of both. Can't go without either. You live a life learning how to respect others, but you have to know your limits when trying to please them. As long as it wouldn't hurt you...

Okay, sorry for being so serious..I am grappled with fury at how SLLOOOOOOWWWWWW my computer is going now...reckon it's just about 1 kbps..dang it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Would you want to have a high tech laptop that contains looots of features but only runs at 1 kbps (seriously) or a very old model at 10, 000 kbps with no Internet connection?

[Vada Dagon]

Neither.....

Would rather have a chip in my brain with ultra fast connection. :)

Would you rather live in a mansion and be poor or have no home and be rich.

[blacksheep]

have no home and be filthy rich.
i don't like living in big places. my apartment - a small 1/3 of a small house is too big for my tastes. and i dont think i'll have an actual family in the future.
you have to keep the house looking nice and its too much of a burden. i've lived on the streets for a few days and in my car for over a week before and its not bad.
now, with money, you can buy spiffy bikes and laptops and ipods and a nice trailer. I'll just go to starbucks for internet.

edit: same question

[Kelly_Sprout]

Home is only a home if you like being there. If that hideaway in the forgotten tunnel behind the overpass moorings is comfortable, no one knows about it but you, and you look forward to the time you spend there, then you have a home. And if that mansion makes people who know you, hate you, and is filled with people you'd rather avoid, and you are always bored and would rather be anyplace else and usually are, then you might as well just pay the property taxes on it and get on with your life, because it isn't your home even though you own it.

On the other hand, if you owned it and had no money, you wouldn't be able to own it very long, and if you were fabulously wealthy you certainly wouldn't be huddled under a shabby coat trying to keep from getting bruised by hail or splashed by passing cars. So, I'll take the home that is a mansion, hire all the help I want to keep it the way the way I want it, live with the people who make me feel fulfilled and worthwhile and loved, and I'll do it on an unimaginable income that never runs out.

New question: The one-ounce gold American Eagle coin is legal tender and has a face value of $1.00. Assuming that for a reason that cannot be explained, you couldn't sell it, would you eventually spend it? If not, how long would you hoard it. If so, how much would you try to get the seller to provide in exchange for it and how persuasive do you think you could be?

[Vada Dagon]

Hmmm
If a $1 would buy me something I needed - sure!
I'd probably give it away to someone who could probably use it more than I could.
I would try to get someone to give me at least one weeks food & board I could probably persuade them (I'm a nice guy) ;)

[Vada Dagon]

OK - Would you go blind or deaf to save the life of someone you loved.

[toni]

But of course!
I would choose to be deaf, though,
I think it is more bearable to live in silence than to live in darkness....

Would you rather be a bird without wings or a dragon without a fiery breath?

[Vada Dagon]

A Dragon without a fiery breath for sure! Ditto on your answer.

Would you rather be a beautiful flower for a day or an ugly root for all time?

[Pendragon]

Fame, like the beautiful flower, lasts for a brief time. But someone with integrity enough to stand and hold firm like the root, ugly though it may be, will be remembered forever. I will choose to be the ugly root, to stand for what I believe, to help anyone I can and may my legacy be only this: "He never once gave up on himself or anyone else."

Would you seek for knowledge when faced with the unknown or simply deny it exists?

[Laindessiel]

In a very brief time, that is how I've come to know you, Uncle Pen! That comes out really well and clear enough for it to be your legacy. ;)

You could never deny knowledge even if it is hiding behind the walls, but I believe that it is its coming out would there have been any significance to realize and ponder on it. I have fallen a victim to that and did what I had to do: deliberated and eventually, fully understood and learned from it.

Would you work at a library voluntarily or become as rich as Trump (ofcourse. not the attitude)?

I promise to create a much better query..:p

[Shalot]

I did work at a library as a volunteer because I thought it would help get hired full-time in the library. However, it was grunt work, pushing giant carts of books around and shelving them and I couldn't imagine having a full-time job doing just that, all day long. If I were as rich as Trump, I imagine I could spend more time reading for leisure at the library as opposed to toiling away all day to take home a piddly pay-check.

