Thanks for explaining your view of romantic love. What you write about
romantic love, Virginiawang, may well be true: transcending reason, an emotional battle, the workings of the heart, and an entrancing spell. Unfortunately for you, the nature of the love Prince Myshkin shows to all he meets, including Aglaya, has
little in common with romantic love.
To avoid confusion, let me label Myshkin's love: 'agape'.
You can't entirely forget about God because Dostoevsky, a professed Christian, alludes to and is influenced by Biblical perspectives, and particularly as expressed in Kierkegaard’s writings. You do need to grasp his existential concepts. For instance, the scripture ‘God is love’ has nothing to do with romantic love. Interestingly, the existentialist philosophers that sprung from Kierkegaard (including Nietzsche, Heidegger, Jaspers and Sartre) were all atheist.
For Kierkegaard (Dostoevsky and Ibsen)
agape differs from
romantic love as follows.
- Agape is fundamentally an act of will - a decision, a work, an action, a duty.
- Agape is never an emotion, but a compassionate way of being.
- Agape rejects the preferential (the aesthetic, the romantic) choice of the other.
- Agape demands limitless self-sacrifice for one's neighbour (‘Love your neighbour as yourself’).
If agape sounds infinitely onerous, consider the courage and fate of Prince Myshkin (or Jesus Christ). Romantic love (infatuation) is not a trait of the prince.
Equally true of Prince Myshkin and Jesus Christ: two lights shining in darkness.