Ladies, what don't you like to be called by men?

[Morden]

I don't know why it is so difficult for men to just avoid using all pet names (dear), terms of affection (honey), fruits (peach), mildly derogatory 'just joking' terms (broad), diminishing terms (dearie), distancing terms (the Missus). and others, when speaking to and referring to women other than their loved ones. And I would never use 'broad.' Not never!

I don't think any man should regard himself as that much of a god that women should swoon at his feet and automatically forgive him his language.

But then again I am just an old f**t by now.

[papayahed]

A coworker sometime refers to his wife as "My Bride", kinda cute, no? (they've been married 20+ years)

[Virgil]

A coworker sometime refers to his wife as "My Bride", kinda cute, no? (they've been married 20+ years)

I had a co-worker who referred to his wife as his first wife. He was only married that one time and though he had been married something like 20 years he felt it should always be a consideration. I never did meet his wife, so I don't know what she thought of it. Of course he said it with a twinkle in his eye.

[Janine]

Papaya, I've heard men use that term My Bride before and I thought it was rather sweet too. It's like they stay eternally young; well if they were married young, that is.

Virgil, I am not sure about that guy calling his only wife his first wife. That would spook me; I would think either I don't have long to live or else I am dombed in some other way. I don't particularly think it's too funny. But the guy is probably a kidder and he just is making a sort of joke. Hope his poor wife doesn't hear it.

I know this married couple, who always crack me up. She is Jewish and he is Christian, so his wife refers to him (very lovingly) as the Gentile. They both are nice people who love to be sweet with each other. I always got such a kick out of it, but that was personal to them, so no offense was ever intended.

[Annamariah]

I've been researching because I'm curious
So Lapland is the Northern province, right? Laplandish would be a Finnish dialect? Are there many dialects there?

Finnish sounds as an interesting tongue. Professor Tolkien once said he had become "quite intoxicated with its sounds". I suppose that's why he picked it to be somewhat a basis for his Quenya.
Is it true that Finnish stresses words always on the first syllable? Are there any exceptions?

Yes, northern part of Finland is called Lapland, but Lapland extends to Sweden, Norway and Russia too. There's the northern dialect of Finnish, but there's also a whole different language called Sami. I'm not sure which one the word "eno" meaning "river" comes from, though.

There are several dialects of Finnish. They are divided into eastern and western dialects, or more spesifically into seven different groups. All the dialects are different, but not different enough to prevent Finns from understanding each other. Dialects are mostly spoken, and most of the written text is in "standard language" that is the same everywhere. Everyone knows the standard language, but no one really speaks it. As I've mentioned before, in Finnish written and spoken language are rather different.

Yes, the stress is always on the first syllable. The only exceptions would be some loanwords that come from other languages, but mostly even those are "Finnished" so that they fit the Finnish pronunciation

[grace86]

It depends on what the circumstance is on whether or not I dislike being called something. If it is a relationship sweet kind of thing..I don't think I'd mind being called any of the options on the poll....now...if it is some guy just hitting on me.....well...that's different.

[Maximilianus]

I don't think any man should regard himself as that much of a god that women should swoon at his feet and automatically forgive him his language.

Agreed!

But then again I am just an old f**t by now.

I'm sure you're not, but even if you were, your opinion is valuable as well

A coworker sometime refers to his wife as "My Bride", kinda cute, no? (they've been married 20+ years)

Very cute

I had a co-worker who referred to his wife as his first wife. He was only married that one time and though he had been married something like 20 years he felt it should always be a consideration. I never did meet his wife, so I don't know what she thought of it. Of course he said it with a twinkle in his eye.

Often a wife keeps for herself whatever she thinks about her husband, for obvious reasons, unless they've reached some sort of agreement about certain jokes... when they are just jokes

Papaya, I've heard men use that term My Bride before and I thought it was rather sweet too. It's like they stay eternally young; well if they were married young, that is.

Virgil, I am not sure about that guy calling his only wife his first wife. That would spook me; I would think either I don't have long to live or else I am dombed in some other way. I don't particularly think it's too funny. But the guy is probably a kidder and he just is making a sort of joke. Hope his poor wife doesn't hear it.

I know this married couple, who always crack me up. She is Jewish and he is Christian, so his wife refers to him (very lovingly) as the Gentile. They both are nice people who love to be sweet with each other. I always got such a kick out of it, but that was personal to them, so no offense was ever intended.

I have heard some men referring to their wives as "my bride, my wife and my lover". Some of them surely mean it so as to apply it outside of a sheer comment, while others say it in a condescending way, so as to deceive their wives while they have their furtive adventures outdoors

It depends on what the circumstance is on whether or not I dislike being called something. If it is a relationship sweet kind of thing..I don't think I'd mind being called any of the options on the poll....now...if it is some guy just hitting on me.....well...that's different.

Thanks for posting and taking the poll!

[Virgil]

Virgil, I am not sure about that guy calling his only wife his first wife. That would spook me; I would think either I don't have long to live or else I am dombed in some other way. I don't particularly think it's too funny. But the guy is probably a kidder and he just is making a sort of joke. Hope his poor wife doesn't hear it.

Yes he was a kidder. I never saw the wife so i don't know what her reaction was.

[Maximilianus]

Yes, northern part of Finland is called Lapland, but Lapland extends to Sweden, Norway and Russia too. There's the northern dialect of Finnish, but there's also a whole different language called Sami. I'm not sure which one the word "eno" meaning "river" comes from, though.

There are several dialects of Finnish. They are divided into eastern and western dialects, or more spesifically into seven different groups. All the dialects are different, but not different enough to prevent Finns from understanding each other. Dialects are mostly spoken, and most of the written text is in "standard language" that is the same everywhere. Everyone knows the standard language, but no one really speaks it. As I've mentioned before, in Finnish written and spoken language are rather different.

Thanks for explaining. Now I know a lil more about linguistics

Yes, the stress is always on the first syllable. The only exceptions would be some loanwords that come from other languages, but mostly even those are "Finnished" so that they fit the Finnish pronunciation

Hmm... so the Finns finish words with a "Finnished" finish

[Annamariah]

Hmm... so the Finns finish words with a "Finnished" finish

Yup, and it's better to be Finnish than finished

[Virgil]

Yup, and it's better to be Finnish than finished

Good one!!

[Maximilianus]

Yup, and it's better to be Finnish than finished

I have a hunch that being finished must be painful , so I'd rather be "Finnished"

[Annamariah]

I have a hunch that being finished must be painful , so I'd rather be "Finnished"

Your smiley could as well be Finnished than finished, we do have some cold winters here, you see

[Maximilianus]

Your smiley could as well be Finnished than finished, we do have some cold winters here, you see

Believe it or not I was talking to the smiley lately... and guess what it told me when I asked about its birthplace! ... up there in the north of the planet...

[JuniperWoolf]

"Honey" makes me feel like a wife, which would be alright if I was a wife and my husband were the one calling me such, but in any other context it would seem awkward.