Would you buy something you didn't really need just because it happened to be on sale?

[shinigami]

Depends on wat it is.. but most probably yes... I mean... who can resista SALE!!! I'll just give it to someone else...

Would you exact revenge on someone you hate, making them go to hell IF you were to go to hell as well when you die?

[RobinHood3000]

Nah. Hate's not "me."

Same question.

[Pendragon]

I wrote these lines in a poem once:
"When a man seeks for vengeance,
Thirsts for revenge,
Spends his whole life in pursuit of a vendetta:
He can never see that the true victim—
The final victim—
Is Himself..."

Same question

[Madhuri]

I do forgive, but I cant forget.....I may not be able to take any revenge, but i'll henceforth deal with the person accordingly.

Same Q

[Shalot]

Revenge seems like it would be very satisfying but I have never taken revenge on anyone that I thought deserved it (so far). But I do believe that what goes around comes around and isn't there a saying (or a verse in the Bible) that goes something like, "Vengeance is mine sayeth the Lord"

There is also "revenge is a dish best served cold"

Bide your time, or wait till you cool off, and above all, don't shoot yourself in the foot.

In the end though, I don't want to go to hell and some good man ;) said that we shoudl turn the other cheek.

Pass the question

[Vada Dagon]

Revenge is not my thing. I like the line from a movie once said (Gross Point Blank)
"Forget about forgiving and forgetting. Accept and move on".

I won't break the thread so keep up answering the same question.

[shinigami]

People say things but when it comes to the point in life that you have someone to hate... You will do it.. 9/10 times...

I know I would...

Wow... the questions gone a long way... please continue...

Same q

[BibliophileTRJ]

Having known that I am Hell-bound from a very early age (queer and Catholic); I'm more likely to send people who's company I ENJOY to Hell with me, rather than people I hate.

Same question.

[Laindessiel]

I wrote these lines in a poem once:
"When a man seeks for vengeance,
Thirsts for revenge,
Spends his whole life in pursuit of a vendetta:
He can never see that the true victim—
The final victim—
Is Himself..."

Same question

I believe every word, Uncle Pen. Spoken out of my mouth. Same goes for me.

Don't wanna break the thread.

[AimusSage]

No, hell is a fictional reality.

Would you watch an awful match in the rain, without cover, in the winter, if it's an important match for your team?

[Nightshade]

What team? I dont have one! ( ok I think that answers it?)

same Q

[Virgil]

Probably, but I wouldn't be all that happy.

Same Q

[Shalot]

Probably not. But if they had hot chocolate or tea and I could huddle under an umbrella with that certain someone then it might be alright.

Would you watch a show about the process of making leather?

[toni]

I might- but I'll watch it and watch a good movie at HBO at the same time.

Same Q

[Pensive]

Yes, maybe. Depends on the time.

Same Question.

[BibliophileTRJ]

I DID watch one last night on the Discovery Channel..... found it fascinating.

Would you bare your deepest secrets on national television?
I.E. Jerry Springer Show

[Pendragon]

Some people will do anything for money. I am not one of those people. :(

Pass the question.

[Laindessiel]

Right, right, right, Uncle Pen! Why do you always put words on my mouth? That's exactly what I'm going to say.

Given the worst situation, if cable T.V. had no National Geographic and Discovery and HBO, would you rather watch Jerry Springer of Maury? YOU ARE required to watch.

[BibliophileTRJ]

I'd rather poke my eyes out!!!

Pass the question

[Shalot]

I would rather watch Springer because I have never seen Maury and at least I know what to expect with Springer. What I can't believe is how long the Jerry Springer show aired. It went on long after it should have.


Would you tell your best friend that you were mad at here or just stop talking to her altogether and let the friendship fade away?

[miss tenderness]

oh,dunno,depends on what cause the anger and the strength of our friendship.



Would you agree to participate in a competetive copetion,in which you have got to eat snakes and do stuff of the sort,if they offer a huge payment?

