Personal and Anonymous

[Scheherazade]

Are there any problems or dilemmas you face?

Choices and decisions to be made?

Things you would like to talk about but you would like to remain anonymous?

In this thread we can talk about them.

Please PM the issues you would like to be discussed by Sunday each week

and

I will post them here (without giving your name) every Monday.

- I will keep your identity confidential and will not share this information with anyone.

- If I receive more than one PMs in a particular week, I will pick one of them.

- In your PM, please explain the issue the way you would like it to appear in the thread (I will be quoting directly without including your name).

- Please bear in mind that you may not always like the replies or reactions you receive in the thread as people will be offering their honest opinions.

- Those of you who give advice or offer guidance, please keep in mind that even though their identity may not be revealed, these will be our friends' problems and need to be dealt with uttermost sensitively.

[Nightshade]

Will this begin this week then?

[AimusSage]

Do intergalactic wars count as actual issues that can be debated? If so, are the people that discuss the issue sufficiently aware of the mannerisms that are involved in proper galactic diplomatic relations?

[Taliesin]

Aimus, remember, we aren't allowed to discuss current politics!

[Scheherazade]

Will this begin this week then?

Yes if we get any PMs by tomorrow. If not, we will start next week.

Do intergalactic wars count as actual issues that can be debated? If so, are the people that discuss the issue sufficiently aware of the mannerisms that are involved in proper galactic diplomatic relations?

Aimus, remember, we aren't allowed to discuss current politics!

Well, Tal has answered your question, Aimus. No current politics, intergalactic or otherwise!

[muhsin]

Good idea! Keep it up, Schenerazade.

[dramasnot6]

Nice idea,Scher.

[Niamh]

I think this is a fab idea!

[Scheherazade]

Here is first week's PM:

I find I am secretly attracted to my best friend's brother but I don't think my friend would like it.

If you have any suggestions please share them with us.

[AimusSage]

you know, the best way to find out if he is okay with it is to give your friend a Pan-galactic gargle blaster! If he survives, you can tell him about your secret attraction, and he will surely be more receptive to the idea.

Then move on to the brother and do the same.

Pan-Galactic Gargle Blaster. Perfect for all your troubles.

(you can also use regular drinks if you like, but the effect is likely to be diminished, use various settings, such as bars or restaurants or a more quiet evening on the couch. All can be very effective.)

[kilted exile]

In general I try not to date relatives of friends. I dated one of my college roommates sister for a while, it didnt work out (obviously) and things got kinda awkward afterwards.

[blazeofglory]

This is really fabulous. We all have secrets and all we want to secretly express them and this is the chance we have to cash in on.

[Niamh]

well my question is, does he like her? (assuming its a her) Maybe if the friend saw how much they liked each other, and werent doing anything about it, they might not mind so much. I mean the poster says they are secretly attracted to the brother, but what if the attraction was some what obvious to the watchful eye. I'm assuming the poster is shy and likes to keep their feeling to themselves.

[papayahed]

You could mention it to the friend and see what the friend says. If friend says "Hey that's cool" then go for it. But if the friend says "I forbid it" then you would have to decide whether you valued the friendship over the chance to date the brother and go from there.

[sprinks]

Kilted provided a bit about a relationship like that not working out, but I have one about it working out!
We were talking in Lit about a similar kind of situation one day. One girl's friend is dating her brother. We all thought it would be awkward for her, having her friend dating her brother, but she said that its pretty good and now she is quite good friends with her brother as the 3 are always together.

So... I hope it all works out for whoever it is

(I would go with papaya's idea. Try and jokingly/casually mention it, see what the reaction is.)