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True true, the deterministic fallacy pervades every sphere nowadays, not just gender-wise. It's usually people who have a "little" science, gender roles are one of the examples that one of my favorite profs used when he told us that his favorite quote is "a little knowledge is a dangerous thing" (gender, and the whole genetic determinism in regards to race kerfuffle).
There are very few real live women who embody all of the things that have been listed here as "female," and vice versa for males. The "female" female as you've described her practically doesn't exist, and neither does the "male" male (although I'm sure there are a few exceptions for both). Considering gender in such rigid, written-in-stone terms is what led to the great pill-popping and suicidal housewife plague of the '50's (not to mention the generation of children who grew up with serious daddy issues because their own were afraid to even hug them).
And then there are a few of us who embody very few of the "in general men/women are..." rules. It's not very fun for us. You have no idea how frustrating it is to constantly be told that "you're an exception," or that "you're just putting it on to compete/attract men." Yes. Either my entire personality is a lifelong lie devised to lure straight males by pretending to embody masculine traits (how does that even make sense?), or I'm a mutant. Inflexible ideas of gender identity really cause me a lot of grief, which is probably why so many people are intimidated into adherance of their socially-prescribed gender roles where they deviate from what is now the norm if they happen to (AND THE NORM CHANGES OVER GENERATIONS, so it's by no means inborn). Everyone's afraid of the scorn they'll attract, and they will: from people who are equally afraid of stepping outside of their culture's gender definitions. For example, Alexander's earlier point that men are more prone to homophobia than women - you know that it's because they're afriad of how they themselves might deviate away from their "gender role" (or even that they might only appear to deviate). I have piles of studies that can back me up if you have any doubt.
I've specified the important words in bold red and underlined them, just to make 100% sure that no one misses the point.