[Madhuri]

I can do anything for survival. In this case, my need for money will make me do it, not the sense of adventure. If I had the money, I wont do it, coz I know much better things to do than eating snakes, to get the feeling.

same question.

[Pendragon]

Well, it would fall into "How bad do I need this money?" As for eating snakes, chop the head off and they are about 100% lean meat, solid muscle. The posion is in the fangs and venom-sacs of the head, not the body. So they would have to come up with something else to gross me out. :)

How long do you think, given your current knowledge, you could survive if trapped in the wild with say a knife, some rope, and a tarp and just the clothes on your back? :idea:

[Shalot]

Probably not long, especially if I didn't have any water. I guess I could survive as long as it took me to get dehydrated and die. I'd do much better with at least a 22.

Pass the question.

[Helga]

probably a day, I think I'd crawl under a rock and die the minute I knew I was lost.

how long can you go without your fav food/drink?

[adilyoussef]

As long as I can't get them.

Would you, in case of need, steal?

[Pendragon]

An interesting point, Adil. It was brought up when Hurricane Katrina ripped through New Orleans and the surrounding area. For many, there was no clean drinking water, and they lost everything. If they looted a store, and took drinks and food, and perhaps clothing, was that stealing or survival kicking in? Others were taking wide-screen TV's, DVD players, and such. Why? There was no electricity. My own mind would have been on surviving, not something else. I would say it would take a disaster of that magnitude to make me steal, and then it would be only what I needed to survive.

Anyone else have a thought on the matter? Adil's question: Would you, in case of need, steal?

[Kelly_Sprout]

Steal what?

Ex: "Would you, in case of need, steal love behind your spouse's back?"
Ex: "Would you, in case of need, steal time from your employer?"
Ex: "Would you, in case of need, steal underwear from your neighbor's house?"
Ex: "Would you, in case of need, steal a book from the library?"
Ex: "Would you, in case of need, steal oxygen from your diving partner?"
Ex: "Would you, in case of need, steal cake from a bakery or a filet mignon from a restaurant?"

Ok, so I know the question means, "Would you, if you were fleeing from the Germans in WWII, steal a shabby coat in the dead of winter and some frozen potatoes from a root cellar?" But the phrase that has be going is "...in case of need...". What constitutes need?

In fact, that is the question I'll pose here for the next person. What constitutes need (in the context of the previous question)?

[penelopea]

Need has no constitution,its entirely subjective.
Would you kill your terminally ill relative?

[Pendragon]

Whew. Questions are getting much tougher. It would be tempting to end their suffering, I cannot deny that. I cannot even say I would blame someone if they did. I find it interesting that society will find a person guilty of animal cruelity for allowing them to suffer but send that same person to prison or maybe the death penalty for ending the suffering of a human. Could I do it? I don't think any of us could really say until we're in that position to have to make the call.

Pass this most powerfull question.

[Shalot]

No I definately woudln't. I would probably get caught and have to go to prison and I don't think anyone in my family (those that love me anyway) would want me to put myself out there like that for him/her.

I think that if you find yourself in a difficult situtation (any difficult situation), then you have to see it through to completion and learn the lesson you were meant to learn. If it were me, I wouldn't want to see someone I love risk the rest of his/her life just to end my suffering. I'd rather just suffer till the end rather than put it on someone else.

(of course I say that now...)

Pass the question.

[Laindessiel]

I understood the question as if I would allow a person to end his/her suffering (medically, like if he's terribly ill on the verge of dying), and would do a mercy kill. If that's how the question was meant, I'd rather say yes because seeing him in endless pain and enduring all of it while knowing that he's going to die soon anyway makes it hard for both that person and his relatives, for both parties. I don't know in other countires but in my country, it's still not legal to do that, much like cremating is still an issue with most religions here.

If it's getting hard for him, getting hard for the family, let it end. That's how God would want it to be. After all, dying is inevitavle and it'll come to all of us, sooner or later. It's the will of God.


