Eh, thats a bit My man Jeeves-ish isnt it?Originally Posted by crystalmoonshin
Eh, thats a bit My man Jeeves-ish isnt it?
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Or of course it may have come from the fact that mothers have a tendancy to get called mother hens if they are very fussy with their kids so may be teh term "chick" was a reference for an unmarried girl? also as pointed out, its short for chicken and chicken is used widely as a term of endearment.For example, " How are you feeling chicken?" is commonly used here. were we would have the term "chick" we do have other winged animals used in reference to girls ans usually as someones girlfriend. "Bird" and "moth" (pronounced with out the T sound *cringe* )I hate these as much as a girl calling her boyfriend "me fella" or another girl "young wan".
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Sayings like "my fair lady", "my girl" etc are just sayings. The possessive is not supposed to be taken seriously and personally. When you hear that from someone, they're just being playful and friendly. Most of the time they really don't mean to "have" you. These are nuances, not to be taken literally.There's this one guy who said to me, "See you around, my fair lady." It was the first time a guy called me a fair lady but HIS fair lady???I absolutely hate phrases with possessive pronouns like "my girl", "my woman" or whatever "my" phrase coming from a guy. Do men want to be called "my man" by women???
Sometimes, in certain extreme situations, you want to get rid of someone, you'd say, "I got to run, my dear" and that's unisex, you can say that to a guy, a woman can say that to another woman, even when that person isn't that dear to then, again, it's just a saying.
Not to go off subject, people at a workplace, in passing, may say: "hey, how's it going" and they keep walking. Now that's not a question to be answered, they're not rude, it's a greeting and a polite acknowledgement of your existence. Most likely they are preoccupied, they have a meeting to go to, or more importantly, they're en route to their cup of coffee.
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No one but my S.O is allowed to call me anything aside from my name. For a stranger, or casual acquaintance to call any woman.....honey, baby, or any of the ones mentioned in this thread is patronizing or sexist, whether subliminal or not.
A lady would never use kicks or punches.
Didn't know this one... sounds nice, I believe
It's a very comprehensible feeling. Too many hungry men out there wanting to eat persons of their opposite gender. Me wonders if they have any other thing to do with their time, apart from eating.I especially hate it when men call women "chicks". It somewhat carries a connotation that a woman is meant to be food for men's fantasies,well at least to me. Even friends won't be spared a cold shoulder or a kick or a punch from me if they use that word to address me.
Origins are just that, originsI am flattered when guys call me "lady". Friends and relatives tell me I'm SO childish and everytime I'm addressed as a "lady", I feel matured
As I said before, "lady" is actually my preferred term to address a... lady
I do... if she is whom I'm thinking about right now...
It may be seen that wayEh, thats a bit My man Jeeves-ish isnt it?
True... in most cases. There are people out there wanting to possess others, you know
True, mostly a saying. They don't "dear you" that much.
... or they don't care at all about you, and just pretend to care a little to merely satisfy society's politeness rules (or hypocrisy?) ... me wonders ... who cares about whom, when, and why?
Well, I'm a lady warrior.A lady would never use kicks or punches.
Vanitas vanitatum, dixit Ecclesiastes, vanitas vanitatum, et omnia vanitas.
Yo sé quién soy, y sé que puedo ser no sólo los que he dicho. - Don Quixote
A lady would never use kicks or punches.Circumstances, and not protocol, define what to be a lady or a gentleman is, I believe. At times, the best way to be a lady or a gentleman is to kick and punchWell, I'm a lady warrior.
OUCHCircumstances, and not protocol, define what to be a lady or a gentleman is, I believe. At times, the best way to be a lady or a gentleman is to kick and punch
So, Max, are you that good a gentleman?
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"But do you really, seriously, Major Scobie," Dr. Sykes asked, "believe in hell?"
"In flames and torment?""Oh, yes, I do."
"That sort of hell wouldn't worry me," Fellowes said."Perhaps not quite that. They tell us it may be a permanent sense of loss."
"Perhaps you've never lost anything of importance," Scobie said.
wow...I can't believe "chick" is winning on this poll. I've never seen chick or chica as being offensive.
I'm sure some of these have different connotations depending on where you live
I know of a few women who don't like being addressed in such a way because they find it quite patronizing.
Personally, I really don't mind it at all... I think alot of men find that it's just a natural part of conversation, and they don't mean any harm by it.
I suppose it can be quite endearing/complimentary (especially from friends and acquaintances.) Alot of my male friends refer to me as "darling", "m'dear" or something similar.
However, I must admit... I wouldn't be offended as such, but I'd be quite taken aback to hear "chick." That's not something that's used very often around here.
Also, although it doesn't rattle my cage too much, I'd much prefer it if men didn't refer to their girlfriend/ their friend's girlfriends as "my bird"/"his bird."
"Then I feel, Harry, that I have given away my whole soul to someone who treats it as if it were a flower to put in his coat, a bit of decoration to charm his vanity, an ornament for a summer's day"
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As I was saying, I think a lot of it is regional.
I've never heard of calling someone a bird. What exactly is that in reference to?
Chick and chica are used here quite frequently which is why I was surprised that it seems to bother some people. Girls say it to other girls and it's fine for guys to say it to.
I would find darling patronizing and condescending. m'dear wouldn't bother me though
I think "bird" is just British slang; I have no idea where it comes from actually.
But yes, you're quite right, it's certainly a regional thing.
Alot of females address other females in the same way (especially old women, it would seem.)
Haha, now I've only been called "darling" by one of my closer friends... so he can get away with it I suppose.
"Then I feel, Harry, that I have given away my whole soul to someone who treats it as if it were a flower to put in his coat, a bit of decoration to charm his vanity, an ornament for a summer's day"
Oscar Wilde [The Picture of Dorian Gray]
I've no problem with Darling, my dear/ dearie, honey, sweetie, petal (although pet i dont like)... and i detest Luv, especially if its accompanied by a thick dublin inner city accent.
Bird is not just a british thing, we say it in Ireland as well. But yes, a lot of these things would be regional. Chick, would be a real american thing, although as previously mentioned, chicky would be said in parts of england as a sign of affection from friends, family and neighbours, but its a localised thing like my love/ my lover is in sumerset.
"Come away O human child!To the waters of the wild, With a faery hand in hand, For the worlds more full of weeping than you can understand."
W.B.Yeats
"If it looks like a Dwarf and smells like a Dwarf, then it's probably a Dwarf (or a latrine wearing dungarees)"
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I love it when older guys call me "my dear," but when younger guys say it, it sounds slimy (unless the guy is a Newfie, then it's more like "m'dear" and as natural as breating).
Sounds like you've never met a Canadian woman!A lady would never use kicks or punches.
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