As to conflating pedophilia with sexual orientation, this is not as enlightened as it seems. One thing we have to clear up, since Ginsberg's remarks about adolescent boys have been brought up, is there is a difference between finding a teenager sexually attractive occasionally, which is normal but acting on those urges is socially frowned on in our society. The question shouldn't be about whether or not pedophiles have a choice about being attracted to children, clinical test suggest they don't. It's the fact that pedophilia is non-consensual, and is directly harmful and exploitative of the minor.
I would suggest there are some pedophilic practices which may not be psychologically harmful. Tribes in New Guinea practice ceremonial insemination of pubescent boys around ages 13-14. The thing about this is that at that point the adolescents can make consensual sexual decisions, but it's generally wrong because of how vulnerable and easily manipulated these minors are. It's hard to say how this affects those people in the long run, but it's considered normal for them.
It's also a bit icky because 13 seems obscenely young to most of us with modern Western mindsets. I once had a history prof suggest that age of consent should be 13 though. I think 16 is a better marker for age of consent because the vast majority will have gone through puberty and be capable of consensual decisions.
There could be societal benefits for lowering the stigma against pedophiles, mainly because it has been shown that the best way to prevent one from harming a child is for them to be open about who they are and attend support groups that monitor their behavior. It would help prevent these crimes if someone could openly say they are a pedophile, so people could just keep their children away from them, without that person then being at risk of a lynching.