I'd like to know of the others' thoughts on this one. :)

[Woody]

Would I kill my terminally ill relative? No, but I would give him the option of continuing a life of pain or ending it himself. If that means I have to make sure he has access to what he needs for his choice, then I am willing to go that far. To play God and hold the pillow over his head. NO.



Would you pick up a hitch-hiker at midnight on a dark stretch of road?

[CheshireCat87]

NO. Depending on my mood however I may pretend that I'm going to pick him/her up and then drive away but that would only be done in a very evil mood because nothing is worse than false hope.

[CheshireCat87]

would you ever sleep with some one to get what you want?

[toni]

Not now not ever. We must not lose our self-respect and dignity.

Would you eat the pancakes I worked hard for cooking even if they are a bit burnt?

[Pensive]

Sure, I do it now and then for certain people. :p

Same question:

Would you eat the pancakes I worked hard for cooking even if they are a bit burnt?

[Laindessiel]

Yep, for a friend, and a friend Pensy is to me. :)

Hey Pense, how would you like to go to Neverland on a plane or by boat?

[Madhuri]

Since Pensy is in her dreams, I can go any way (plane or boat), if it was luxurious and grand...:D

How far can you go to achieve your dreams??

[Laindessiel]

Ah, that is a serious question, Mads... It will take lots of my time and numbing of the fingers to get through to satisfying your query.

But to make it short, ideally, the farthest I can possibly reach, maybe it can go as high up as in the Milky Way, but I have yet to experience and in real life do that. I have BIG-but-tangible dreams in life but I also know that I have a full lifetime ahead of me to do fullfill them. I'm not in any hurry. :nod: :)

[Laindessiel]

Would you rather have a brain or a mind? :confused:

[Pensive]

Hey Pense, how would you like to go to Neverland on a plane or by boat?
No, thank you. I like to fly. :p

[Laindessiel]

Yeah I realized that just about when I posted the question. :D :D

So, can you answer the previous query?

[AimusSage]

I'll take the brain, and the mind will grow eventually, a mind cannot exist without a brain.

Joe Satriani or Steve Vai?

[Laindessiel]

Steve Vai, I guess. He's a Grammy winner!

If given the chance, would you rather travel back to the past and correct all the mistakes of the world or travel to the future and see what's in store?

[AimusSage]

Preferably neither, but if I had to, I'd go to the future, have some fun, see what things are like, get really drunk, forget all about what I saw, and wake up back in the present. :D

Would you give all your feelings and emotions away for ultimate power over everything?

[Laindessiel]

What? You've got to be kidding me!!!! I would be non-existant without emotions so there's no point in living and having everything! In fact, "emotional" is my middle name. :nod:

Why wouldn't you travel "Somewhere in time"? (Get it?) :D

Would you rather read short stories by Neil Gaiman or the a Harry Potter book?

[AimusSage]

Why wouldn't you travel "Somewhere in time"? (Get it?) :D
No, please explain :p


Would you rather read short stories by Neil Gaiman or the a Harry Potter book?

Neil Gaiman by far. Harry Potter, has been deemed to boring and predictable by me.

Would you travel trough time knowing you can never return to the present you once lived in?

[Laindessiel]

No, please explain :p


You are located "somewhere in time", soooo... you can travel at anytime. :)



Neil Gaiman by far. Harry Potter, has been deemed to boring and predictable by me.

Would you travel trough time knowing you can never return to the present you once lived in?

I agree. I even memorized the lines already. But that doesn't make it less intersting to read.


For your query: NEEEEVER!!! Have you watched the movie An Angel For May? The kid got so attached to the past he can't decide if he wants to "his time" anymore!

Would you rather go to Disneyland or Neverland, and NEVER come back? :lol:

(Getting to you now.)

[Pensive]

You are located "somewhere in time", soooo... you can travel at anytime. :)




I agree. I even memorized the lines already. But that doesn't make it less intersting to read.


For your query: NEEEEVER!!! Have you watched the movie An Angel For May? The kid got so attached to the past he can't decide if he wants to "his time" anymore!

