Drug Problem!

[Wizard272002]

Drug Problem

THE OTHER DAY, SOMEONE AT A STORE IN OUR TOWN READ THAT A METHAMPHETAMINE LAB HAD BEEN FOUND IN AN OLD FARMHOUSE IN THE ADJOINING COUNTY.

HE ASKED ME A RHETORICAL QUESTION, "WHY DIDN'T WE HAVE A DRUG PROBLEM WHEN YOU AND I WERE GROWING UP?"

I REPLIED THAT I DID HAVE A DRUG PROBLEM WHEN I WAS YOUNG:

I WAS DRUG TO CHURCH ON SUNDAY MORNING.

I WAS DRUG TO CHURCH FOR WEDDINGS AND FUNERALS.

I WAS DRUG TO FAMILY REUNIONS AND COMMUNITY SOCIALS NO MATTER THE WEATHER.

I WAS DRUG BY MY EARS WHEN I WAS DISRESPECTFUL TO ADULTS.

I WAS DRUG TO THE WOODSHED WHEN I DISOBEYED MY PARENTS, TOLD A LIE, BROUGHT HOME A BAD REPORT CARD, DID NOT SPEAK WITH RESPECT, SPOKE ILL OF THE TEACHER OR THE PREACHER, OR IF I DIDN'T PUT FORTH MY BEST EFFORT IN EVERYTHING THAT WAS ASKED TO DO.

I WAS DRUG TO THE KITCHEN SINK TO HAVE MY MOUTH WASHED OUT WITH SOAP IF I UTTERED A PROFANITY.

I WAS DRUG OUT TO PULL WEEDS IN MOM'S GARDEN AND FLOWER BEDS AND COCKLEBURS OUT OF DAD'S FIELDS.

I WAS DRUG TO THE HOMES OF FAMILY, FRIENDS, AND NEIGHBORS TO HELP SOME POOR SOUL WHO HAD NO ONE TO MOW THE YARD, REPAIR THE CLOTHESLINE,OR CHOP SOME FIREWOOD.

AND IF MY MOTHER HAD EVER KNOWN THAT I TOOK A SINGLE DIME AS A TIP FOR THIS KINDNESS, SHE WOULD HAVE DRUG ME BACK TO THE WOODSHED.

THOSE DRUGS ARE STILL IN MY VEINS, AND THEY AFFECT MY BEHAVIOR IN EVERYTHING I DO, SAY, AND THINK.

THEY ARE STRONGER THAN COCAINE, CRACK, OR HEROIN; AND IF TODAY'S CHILDREN HAD THIS KIND OF DRUG PROBLEM , AMERICA WOULD BE A BETTER PLACE TO LIVE.

GOD BLESS THE PARENTS WHO DRUGGED US!

[Koa]

long live English grammar...at least the way i understand it...

[stephofthenight]

no! dont give them any ideals *covers parents eyes* lol unfortuanly ive found out on more then one ocasion that joy dishwashing liquid may smell like amazing lemons, but it doesnt taste like them and i no verry well the bend oveer and grab your ankles of the woodshed, only its the living room floor

[Shalot]

no! dont give them any ideals *covers parents eyes* lol unfortuanly ive found out on more then one ocasion that joy dishwashing liquid may smell like amazing lemons, but it doesnt taste like them and i no verry well the bend oveer and grab your ankles of the woodshed, only its the living room floor

that sounds BAD. I hope they didn't ask you to squeal like a pig

[stephofthenight]

lol not in that way.

[genoveva]

You're not condoning spanking, are you?

[stephofthenight]

yes i am...it HURT
but if i ever have kids i will probably spank them as well lol.
my parents said it was becasue they loved me
my veiw point...love me less
as long as it isnt me getting spanked im all for it...when its me i condone it

[Wizard272002]

You're not condoning spanking, are you?

Spanking your child is not against the law. Abusing them is. And spanking is not abusing

[barbara0207]

Please, steph and wizard, don't spank your children, if you should ever have any!

Spanking is abuse!

I have raised two children without spanking them, and they have grown into loveable, loving, successful adults. There is absolutely no reason for spanking a child. If you show your child from the very beginning that you love them and that you are serious about your values and beliefs and live them, then spanking will not be necessary. Violence creates violence. But be firm and consistent, so that your children know what is right and what is wrong. Of course a non-violent upbringing takes a bit more thought and effort, but it's worth it. Spanking is the easy, thoughtless way out.

I can understand in a way that you want to justify what your parents did. Children often do, even later, when they are grown-ups. They do not want to have suffered all the pain in vain, and they mostly love their parents and cannot understand that these people should have been wrong. Others just don't see why they should have suffered if they can't make someone suffer, too.

I appeal to you - don't torture your children. They don't deserve it!

[Mortis Anarchy]

This lady came into the store I work at...she was soooo wasted. Sorry, Drugs...

My mom said she spanked me once, and she felt so bad...she still feels bad. I wouldn't spank my kid...I don't like getting hit, so why would I hit them? Not that I get hit.

This poor boy, his mom kept flicking his head and his ears because he was talking...I felt so bad for him. It hurts when you get flicked on the ears...and I could hear it when she flicked him hard on his head.

