how happy are you

[kilted exile]

I voted for rather happy, but I think content would probably be a better way of putting it. There are some things missing in my life ( I would like a serious, stable relationship - think I am finally at a stage now where I could deal with it, unfortunately the face kinda destroys most chance of that occuring).

Some stuff I havent mentioned previously: The job I originally moved out here to do fell through. I am now in the crazy world of retail management. Receiving Manager of a well known store in this country. I am in fact just back home an hour ago after starting at 7 this morning. It is these circumstances that got me so annoyed when Sweets posted about rather being homeless than work a menial service industry job like flipping burgers. Life for me is fine though, I make enough money to live, I dont bring my work home with me, I get the weekends to myself, time to read at the weekend & enjoy myself etc. Just gotta sort out the relationship bit & all will be perfect.

[Virgil]

It does not surprise me that the younger people are in the two middle catagories. The transition to adulthood is rather difficult, stressful, and emotional.

[sofia82]

It does not surprise me that the younger people are in the two middle catagories. The transition to adulthood is rather difficult, stressful, and emotional.

Now I feel I am so old

[Gaiam]

I'm envious of all you "very happy" people out there!

[motherhubbard]

I would like a serious, stable relationship - unfortunately the face kinda destroys most chance of that occuring

I, for one, like the face Kilted. You have a handsome happy face! But maybe crawling through sewers should be reconsidered

[Scheherazade]

I think an important part of being happy is that you work hard at it. There are no ready made recipes or formulas for being happy for any of us. In the past, while growing up , I used to expect other people/things determine my happiness status... Parents, friends, teachers, bosses, things I could(not) afford/have determined how (un)happy I was. Whereas now, I know that I am the only one who is responsible for my own (un)happiness... And as long as one expects others make him/her happy, happiness will be hard to come by.

I have learnt that I would rather be in charge of my own life than let others have a say on how I should feel about myself and my life.

Kilted> If having a serious, stable relationship was based on "facial bauty", I am sure most of us would be out in the open! I would like to believe that there is a Shrek or Fiona for each and every one of us out there (I should know! Even I have found one despite being a "witch with hair of snakes and moles on the nose"! )

[dramasnot6]

I agree with Scher. I once read somewhere that "Happiness is a choice that requires effort at times". Like 'greatness', happiness can be something you are born into,achieve and have thrust upon you. I think most people experience all three to some degree over the course of their lives.

Luckily, I have recently,for lack of any word that could completely capture how I have somehow come into such glorious happiness, 'discovered' an exceptional source of happiness that floods every other aspect of my life with joy. I therefore must complain of there being no "Extremely Happy" in the poll

[sofia82]

I'm envious of all you "very happy" people out there!

Hey, don't be envious just be happy

I think an important part of being happy is that you work hard at it. There are no ready made recipes or formulas for being happy for any of us. In the past, while growing up , I used to expect other people/things determine my happiness status... Parents, friends, teachers, bosses, things I could(not) afford/have determined how (un)happy I was. Whereas now, I know that I am the only one who is responsible for my own (un)happiness... And as long as one expects others make him/her happy, happiness will be hard to come by.

I have learnt that I would rather be in charge of my own life than let others have a say on how I should feel about myself and my life.

Kilted> If having a serious, stable relationship based on "facial bauty", I am sure most of us would be out in the open! I would like to believe that there is a Shrek or Fiona for each and every one of us out there (I should know! Even I have found one despite being a "witch with hair of snakes and moles on the nose"! )

Exactly, I agree with you. We should make happiness for ourselves no one will create it for us ... when we consider ourselves responsible for our own lives we can be happy ... you work hard at it

[Virgil]

I think an important part of being happy is that you work hard at it. There are no ready made recipes or formulas for being happy for any of us. In the past, while growing up , I used to expect other people/things determine my happiness status... Parents, friends, teachers, bosses, things I could(not) afford/have determined how (un)happy I was. Whereas now, I know that I am the only one who is responsible for my own (un)happiness... And as long as one expects others make him/her happy, happiness will be hard to come by.

I have learnt that I would rather be in charge of my own life than let others have a say on how I should feel about myself and my life.

Very well said Scher. You are exactly correct.

[andave_ya]

I'm very happy. As the majority of us are either very happy or rather happy, think there could be any connection to books?

[motherhubbard]

I think an important part of being happy is that you work hard at it. There are no ready made recipes or formulas for being happy for any of us. In the past, while growing up , I used to expect other people/things determine my happiness status... Parents, friends, teachers, bosses, things I could(not) afford/have determined how (un)happy I was. Whereas now, I know that I am the only one who is responsible for my own (un)happiness... And as long as one expects others make him/her happy, happiness will be hard to come by.

I have learnt that I would rather be in charge of my own life than let others have a say on how I should feel about myself and my life.

I have one chid that has a hard time understanding this and I try very hard to make her 'see the light.' I wonder how you learned this important lesson? You give me hope fo her.

I therefore must complain of there being no "Extremely Happy" in the poll

I would have chosen extremely happy as well!

[sofia82]

I'm very happy. As the majority of us are either very happy or rather happy, think there could be any connection to books?

I think so ... there is a great difference between those who are living with the books and those who are not reading any ... it is the case with the people around me ....

[Weisinheimer]

Ok, so everyone is saying that happiness isn't based on things or circumstances or other people. You are in control of your own happiness. That makes sense, but how to do force yourself to be happy? I've been depressed alot the last few years and I would go through phases when'd I'd think that my life would be so much better if I had a better job, car, more friends, a boyfriend etc. But then I'd realize that'd even if I did have all those things, I'd still be miserable. So I know it's not things that make you happy, but what is it?

[Pensive]

It's all very relative. Can't really generalise.

[aeroport]

Pretty flippin' hyped.