Would you rather go to Disneyland or Neverland, and NEVER come back? :lol:

(Getting to you now.)
If you visit Neverland, you have to visit earth at times for fuel, otherwise Neverland-ish guards will kick you out by themselves. Scary, isn't it? :p

[AimusSage]

You are located "somewhere in time", soooo... you can travel at anytime. :)
What if I am caught somewhere in time? :D


For your query: NEEEEVER!!! Have you watched the movie An Angel For May? The kid got so attached to the past he can't decide if he wants to "his time" anymore!
No I haven't but maybe I should, is it a good movie?

And I'll go to neverland, and reshape it into my own little paradise. Disneyland is overrated anyway, and there is only so much one can do. Also, it's way to expensive to spend eternity there. :D

Forgot the question:

same! :p

[Laindessiel]

Ooooh...so now I know... what is your rank in Neverland, Pense? Seargent Lieutenant? Or General? Hihihi :D

Where's your question?

[Laindessiel]

Yeah, it is a good movie! The kid got trapped in the year 1942 (the time of World War II) in America. And....oh just watch it. Don't wanna spill the juice.

And I would do the same as you have, Aimus. Make it a "Lain-aradise". Hihihi. There, everything I want is within my grasp, material or not material. (But what is the fun with having all the things you want? :()

Would you eat hamburger or a hotdog?

(Will make a more sensible one later. :D)

[AimusSage]

hotdog, but to be honest, Although both are nice, I barely ever eat them. :)

Would you make a sensible question out of something insensible if you were so inclined? :D

[Laindessiel]

Yes, unfortunately for me. I take things seriously, even littlest things, and label them "sensible" if someone hadn't poke my brain out and says it's stupid. So it's no work for me. There's would be no need for inclination at all. ;)

Would you rather make a sensible "would you" question on this thread or just leave it when nothing pops into that skull of yours? :p

[AimusSage]

I prefer to make up my own sensible questions.

Would you rather eat spinach or a full course dinner made out of sheep brains? :eek:

[Madhuri]

I am a vegetarian so spinach for me...:D

Would you rather go for a portrait made for you or use a digital camera to take a picture??

[Laindessiel]

Are you kidding me again? I lurve spinach! Provided it's not overcooked. :thumbs_up:

Would you rather read Stephen King or Oscar Wilde at this very moment?

[Pensive]

Ooooh...so now I know... what is your rank in Neverland, Pense? Seargent Lieutenant? Or General? Hihihi :D

Where's your question?
Hello no! I had not realized that people on the earth don't even know that Pensive is the queen of Neverland. :p

She doesn't call herself "The Great" for no reason at all. ;) :p


Would you rather read Stephen King or Oscar Wilde at the moment?
Stephen King, and I might read Different Seasons by SK tonight.

Same Question.

[Laindessiel]

I am a vegetarian so spinach for me...:D

Would you rather go for a portrait made for you or use a digital camera to take a picture??

I've never had a portrait so I would gladly hang it in my room.

Next person answer my query.

[Laindessiel]

Hello no! I had not realized that people on the earth don't even know that Pensive is the queen of Neverland. :p

She doesn't call herself "The Great" for no reason at all. ;) :p


Is she? I mean, are you?

Wow, sisters! I'm a queen too! :p :p

[Pensive]

Wow, sisters! I'm a queen too! :p :p
I have no objection to it. I am a peaceful queen, not into fights. I am satisfied with my land, I need not to conquer other lands. So I remain on good terms with queens/kings of all worlds. :p

[AimusSage]

I have no objection to it. I am a peaceful queen, not into fights. I am satisfied with my land, I need not to conquer other lands. So I remain on good terms with queens/kings of all worlds. :p

Mymy Pensive, how you have changed. :p

Get back to question girls, no chitchatting in this thread, take it up in the live thread if you have to.

The current question is:

Who would you rather read right now: Stephen King or Oscar Wilde?

[Laindessiel]

I hate war-loving royalties.

You have uttered Toni's fate! She is now reading Stephen King, by your suggestion. ;)

Would you rather be a hateful queen or a lowly peasant?

