There is no necessary link between the fact that sex is a regulated behavior in all human societies and the concept of marriage. Marriage does give the participants the "right" to expect sexual activity, but sexual activity is sanctioned in many more places than the marriage bed. The regulations that are applicable to any given person differ according to age, gender and status. The rules pertaining to women and sex are different than the rules pertaining to men and sex. This is true in all human societies. Some societies accept the need for sexual activity between men before marriage occurs or during long military campaigns (for example.) The rules differed for their wives, however. Some societies expect(ed) men (even married men) to use prostitutes to siphon off some of their "manly" urges so as not to frighten their wives. If you read Victorian literature, for example, you will find much moralizing about the proper placement of sexual activity. However, you will also find a great deal of literature dedicated to its "improper" placement. Both are equally Victorian attitudes and both must be taken into account when describing what Victorians actually believed...because there is usually a big difference between what is said and what is actually believed and/or practiced. The only way to know is to look at the whole gamut of what was done.
The same is true, by the way, with incest. There is a universal human prohibition against incest and it is also universally practiced with dedicated vigor. So what do we humans actually believe: do we judge by what we say or what we do?




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