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    Planner or Wing It

    I'm on my way over to Oslo and I have a few loose strings untied. It's little things that I obsessing about and turning them into big things. Some, I can't really resolve until I'm over there, so I just have to adopt the surfer attitude and ride the wave. But there a few things I'm obsessing about and I would like to resolve them before I go over. This is besides the point though...

    I want to know are you a planner or a wing it kind of personality?

    I'm a planner about every possible detail and hate surprises, deviations from the plan, and struggle horrifically when there is no plan. What about you?

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    I am a planner in every aspect of my life. Not that I don't leave room for changes or surprises but I want to know exactly what will happen. I don't like sudden changes or a break in routine.
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    I am a planner with military precision almost all of the time (it helps with a medical condition I have), but sometimes I just can't be bothered and I fly by the seat of my pants. I sometimes find that planning/being organised can be stressful and can take some of the enjoyment out of things, so I tend to enjoy myself a bit more when I just let go.

    Have fun in Oslo!

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    I'm I wing it-er, except when it comes to navigating, then things must be ruthlessly planned. But I find that as long as you can accept your poor decisions, you do not need to fret over life.
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    I try with all my might to be a planner, I ask it of the gods to let me structure and harmonize events, but I always fail and end up winging everything. I think in my case it might be a mental disease given to me by putrid genes, or a curse by the gods.

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    I balance planning and winging.

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    To say that I wing it is putting it mildly. Pretty much everyday for me is a lesson in chaos.
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    I need just enough plan to understand what has to be done and then I wing it to completion.

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    This is what I wrote in my blog:
    Now I am getting ready to go over to Oslo. I leave next Monday and return the following Monday with a 24 hour layover in Stockholm. My husband can't believe what happened. I fly into Stockholm at *** on Monday, but the next flight leaves at **** (the next day-Tuesday). The flight is through ******* Airlines- not sure what kind of reputation they have, but we were might miffed about this. So I guess I'll have a chance to visit Stockholm as well. I'm not complaining, but I feel like- what the hell am I going to do in Stockholm for 24 hours?

    I know it's an amazing city, but 24 hours isn't much time, plus I have the baby (two years old) with me. This is the part of the trip that is really stressing me.
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    I actually hate planning things ahead of time, as it puts a lot of pressure on me and I feel obligated to stick to the plan, which makes me quite uncomfortable. So, I am more of a wing-it kind of gal, though I do tend to plan out my work-day, for example or sometimes tasks or activities that I have to do (I plan it in blocks of time so I can think about when I am 'free.'). But generally, you can't really plan for life... and when you do plan too much, things turn out sour or you get disappointed... that's why I find that having little or no plan leaves you open for more experiences and opportunities.
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    Lists, I love making a list. I write down in what order I am going to clean my house or garden and cross it off when I finish each task. When I go to the grocery store I first write a list of everything I need and then I re-write the list so things appear in the order I go through the store.

    I have a list of what we eat each day of the week and when I vacuum and do other stuff.

    Lists are the best.
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    I guess the ultimate question for me is, if you wing-it, are you successful? In other words, do you wingers, get to the same place as the planners, just as successfully without much thought?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Buh4Bee View Post
    This is what I wrote in my blog:
    Now I am getting ready to go over to Oslo. I leave next Monday and return the following Monday with a 24 hour layover in Stockholm. My husband can't believe what happened. I fly into Stockholm at 10:15 on Monday, but the next flight leaves at 9:15 (the next day-Tuesday). The flight is through Scandinavian Airlines- not sure what kind of reputation they have, but we were might miffed about this. So I guess I'll have a chance to visit Stockholm as well. I'm not complaining, but I feel like- what the hell am I going to do in Stockholm for 24 hours?

    I know it's an amazing city, but 24 hours isn't much time, plus I have the baby (two years old) with me. This is the part of the trip that is really stressing me.
    If you have a whole day and night, I would just stroll through Gamla Stan(old historical area of Stockholm). It's kid friendly and lots of bistros, pubs etc...and side streets if you want to get off the main area. You could have a Swedish coffee, or whatever. Very cool place for a day.

    Most of my business trips have one day stopovers. I get to tick the box on at least one or two things and move on.

    Quote Originally Posted by Buh4Bee View Post
    I guess the ultimate question for me is, if you wing-it, are you successful? In other words, do you wingers, get to the same place as the planners, just as successfully without much thought?
    Depends on what success I am looking for. On vacation/visits, I may just want to have fun - which is successful.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Buh4Bee View Post
    I guess the ultimate question for me is, if you wing-it, are you successful? In other words, do you wingers, get to the same place as the planners, just as successfully without much thought?
    Although I make lists as Helga says, they aren't very detailed. How that item on the list gets done is unclear, but when something on the list gets done, I cross it out. Success! A list is not a very detailed plan, in my opinion, but maybe for others it is.

    As far as spending 24 hours unexpectedly in Stockholm with a 2-year old, it sounds like an adventure worth experiencing. In one of Laura Day's books on how to use intuition, she says that everything is good luck, even the stuff that doesn't initially look like it is.

    EDIT: Something occurred to me about what makes things successful. I don't think it has much to do with whether there is a detailed plan or not so much as what needs to be done actually gets started. Things should not be put off until later if they can be done now. There are people who say one should "live in the now", but as far as action goes, one should "do it now" as well.
    Last edited by YesNo; 06-13-2012 at 12:10 PM. Reason: Adding material

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