D-U-H. Stupid me.

[Laindessiel]

Yeah, this skipping answers makes my head wobbly.

For your query:

I am now done with Stephen King for the mo' so off to Wildy Wilde now.

Would you read or write now?

[Pendragon]

As I usually do both daily, it's kind of a moot question.

Would you write a great review for an author's book if he promised you a free signed copy, even though you have already determined that the book stinks, but will in all likelyhood, become a best seller?

[Laindessiel]

Like what everyone thinks of Paulo Coelho? His books are number 1's but reader-critics say that he's a born cliche. Even worst writer of all time! Although I have yet to read his books, but based on the reviews I've read, I don't think so. He's a born naturalist.

The answer to your query, Uncle Pen, is no. Why would I want to have an author's signature if I loathe him? :)

The same question....

[Kelly_Sprout]

It would depend on several factors, I suppose.

Monitary: Can I successfully negotiate a very small percentage of royalties?
Fame: Do I like the author, in general, such as Tom Clancy or Steven King?
Collectiblitiy: Is the author's autograph considered valuable?
Reciprocal Effect: Will the author consider writing a review for my book in return?
Politically Expedient: Will being associated with poorly-written best seller potentially damage my own reputation as a writer, hurting my own sales?
Flattery: Did the author have other options, but valued my opinion enough to come to me?
Sincerity: Do I happen to like the book, even knowing that others won't? Do I think its success will be justified?

These would all be factors, each with their own weighted values, that would probably come into play as I make my decision. Since this is hypothetical and we don't know at this moment who the author is or what the work is, I have no way of determining what course of action I would ultimately take.

But I wouldn't out-of-hand exclude the option!



New Question:
They say that everyone has a price (and it isn't always monitary.) How much of whatever would it take to get you to do something anti-social, immoral, illegal or violent? Assume, for the sake of this question, that consequences don't matter and that you will actually receive your "price".

[Jean-Baptiste]

That is a very difficult question, especially so with the wide scope that you've bound it to. I might have a much lower price for the illegal than for the violent (I'm quite a passive person, it's pathetic.) Then we would have to narrow things further to determine what sort of violence is at hand. Socking a guy in the nose, if he really deserved it, like Holden should have done, might be executed at a very reasonable price, compared to say armed robbery. Let's say the task is armed robbery then. My price is high: I knock over the liquor store down the street, with its $1200 on hand,and recieve in return the $25000 copy of Ioannis Francisci Pici Miranduale de morte Christi & propria cogitanda libri tres. Eiusdem de studio divinae & humanae philosophiae libri duo. by Pico della Mirandola that I've had my eye on.

Deal?

Same Question

[Pendragon]

Well. If we scratch "immoral" from the list, leaving "anti-social, illegal or violent", I am only human, as I have pointed out so many times. I do not know why members of the clergy like to present themselves as above temptation, or why people regard them as being that way, being a preacher doesn't make me divine. I have needs and things that I go through that I wish were gone, and that I would do almost anything to rid myself of that burden. My price is complete and total freedom from this accursed illness—no more pills, no more episodes, no more hospitalizations; back to work making an honest day's pay for an honest day's labor. You might find that a little selfish. You haven't lived my life for the past 12 years.

Pass the question.

[Laindessiel]

I'm done with it. :)

Would you stay up all night to read a book and finish it or to stay up all night and write a poem and finish it? (No deadlines for both tasks.)

[Serenata]

Would and have.


Would you spend three years homeless?

[Laindessiel]

Hello Serenata! :wave:

Homeless, as in no material shelter, or homeless as in no family around you?

For the former and the latter, never.

Would you rather listen to Beethoven or T'chaikovsky?

[Kelly_Sprout]

Beethoven. Being deaf, he talked funny and it was always fun to listen to him.


Fred Astaire or Michael Flatley?

[RobinHood3000]

FRED ASTAIRE, without a doubt!!

Jimmy Stewart or Cary Grant?

[Jean-Baptiste]

Stewart.

