Anyone for Coffee? (no boys allowed)

[The Bookinator]

my favourite part of a wedding is henna I just love the smell of it and the colour.

What is henna? A type of flower? The weddings there sound so beautiful... It would be cool to see other types of weddings or how other religions/places traditions affect weddings. Heck, i'm sure they're all very pretty...

[Nightshade]

henna only this isnt bridal henna because Ive only had part of one hand done with bridal the whole hand would be decorated, right Maddie??

In the middle east a Henna ( hen night is that where that name came from??) is an old old old thing where by the night before the wedding the brides family through a womesn party to get the bride ready to get married. Its called henna because it then or rather that day ( now) that the brides henna gets put on. and there are songs and dancing ....its a good night out.

[littlewing53]

awesome nightshade...i think that would be such a blessing that the bride is surrounded by all her female family and friends...chatting, telling stories, and the bride just has to sit there right???...and listen and relax...do the drawings on her hands have meaning...is that the only time that one can draw w/henna on your hands??

[Madhuri]

What is henna? A type of flower? The weddings there sound so beautiful... It would be cool to see other types of weddings or how other religions/places traditions affect weddings. Heck, i'm sure they're all very pretty...

Oh, yes, the brides looks pretty. Henna is not a flower, it's made from henna leaf, its a powder made into a paste and applied on hands and even feet. The designs are very pretty.

Just like what Night has shown.

henna only this bridal henna because Ive only had part of one hand done with bridal the whole hand would be decorated, right Maddie??

You are right, Night, the complete hand uptil elbows and brides also get their feet done.

In the middle east a Henna ( hen night is that where that name came from??) is an old old old thing where by the night before the wedding the brides family through a womesn party to get the bride ready to get married. Its called henna because it then or rather that day ( now) that the brides henna gets put on. and there are songs and dancing ....its a good night out.

The same happens in India too, a night before the marriage, there is a henna party, or mehendi (hindi for henna), or sangeet. It's almost like a festival, everyone is happy, singing and dancing. All the girls, women get their hands painted with henna. In this party usually guys are not allowed, but as soon as singing and dancing starts everone joins in.

awesome nightshade...i think that would be such a blessing that the bride is surrounded by all her female family and friends...chatting, telling stories, and the bride just has to sit there right???...and listen and relax...do the drawings on her hands have meaning...is that the only time that one can draw w/henna on your hands??

No it's not for the wedding only, it can be done on any festive ocassion.

[Madhuri]

One of my maids is Indian, and she is unfamiliar with a Christian wedding, so she is excited to see what it is like. She was telling me about her sister's wedding...she must have looked so beautiful.

Great ! She must be having a whole new experience. Even I have not seen a Christian wedding, the one in white gown. I think the dress type depends upon the place too. I have a Indian Christian friend, he got married a year back, and his wife wore a sari for the wedding, it was in a church. He was telling me that he and his wife had to go to the church for I guess 40 days prior to the wedding, and then there was marriage counseling also by a priest. It was different.

But, I would love to see your pictures, in your wedding gown.

[grace86]

Great ! She must be having a whole new experience. Even I have not seen a Christian wedding, the one in white gown. I think the dress type depends upon the place too. I have a Indian Christian friend, he got married a year back, and his wife wore a sari for the wedding, it was in a church. He was telling me that he and his wife had to go to the church for I guess 40 days prior to the wedding, and then there was marriage counseling also by a priest. It was different.

But, I would love to see your pictures, in your wedding gown.

Yes, we have to do a pre-marriage counseling thing before we get married. My fiance doesn't attend my church (and that is where we are getting married) so he does have to attend for awhile.

For someone unfamiliar with christian weddings, my maid is having so much fun thinking about the parties to plan and the ceremony. So she is very excited. I am taking them all to see my dress this weekend.

I will definitely try to put some pictures up when I get married. I am not completely aware of what exactly we will be doing in the ceremony besides the vows...I know some take communion.

Oh Kathy...not bbq sauce on my gown...I arranged it so that it is chicken and brisket...not messy ribs! I'll wear a bib or something

[Koa]

...but i do remember how fun it was to wear a hat...we could not enter the church unless we had one on...

