Personal and Anonymous

[muhsin]

Keep the good job, shce!

Any way, have a question to ask; can I just submit my story without forwarding it to you? I kinda feel the story is not so confidential to require anonymity. xnks!

[Scheherazade]

Of course, Muhsin! Anyone can start their own threads on the issues they would like to discuss. This thread is only for those who would like to remain anonymous.

[Scheherazade]

I have been informed that:

the child is eight and lives on mcdonalds and has more toys than Wal-Mart, but usually just watches TV or plays video games.

[kiz_paws]

Well, depending on how close you are to your sister, something should be said for the good of the child (after all, she is very young). I say this because one of my sisters is approachable, and the other -- well, it would be like poking a hornet nest...

But, assuming that you can speak openly with your sister, gently voice your concerns, underlining your love and concern for the child. I am sure that your sister would know that you only want what is best for the child. But I would tread lightly, as the weight issue could be a very delicate matter.

I feel that when Love motivates us to do something, things just have a way of going smoothly in the long run.

[papayahed]

When I was that age my mom was pretty busy and I pretty much had to fend for myself, I lived on Spaghettio's and mini raviolis becuase it was easy and it tasted good. I didn't know how to cook or had guidance on what I should have been making. I don't know if that's the same issue but maybe you could get the child enrolled in cooking classes designed for kids or maybe have theme nights where you cook a meal from scratch. Show the child there is more out there then just McDonalds.

[Niamh]

No, no, no, no, no! A kid should NOT be living on macdonalds! That alone to me is child abuse. I understand that maybe the sister is very busy, and might not have as much time to cook for the child, but for someone who doesnt want their child to be taunted in school for being over weight, she is definitely going about it the wrong way. Too much fatty meats (like too much burgers) is so bad for anyone, causing anything from a fatty liver to blocked arterys.
I have seen so many obese children it maks me cry. the latest kid was walking past the entrance to departures with his parents. He couldnt even walk or bend his arms properly and was panting as he wobbled alone, he was so fat. It was disgusting. the poor child wasnt even ten i recon.

[aBIGsheep]

My stepfather hates my guts and is always screaming at me about how I should be always doing housework and how much I fail to be human (or how ugly and useless I am, you know). When he's out of work (I mean on his free day) he drinks and doesn't allow me to go on the internet or watch television. He also takes out all his rage on me when he has a bad day or something like that. I can't talk back to him or he goes insane. He screams at my mother too, he's very controlling. My mother is a very clingy person and won't let me move in with my father (or date or have any life that's not about her), she says my problems are her problems and she'll do something about it because she can't live like that. The problem is she doesn't do anything! What should I do?

Its not your stepfather's or your mother's fault. You're the change that you want to be. If you want to change a situation and have exhausted absolutely ALL of your options then leave it.

It seems pretty extreme but your stepfather should have no reason to treat you like that. Nobody should treat anyone like that. Child protective services? Consoling? Tell someone you could actually trust? I dunno. But if you're not doing anything to solve your problems then your problems will only get worse.

[Shalot]

No, no, no, no, no! A kid should NOT be living on macdonalds! That alone to me is child abuse. I understand that maybe the sister is very busy, and might not have as much time to cook for the child, but for someone who doesnt want their child to be taunted in school for being over weight, she is definitely going about it the wrong way. Too much fatty meats (like too much burgers) is so bad for anyone, causing anything from a fatty liver to blocked arterys.
I have seen so many obese children it maks me cry. the latest kid was walking past the entrance to departures with his parents. He couldnt even walk or bend his arms properly and was panting as he wobbled alone, he was so fat. It was disgusting. the poor child wasnt even ten i recon.

I thought the obesity epidemic was only here in the United States. Do you have a lot of obesity in Ireland also?

Anyway, about the mcdonald's...maybe they could switch to Subway?

[Niamh]

I thought the obesity epidemic was only here in the United States. Do you have a lot of obesity in Ireland also?

Anyway, about the mcdonald's...maybe they could switch to Subway?

Its a general problem. Mainly in the uk though but we do have it. but alot of the obese and extremely obese people i see in the airport are not from Ireland. Sadly enough most of them are actually American. And boy, have i seen some disgustingly obese people. With some i have often wondered if they had to pay for extra seats when flying because there is no WAY in hell they could fit into one seat.
Subway is just as bad.

[Shalot]

Its a general problem. Mainly in the uk though but we do have it. but alot of the obese and extremely obese people i see in the airport are not from Ireland. Sadly enough most of them are actually American. And boy, have i seen some disgustingly obese people. With some i have often wondered if they had to pay for extra seats when flying because there is no WAY in hell they could fit into one seat.
Subway is just as bad.

Something similar was happening to my niece. Our great aunt was picking her up after school and taking her to McDonalds after school everyday, and she was getting round. Her mom stepped in though and put a stop to the McDonalds trips everyday. I think Subway is just a little better. A turkey sandwich has to beat chicken nuggets and french fries.

It's crazy here - you have to make an effort to not be fat here.

[Niamh]

Thats nuts. Its starting to go that way here too. People just claim to not have the time to cook for would eat lots of take aways or fast food or ready meals. They are so bad for you. All i can say is that i'm glad i got diagnosed with IBS becasue since then i've more or less cut ALL of these things out of my diet...(well except the odd chinese!) and have lost over a stone.

[blazeofglory]

There are things, all of have funny things, bizarre ones we ordinarily refrain from sharing and until you come upon or in a very informal group with whom you can associate with. Indeed the idea of being anonymous and sharing something unsharable or doing something undoable is something mindbogglingly. That is how we unroll ourselves. But we roll up ourselves internally.

[motherhubbard]

How much is a stone? I've been working to lose some extra pounds and I’ve been reaching all of my goals so far. I’m worried about the school year starting. College has been a fattening experience for me.

We’ve been eating some take out lately. Normally we never ever eat fast food, but I’ve had to go to town every day for the past two weeks. It’s killing me! It makes me feel gross and my kids look at me like I’m a slacker that doesn’t have their best interest in mind. Some days I’m thinking more about hot cooking.

[Scheherazade]

There are 14 pounds in one stone.

Blaze> Say what?

[lugdunum]

With some i have often wondered if they had to pay for extra seats when flying because there is no WAY in hell they could fit into one seat.

I worked in a theme park in the US for a while and we often had to deny access to some rides to kids (and adults) who just didn't fit in the seat. It was really sad! The most popular rides would even have a couple of wider seats (aka "fat seats") so that bigger people would be able to ride.

Papayahed
I don't know if that's the same issue but maybe you could get the child enrolled in cooking classes designed for kids or maybe have theme nights where you cook a meal from scratch. Show the child there is more out there then just McDonalds.

That's a good idea! There are plenty of cooking classes and they teach you how to come up with healthy, easy-to-make meals. And it's also a good way for your sister to spend time with her daughter.

Eating out can be an occasionaloption if you really don't have time, but nothing forbids you to choose the (most) healthy option.

And no this doesn't mean drinking diet Coke with your quarter pounder with cheese and fries

Here's an interesting link:
http://www.helpguide.org/life/fast_food_nutrition.htm


Has anyone seen the movie "Supersize me"? Makes you think twice before eating lots of junk food for a while!