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    Quote Originally Posted by Buh4Bee View Post
    Mark and Neely- My husband and I still on occasion have these sorts of conversations and they are rather annoying. We are all for equality of the sexiest, just most of the time. Haha! But one thing that you'll find in our house is we know whose role is whose. I do do most of the cooking, shopping and laundry and he keeps the fire going, does the garbage and brings in the groceries. May be rather traditional, but it works. It doesn't make anyone feel more or less masculine or feminine.
    I'd suggest it's the clarity of responsibility by task that works, rather than the assignment of task by gender.

    I mean, would it not work just as well if he did most of the cooking, shopping and laundry, and you kept the fire going, did the garbage and brought in the groceries?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Neely View Post
    Ah that's annoying. It's like those sexist adverts that are all the rage - where women mock men and it's all a big laugh. They really get my goat.

    Edit: Here's a debate upon this pressing topic from the horrendous programme Loose Women (which itself is sexist too to my mind). Be warned this is daytime TV at its worse - I lasted 3 minutes before I had to turn off and that's a record.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SEzcOit5LZQ
    I lasted up to 1.29, but obviously the programme is aimed primarily at women and therefore need not be bothered with by men. Let the hens cluck in the farmyard it keeps them out of mischief.
    As for the adverts where women laugh at men, just put it down to another unsubtle piece of the social engineering that has now infected the world of advertising and can be similarly dismissed. It's worth remembering that using words like sexist, racist, and other self-righteous expressions only encourages the politically correct.
    "L'art de la statistique est de tirer des conclusions erronèes a partir de chiffres exacts." Napoléon Bonaparte.

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    I lasted up to 1.29, but obviously the programme is aimed primarily at women and therefore need not be bothered with by men. Let the hens cluck in the farmyard it keeps them out of mischief.


    As for the adverts where women laugh at men, just put it down to another unsubtle piece of the social engineering that has now infected the world of advertising and can be similarly dismissed. It's worth remembering that using words like sexist, racist, and other self-righteous expressions only encourages the politically correct.
    Noted. It is annoying though, especially in light of the recent complaints regarding the Today programme and the lack of female representation! Pah.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MarkBastable View Post
    I'd suggest it's the clarity of responsibility by task that works, rather than the assignment of task by gender.

    I mean, would it not work just as well if he did most of the cooking, shopping and laundry, and you kept the fire going, did the garbage and brought in the groceries?
    That's it Mark. It's not about gender that determines the chore, but about understanding who does what. It would work if my husband wanted to do those things, but he prefers the other jobs. At times, I do keep the fire going.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Neely View Post




    Noted. It is annoying though, especially in light of the recent complaints regarding the Today programme and the lack of female representation! Pah.
    Well I gave up on the Today programme long ago, so I wasn't aware of any dispute. So I googled the subject and found some hilarious statements regarding the situation on the Daily Telegraph comments page. Then, briefly sidestepping to have a good laugh at an article called 'Britain - Tomorrows Next European Superpower', I returned to the Today subject and came across this comment that sums it up perfectly:

    It would be far better to worry about the Political bias of the TODAY program and the damage it has caused to the UK than worry about the so called Gender bias. The presenters are certainly full of their own prejudices and able to talk all day . Some might say they are all women already.
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    I agree with most of what has been said above. There are still a few jobs left that require physical strengh - perhaps those are the kind that "men do" and feel masculine. (not to say women can't do them.)

    The bringing in of logs harks back to this manly sentiment.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mL7n5mEmXJo
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    [QUOTE=prendrelemick;1114775]

    I agree with most of what has been said above. There are still a few jobs left that require physical strengh - perhaps those are the kind that "men do" and feel masculine. (not to say women can't do them.)
    I once worked in an office where a very beautiful girl came to work. She was half Scottish and half Brazilian, her father having worked on some engineering project in S.America. Unfortunately, it was at the time when all this equality nonsense had convinced her that she could do a traditional man's job and she decided to prove it by training to be a plumber. I asked her why she had not taken up plumbing and she said that her hands were not strong enough to undo the fittings that are often very tight on piping.
    On the other hand, Field Marshal Zhukov's mother was a Russian peasant woman who could carry a hundredweight of grain on her back quite easily. But, then again, if she were built like her illustrious son, that wouldn't be wholly surprising.
    "L'art de la statistique est de tirer des conclusions erronèes a partir de chiffres exacts." Napoléon Bonaparte.

    "Je crois que beaucoup de gens sont dans cet état d’esprit: au fond, ils ne sentent pas concernés par l’Histoire. Mais pourtant, de temps à autre, l’Histoire pose sa main sur eux." Michel Houellebecq.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MarkBastable View Post
    Not definitely, otherwise no one would disagree with you. And I do.
    Perhaps I should have defined big, brave, and strong.

