Is is ok for a grown man to cry?

[Scheherazade]

Let me tell you, I'm not surprised you picked this. Actually knowing you, I bet you apply it for women as well. You're one tough lady and I really respect that.

Oh, Gawd...

My post was a mere (and feeble) attempt at humour after reading the first option in your poll: "No, never, it violates the rules of masculinity."

Otherwise, I really don't care who cries, where and when. To be honest, I find it rather amusing that we have a thread dedicated to the discussion of "male crying".

I believe any man (and woman) who is comfortable in their masculinity (and femininity) will not have such preconceived / prescribed "rules" as "Thou shall not cry in public."

Crying is just another emotional need; if it is OK to show one's happiness, anger, impatience, annoyance and so on, why not their sadness? When one is happy, they can laugh loudly; when one is sad or frustrated, one can cry too.

[TheFifthElement]

The human race is doomed.

[Virgil]

Oh, Gawd...

My post was a mere (and feeble) attempt at humour after reading the first option in your poll: "No, never, it violates the rules of masculinity."

Otherwise, I really don't care who cries, where and when. To be honest, I find it rather amusing that we have a thread dedicated to the discussion of "male crying".

I believe any man (and woman) who is comfortable in their masculinity (and femininity) will not have such preconceived / prescribed "rules" as "Thou shall not cry in public."

Crying is just another emotional need; if it is OK to show one's happiness, anger, impatience, annoyance and so on, why not their sadness? When one is happy, they can laugh loudly; when one is sad or frustrated, one can cry too.

Well, you're still one tough lady. Sure it's ok to show ones sadness. But how is the question.

The truth about crying is here:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lpy3OqSPd-U

That's right, that's a perfect characterization of a man crying.

[librarius_qui]

Oh, Gawd...

My post was a mere (and feeble) attempt at humour after reading the first option in your poll: "No, never, it violates the rules of masculinity."

Of course it was, & it was very good!
And IT IS the first (and second) law of manhood: "thou shalt not cry"!

Ev'ryone knows that! Or should ...

[Shalot]

Everybody has to cry. It's a release. Sometimes you just got to. Ever seen Dane Cook's Vicious Circle stand up comedy show? He does a bit on crying. It's on youtube. There's some language but it it's funny:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S9MkUpzfsfk

Edit: Oh - I just saw that someone else posted the Dane Cook bit on crying. Oh well - it's okay. There's two links in case one should fail...

[librarius_qui]

The first rule of masculinity is - You do not cry. The second rule of masculinity is - You do not cry...

& all right: I do cry when watching certain movies, I mean, there are certain movies that, unexpectedly make me cry. Sometimes expectedly.

Human being cries when he's face to face with ... himself, I think. Or with what he isn't, but believes possible to be(come). Or to reach.

Even so, last time it happened when I was among people, I tried to hide the tears. It was tough!

A man doesn't cry!

-x-

Once, I was in a theatre room, and the movie was so exciting (inspiring, somehow, it was a battle scene), that I had to stand up, and go to the side of the room. I did so. I could not be sitting. I had to be in battle position!

(...)

That was funny.

And in some movies I cry (scream) outloud of fun, in battle scenes (LotR). And in others I laughed all the time! (Indiana Jones and the Skull Whatever ...)~

[Scheherazade]

Well, you're still one tough lady.

Yeah, tough like an overdone steak.

& all right: I do cry when watching certain movies, I mean, there are certain movies that, unexpectedly make me cry. Sometimes expectedly.

Care to name some?

[Chava]

I have seen so many men cry, and never thought it a poor thing. Anyone who cries will have reason to do so, and I believe that connectivity with ones emotions is a valuable thing. How many times have we not been struck by something and wished that tears would roll down our cheeks instead of clutch at our throats and flood us with unreleasable sadness?

[librarius_qui]

Care to name some?

Can you keep secrets?

[Virgil]

Yeah, tough like an overdone steak.

I bet this was modeled after you.

[papayahed]

I bet this was modeled after you.

OH NO! Are you suggesting Scher is old enough to be the model for Rosie the riveter???

[Virgil]

Ok, Papaya, get me in trouble. And once she gets mad at me, I may have to break the rules of masculinity and break down and cry.

[seanlol]

there is a time when it is ok to weep.

[*Classic*Charm*]

I don't know what I think about this thread...

Of course it's perfectly acceptable and normal for men to cry, but I won't lie- I have no idea what to do with myself when I see a man crying. If a woman cries, it's easy- you put your arms around her. But I'm lost when I see a man cry.

I see it at work, when men have pet's that are sick or if they've just lost a pet, and it's so sad, to see a man cry when his dog dies. It absolutely breaks my heart.

[SleepyWitch]

Of course it's perfectly acceptable and normal for men to cry, but I won't lie- I have no idea what to do with myself when I see a man crying. If a woman cries, it's easy- you put your arms around her. But I'm lost when I see a man cry.

yeah. I have no problem with my hubby crying. Most of the time it's my fault anyway because I made him cry.
But I don't even know what to do with myself when e.g. my boss admits that he has a cold. I don't know what to do when 'tough' guys admit weakness they might be embarrassed if I show that I understood that they've just admitted they are not 100% tough. So I usually just grunt like guys do.
Plus, one can't go hugging random men because they might misunderstand it.