That was a brilliant documentary, although disturbing. His girlfriend's actions made it more tragic.
That was a brilliant documentary, although disturbing. His girlfriend's actions made it more tragic.
I often brood about how tough a man should be. Most of my favourite novels challenge the tough "Jack Reacher" version of manliness. But If im out with a friend and someone starts a fight for no reason (as can happend here), all those interesting masculinity theories aren't going to help me. I also feel I lack a strong father figure which doesnt help.
Hitting people when they attempt to insult my beloved? Or maybe hitting them even when they just try to hit on my beloved.
Oh not to mention telling the opposite gender I like them instead of just like a girl, girlishly, waiting for them to make the first move!
Or maybe just my mustaches.
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I sang of leaves, of leaves of gold, and leaves of gold there grew.
Yes, it does seem so!Originally Posted by Bluehound
Please discuss!
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"It is not that I am mad; it is only that my head is different from yours.”
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Okay!
I don't feel any attachment to the idea of my masculinity, which makes me think it doesn't exist. Then I worry no girl will ever love me if I don't put on some show of masculinity which would be a total charade. Or at least not the girls I want to attract. That's my dilemma.
Next!
I see one's gender as a private business for which none owes an explanation. I do, however, feel a confraternity with most men as fellow souls bearing the experience of our sex. I just wish they'd knock off the whole professional sports thing and deal with their masculinity without the need for canned stadium cheering. And that's my dilemma.
Anyone besides Lykren (since 2012) have the testes to respond to this thread?
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Sports is not a masculine territory... And for most it is a profession, is it not? Rather than a confirmation of their sweaty testosterone infused declaration their masculinity?
PS: There are no tests required to be able to post in this thread... It is open to all!
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"It is not that I am mad; it is only that my head is different from yours.”
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No, I was talking about the perceived need of males to watch professional sports (and specifically American football) on the television all weekend and, as my society would have it, to measure their masculinity against things these utterly weird announcers yell at them while pretending to speak over augmented crowd noises, and while over-paid celebrities lift their bottoms into the air. To me, masculinity is more about sharing your strength.
That, too, is something of a misunderstanding, since my comment simply reflected my surprise that so few men had responded to the question (recently), and certainly not that women should not post on the thread.PS: There are no tests required to be able to post in this thread... It is open to all!
Last edited by Pompey Bum; 12-21-2014 at 03:50 PM.
I don't watch sports (except olympic hockey), I can't fix anything, I can't navigate anything to anywhere, I've never been in a physical fight as an adult and I can't read maps. Despite all of this I feel my personality is suitably masculine though I guess I could be kidding myself.
As far as feeling masculine, I never think about it. I play Super Smash Brothers Melee semi competetively and with my friends and that's a very male experience. And I don't think I've ever even seen a girl at a chess club, which is too bad because a girl beating me at chess would be pretty sexy.
Last edited by Clopin; 12-21-2014 at 03:43 PM.
Couldn't have put it better but maybe my beard will help me, and also the fact that I like being in control like a typical patriarch of yore would. But sorry, no violence, no careless swagger, no messy rooms or disastrous wardrobes for me; in short, no grand displays about having a penis really, and very little of sports, save cricket. But these are secrets I don't reveal!
But you, cloudless girl, question of smoke, corn tassel
You were what the wind was making with illuminated leaves.
ah, I can say nothing! You were made of everything.
_Pablo Neruda
The "manly" virtues include honor, honesty, courage and fortitude. Of course there's no reason that women can't practice them, but as a man I particularly look down on my fellow males for failure in these virtues.
As to what makes me feel masculine: sex. Some women are particularly adept at making their lovers feel good about their masculinity.
My beard, I'm not kidding. One time I had to shave it for a job interview and my confidence went down hill, I used to be pretty shy when I was younger, now I'm going out more, flirting with women more often, etc. But once I lost my beard I don't know I kind of "went backwards." It grew back, its all good now lol.
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