    One needs to bare scale a cliff, climb mountains, build a trap for wild boar, hunt with only a crossbow and knife, ride horses bareback, race off-road motorbikes - all country stuff.

    I've tried to find parallels, but city stuff doesn't actually equate.



    A few weeks ago a pair of doodles thought they were going to mug me, and I used the 'That's not a knife - this is a knife' line. Two lead pellets to their heads from my slingshot quickly restored order

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emil Miller View Post


    Unfortunately, it was at the time when all this equality nonsense had convinced her that she could do a traditional man's job and she decided to prove it by training to be a plumber.
    I know one young woman who is a welder and another who is a fire-fighter. Bahh, "equality nonsense!"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Darcy88 View Post
    I know one young woman who is a welder and another who is a fire-fighter. Bahh, "equality nonsense!"
    Well they may be the eternal exception that underlines every rule. I worked for a para-military force that had a women's contingent, but it was no more than 8%of the total. During WW11, Hannah Reitsch, who had been a test pilot for the Luftwaffe, flew her Storch aircraft out of Berlin under Russian gunfire to take Hitler's letter handing over power to Admiral Doenitz in the north of Germany.
    Fantastic woman but hardly representative of the whole.
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    "Je crois que beaucoup de gens sont dans cet état d’esprit: au fond, ils ne sentent pas concernés par l’Histoire. Mais pourtant, de temps à autre, l’Histoire pose sa main sur eux." Michel Houellebecq.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MystyrMystyry View Post
    Perhaps I should have defined big, brave, and strong.

    One needs to bare scale a cliff, climb mountains, build a trap for wild boar, hunt with only a crossbow and knife, ride horses bareback, race off-road motorbikes - all country stuff.
    Can only men do that then? And if so, can only some men do it? And if so, does that mean that the men who can't do it aren't as masculine as the men that can do it? And if any women can do it, does that make them masculine women?


    Quote Originally Posted by MystyrMystyry View Post
    A few weeks ago a pair of doodles thought they were going to mug me, and I used the 'That's not a knife - this is a knife' line. Two lead pellets to their heads from my slingshot quickly restored order
    I expect it would have restored order as effectively if a girl had hit them with pellets from a slingshot.


    I'm not saying any of this stuff isn't worth doing, or that it isn't laudable (I mean, how the hell would I know) - I'm just saying that I don't understand why it makes anyone 'feel masculine'.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Emil Miller View Post
    Well they may be the eternal exception that underlines every rule. I worked for a para-military force that had a women's contingent, but it was no more than 8%of the total. During WW11, Hannah Reitsch, who had been a test pilot for the Luftwaffe, flew her Storch aircraft out of Berlin under Russian gunfire to take Hitler's letter handing over power to Admiral Doenitz in the north of Germany.
    Fantastic woman but hardly representative of the whole.
    800,000 Russian women served in their nation's military in World War 2. I believe there are differences between the sexes, but I also believe women are capable of doing pretty much anything a man can do. They've proven that over the last several decades.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Darcy88 View Post
    800,000 Russian women served in their nation's military in World War 2. I believe there are differences between the sexes, but I also believe women are capable of doing pretty much anything a man can do. They've proven that over the last several decades.
    Women of all the combatant countries were militarily involved. but it made no real difference to the final outcome. It's not a question of doing 'pretty much anything a man can do', but rather whether they want to do it at all.
    If they do want to copy men, well, 'imitation is the sincerest form of flattery' as the old saying goes.
    "L'art de la statistique est de tirer des conclusions erronèes a partir de chiffres exacts." Napoléon Bonaparte.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emil Miller View Post
    Women of all the combatant countries were militarily involved. but it made no real difference to the final outcome. It's not a question of doing 'pretty much anything a man can do', but rather whether they want to do it at all.
    If they do want to copy men, well, 'imitation is the sincerest form of flattery' as the old saying goes.
    800,000 women, often fighting on the front lines, made "no real difference to the final outcome?"

    I think we're actually in agreement though. There seems to be a cultural attitude against women who decide to stay home and raise kids. The powers that be would prefer they be workers and consumers rather than wives and mothers.

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    I'd like to think that if I'd been born female I'd still be the same person - but I'd still want the same life I've had/am having. As I said earlier male/female doesn't mean all that much to me. Masculine/feminine in this thread's context is just the established cultural symbology of day/night, hot/cold etc - which both have their strengths in different ways.

    I've been in predicaments where the only pellets I've used were their own against themselves. Is that male stupidity for not protecting their pills? Acting tough but not covering their Achilles Heel means they must have been hoping I'd do it. So I obliged.

    A slingshot's just handy in case you're outnumbered (you can pick them off from a distance before they close in)

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