[stephofthenight]

spanking realy doesnt hurt your child, or it doesnt have to. i see no harm in a pop on the butt, when they are misbehaving. more then anything it hurts there feelings. i also firmly belive that a taste of joy dishwashing liquid will cure a child of telling lies. i do not belive in slapping your child tho. but a tap on the butt sends a good firm message.

maybe my parents where just strict.
but i got spanked, and grounded and if momma had to spank me when daddy got home he would for us making mom spank us, and if a teacher had to, our butts where mud. i have never acted out in school, im an "a" student and im the 3rd in my class. im the first freshman to go to nationals in debate from hallsville.

i see these kids disrespecting there parents, and i want to slap them. i have a respect for my parents and i couldnt dream of acting the way some of these brats do. yes i have a curfew, no im not allowed to go on a date by myself until im 16, yeah i have to keep my perment a yeear insted of 6months, no i dont have a cell phone. but my parents always know where i am, and they do that becuase they CARE. honestly if more parents would take time to be a PARENT then we would have less people in jail.

one last thing
IF YOUR GONNA SPRED YOUR LEGS, BE PREPARED IF YOUR PERGNAT TO BE A PARENT, BEING A PARENT MEANS THAT YOUR NOT ALWAYS YOUR KIDS BEST FRIEND BUT YOU DO WHAT IS BEST FOR THEM, AND THERE FUTURE.

sorry for being blunt. but if my child(if i can have them) ever does something major to get into trouble i will take a belt to there bottom as my parents did me. simple fact/ spanking is not abuse. trust me i know the diffrence between wearing bruises from abuse, and from being red for a few min from a well deserved spanking. i normaly got a spanking about once a year, and it was most likely from acting up in church, or just refusing to do what they asked, honestly my last spanking was forever ago. grounding is a better solution once your kids are like 9 and up...but other then that there is nothing realy to make them regret what the did. maybe im just a pain addict, maybe im just defencive to my parents. or maybe im just not a spoild brat too stupid and stuck up to see what my parents did for me.
steph

[rabid reader]

My dad was a pysco, scream his head off at me if I didnt have my socks on. He used to spank me over nothing and then there was some stupid stuff he did was a I was younger that he did in fits of anger over my sarcasim. But all in all he was a real dick

[stephofthenight]

RR i understand what your saying, i grew up like that too, but child services scared the hell out of him and hes straitend up a lot here latley he still has problms with anger, and i alwayse seem to be in the way but i understand it. or at least i say i do. i throw myself into my school work.

[Pensive]

Please, steph and wizard, don't spank your children, if you should ever have any!

Spanking is abuse!

I have raised two children without spanking them, and they have grown into loveable, loving, successful adults. There is absolutely no reason for spanking a child. If you show your child from the very beginning that you love them and that you are serious about your values and beliefs and live them, then spanking will not be necessary. Violence creates violence. But be firm and consistent, so that your children know what is right and what is wrong. Of course a non-violent upbringing takes a bit more thought and effort, but it's worth it. Spanking is the easy, thoughtless way out.

I can understand in a way that you want to justify what your parents did. Children often do, even later, when they are grown-ups. They do not want to have suffered all the pain in vain, and they mostly love their parents and cannot understand that these people should have been wrong. Others just don't see why they should have suffered if they can't make someone suffer, too.

I appeal to you - don't torture your children. They don't deserve it!

I agree with you, Barbara. Spanking is the easy way out, and for sometimes it looks like it has worked but it can create bigger problems, can produce hatred in the hearts of children. I am quite against spanking!

I know someone whose father once beat the hell out of him (he must be about fifteen or sixteen then) for getting not very good marks (and hey, he did not fail), and from that time, that boy had been using a huge veil in front of his father. The boy had even refused to show his face to his father and I never in my whole stay at that house caught him talking to his father at all! I think he was quite normal in other ways but this part of wearing the veil really looked strange and hmmm well not too normal. But once I got to hear the story, it seemed understandable. Sometimes even in front of other people he didn't show his face.

I hope he has changed now. I remember the tears in his mother's eyes when she told this all. Just one moment destroyed the relationships in her house. See how just one beating changed him. There have been other examples in front of me too. Of course we can't be sure that children of people who love them and treat them with leniency would turn out to be loveable and normal but it seems to me that it's a better way. Always a better choice.

[Shurtugal]

my dear friend i disagree, there is a fine line between spanking and beating a child. smacking them on there rear a couple of good times to stop there bad behavior is far different from beat the child, giving him bruises, burning him, and such. and it's also the intentions behind the spank. if a parent just shouts at the kid to stop then spanks them, not exsplaining what she did wrong, then yes it might breed anger isues. but if the parent tells the child to stop, explains why he's getting a spanking (nicely and not shouting or anything like that), spanking them, and then after ward truthfully telling them that they love them. most likely they wont end up having anger problems. and don't forget about the life style that childs raised up in, that will take a toll, too.

i agree with steph, to many kids are disrespecting there parents. like just the other month, me and my dad were at the store and there was this girl and her mom in front of us. i don't know what they were talking about but all of a sudden they girl (about 16 or so) said, "damn, mom, shut up!" i was flabbergasted! no child should speak to there parent like that (or any one really). and the worst part was the mom didn't do anything about it. nothing. no correction, no look of warning, infact, she looked as if her daughter did that often.-argetlam