Euclid or Archimedes?

[RobinHood3000]

Nuts, wrong thread. I'll take the above as, "Would you go streaking?", for which the answer would be a "No...well, not in public, anyway..."

Same question.

[Serenata]

Hello Serenata! :wave:

Hi back!:banana:


As for the streaking thing, I don't think so. I'm not into exhibitionism.

[mir]

streaking . . . ? Probably not. depends who asks . . . :D

[Misscaroline]

I second that, mir...:D

[Pendragon]

Yah, at 6 foot and 351 pounds, I'm sure that's going to happen...:rolleyes: About the same time a thousand-foot beanstalk carries my mobile home off into fairyland...:blush: Not in a coal-mine at midnight during a lunar eclipse! :D I already have enough issues without the fallout from the headlines: SCIENTISTS SUSCPECT NEANDERTHAL LOOSE IN SMALL VIRGINIA TOWN! REPORTS OF LARGE WHITE, HAIRY BUTT-NAKED APE IN VICINITY!

Would you go on a hunger strike for a cause you believed in?

[Misscaroline]

Where'd I put those bean seeds...? Oh, :blush: I mean...

And absolutely. I don't have to eat all the time, and if it's to prove a point....

But that was a great question. ~sending it along to the next poster~

[SummerSolstice]

I eat out of boredom...*is tackled by several dozen therapists... takes a few minutes to struggle out from under the well-meaning mountain*

<gasps for breath> Gah!! As I was going to say, a just cause would be a much better reason not to eat than a diet. If we're talking a seriously health-threatening length of time, it would have to be a VERY important cause. If it's just a matter of very great discomfort, sure, I can do that.

On a more shallow note:
Would you walk up and talk to grumpy-looking favorite celebrity if you saw him/her on the street, or just watch?

[Misscaroline]

Depends on if I like them or not. If I do, I'd try to cheer them up! Otherwise...

You know what? Pass. I sound like an imbecil...

[Pendragon]

Watch. I've seen some videos, like the one of Sean Pean clocking a photographer and destroying his expensive camera. Better than have one hit me, I would never think "Hey, this guy is loaded! Sue his tail off! I would probably hit back, and they would sue me! You can guess who's going to win that one! :rolleyes:

Would you sing for an audience of several hundred people with no notice or practice?

[Misscaroline]

If I knew the song or could learn it fast enough! I probably would...

Would you rather live a great life and die young, or a dull life and die old? (For those of you who continue to say you are old, then pick a short time from now and answer accordingly.)

[Shadowsarin]

Urgh, awful question. While I want fun, I'm scared of death. But boredom is boring, so I'll die young, providing it isn't that young...

Would you sacrifice a stranger to save a friend?

[Jean-Baptiste]

While I'd always like to sound magnanimous, I probably would do just that. Wait. Do you mean sacrifice as in Black Mass/altar/dagger sort of way? Well, I like my friends quite well, so...


Same question.

[Shalot]

Probably not. I know what my friends are all about having known them for many years and I would take my chances on the stranger.

Would you by something you didn't need at the moment just because it was on sale? And do you have a spare toothbrush?

[B-Mental]

A great life and die middlish. Young to me, but old to others. How's that?

Would you take a job in a miserable place, if you got to spend half of each year anywhere you want?

[dramasnot6]

If it was miserable in terms of working hours and pay why would it be worth being anywhere you want?

Here's a classic. If your house was on fire, and all the living things safe, what would be the one thing youd save?

[Nightshade]

Myself

:goof:

same Q

[Serenata]

My poetry notebook.

[Pendragon]

If everything living is safe, nothing is worth risking my life in a fire. But if even one of my hamsters is in there, I'd try to get him out. I do have a knife that is all I have of my dad. I suppose it would be top priority. My books took a long time to collect, but they can be replaced. That knife can't.

Anyone else? It's a good question!

[Shadowsarin]

My computer tower. I have a lot of stuff on it that was an utter ***** to get, including my music libery. I feel that out of all my belongings, it would be the hardest to replace.