A hat? That's weird, again in Italy you must take off your hat when you enter a church...

Italy maybe a little more strict.

No wonder

Koa, I didn't think you'd take offense, just being careful because it is never my intention to bother someone.

I still don't see where and how I should have taken offense. Ah no wait, now I get what you were saying

Mmm, not everybody in America is extremely religious, many attend church only on holidays and many people are not religious at all. The thing about America is that it is a huge and diverse nation. The America depicted in the media and pop culture is not particularly representative of the millions of people who live here. .

The America I learnt about in the media is far from religious... until a few years ago at least - it meant excess and novelty and stuff like that. The first time I heard about America being religious I couldn't believe it. But I started to pay more attention and I see it everywhere, in filsm, in forums... I think this forum has a big balance of religious people because of the religion section, though.

Koa, perhaps you have not found your soul mate as of yet, and thus have tainted ideas of living 'forever' with someone. I used to be like that, honest. I used to say that I'd never get married, because I had never found just the right person. Oddly enough, when I was least expecting romance, my husband pranced into my life. I fought it, but he won, and the rest is history. C'est la vie. *hugs to you*

Oh I just needed a good old cliché sentence

[papayahed]

The America I learnt about in the media is far from religious... until a few years ago at least - it meant excess and novelty and stuff like that. The first time I heard about America being religious I couldn't believe it. But I started to pay more attention and I see it everywhere, in filsm, in forums... I think this forum has a big balance of religious people because of the religion section, though.

I found this website :

http://www.adherents.com/rel_USA.html#religions

It says that basically 76% of Americans belong to some type of religion. I'm not sure of the accuracy.

[grace86]

I found this website :

http://www.adherents.com/rel_USA.html#religions

It says that basically 76% of Americans belong to some type of religion. I'm not sure of the accuracy.

76% say that they belong to a religion...one thing I have learned from statistics class is that in doing surveys, people like to fabricate things a bit.

Not trying to be a brat, just kind of sleepy. I know of a lot of people in CA who say they are religious...but there are fewer people who I've seen as religious.

[kathycf]

Belonging to a religion isn't quite the same as actually being a religious person.

The America I learnt about in the media is far from religious... until a few years ago at least - it meant excess and novelty and stuff like that

Well, what I meant to point out was your use of the term "super-mega-religious america". You say you see that in films, which is a fictional portrayal. In other words, I don't think it is an accurate statement. Regarding forum posters, sure, I guess there are many here who consider themselves religious and happen to be American. There are also a number who post that they are atheists...I can't say with any degree of accuracy because that is not a section of the forum I frequent.

Please don't misunderstand, I am not trying to be argumentative. It is that categorizing a nation of millions as "super mega religious" seems a misnomer to me.

[kiz_paws]

Hmmmm maybe we should take this thread back to its COFFEE days, as things are off on all these different tangents....

I didn't mean to hand out a cliche, by the way, koa, I was just trying to be nice.

Coffee is made, help yourself everyone

[kathycf]

I hope there is a pot of decaf on, I can't drink regular coffee this late at night. How about some Finnish coffee bread?



In years past my town had a very large Finnish population, and this bread is sold in many of the convenience stores around here. It is a braid, that is slightly sweet and moist and has cardamon in it. Really, really good.

[dramasnot6]

Thanks kathy! And thanks for the coffee kiz! Don't worry about our lovely tangents, it's all in the conversation of coffee drinking.

[optimisticnad]

yikes!!!!!!!!!!!! wedding talk..............

:-)

[kiz_paws]

Ahhhh, Opti, the laugh that I needed .... merçi beaucoup, mon amie!

Kathy, that bread was totally awesome, wished someone would sell it out my way! (cuz I am too lazy to bake it)

And drama, you are right again, hugs to such a nice girl!

Oh, and by the way, there are many tea drinkers who are not getting their fair shakes (as they say), so I have put on some hot water for a really nice cup of peach blossom tea. This is particularly nice with a smidge of honey! Enjoy