Same question!

[drillteamcaptin]

okay, so things are slowing down around here lately, so i jacked a game or two from another forum.....

Would You:

sleep with a stranger for $1000.00?

it would have do dipened on how hot they were...

[papayahed]

I would save my Grandma's Rosary.

If you had to eat only peanut butter and jelly or Tuna fish for a month straight which would you choose?

[Jean-Baptiste]

Tough choice! These are two of my favorites. I would go with tuna for a month's restriction. it seems that there are many more variations that one could use for tuna. Although, there are many things that could be done to pb&j also. I'll still go with tuna. Can I have a variety of breads, mustards, spices, cheeses, and vegetables to incorporate into it? We're not talking just plain old tuna and bread, are we? In that case I would go with peanut butter and jelly.

Same question.

[Shalot]

I'll take the tuna just because it has less fat (provided it's not tuna in oil). Don't want to have peanut butter every day and gain weight. It's easier to put on than it is to take off.

would you fake cry in front of a police officer just to get out of a ticket?

[dramasnot6]

only if it was at the point of losing my license

[dramasnot6]

would you take a bullet for a stranger?

[Shalot]

only if it was a child.

Would you stay out of work just to surf the Internet?

[dramasnot6]

Not unless i came across something very, very important that i needed to check out or just wanted a day off and had nothing better to do.

Would you do what most embaresses you on national TV if to save the life of someone you didnt know anything about?

[Pendragon]

Life is precious to me. My dignity will heal. They may be a stranger to me, but that doesn't make them any less human.

Would you try to conquer a fear, like say, of spiders, by going into a pet shop and asking to hold a tarantula? (I did this, that's why I ask. And I didn't freak out and kill the spider, even when it shocked me by suddenly walking up my arm. I haven't repeated the experiment, but spiders don't bother me as bad.)

[Misscaroline]

Absolutely. The best way, for me at least, to face a fear is to meet it head on. I intend on facing the roots of one of my greatest before the year is out, because I need someone there just in case I can't handle the situation. The circumstances have yet to arise for that. But I do face anything I find a fear of. Telling someone your true feelings for instance...

Same question. (Great one, Pen!)

[Madhuri]

I am not sure if it will conquer fear, but I will give it a try.

If you knew a guy or a girl for very long - say 8-9 yrs, and you were friends initially and then for say a yr or two there was seriousness, as in a relationship, and then one day he/she tells you that they got engaged with someone else, giving you excuses and that they couldnt take a stand, and now, they insist that you are still in their heart and would like things continue as normal as earlier, despite this person already being engaged. Would you like it and still continue or be in a relation with this person??

[dramasnot6]

I would never be in a romantic relationship with someone who was engaged. Thatd be terrible....imagine how youd feel if you were the person they were engaged too....

Would you see the mother cow that would be served as your dinner and have it slaughtered in front of your eyes if it was the best steak youd ever eat?

[AimusSage]

Definitely! I really like knowing how the perfect steak came into existence. :nod:

Would you go all the way to the end of the world and shout out your deepest feelings for all the world to hear?

[Madhuri]

Why not? But i'll make my feelings known to the person first. If those feelings are for a certain someone. If not then i'll go right ahead and do it...:D

Aimus, talking about feelings....a pleasant surprise.....:)

So let the next poster reply to the same.

[AimusSage]

Aimus, talking about feelings....a pleasant surprise.....:)
I talk about feelings all the time! :p


So let the next poster reply to the same.
I won't do it. It is cold at the end of the world, there is nobody around, except for pinguins and polar bears, and above all, it's better to be near, than far away. :)

Would you go out into town and make someone smile?

[dramasnot6]

I love making people smile! Theyre contagious! thats why :D is my favorite smiley! Even after getting braces i havent cut back on any everyday smiling, only in photos. When a perfect stranger smiles at me it stirs a wonderful sense of worth and contentment, and an even better feeling when you can do the same! :D:D:D

Would you go in costume to a regular, casual party just to bring some life to it?