water and that 6pm thingy worked for me
water and that 6pm thingy worked for me
80 pounds is malnurished. It's completely ridiculous. I'm 5'5", and i weigh between 120-130 pounds, it ranges in the months according to my excersise and food intake.
Step, you don't need someone around to tell you you're not good enough, us humans are plenty good at telling ourselves that. You need someone to tell you the truth, that you're quite wonderful and proportional as you are.
Yes, Steph, you managed to quit smoking, and that was impressive enough. You displayed an amazing strength of character there, and now I think you need to display it again: My opinion (now that I have done the conversions - not very used to Lbs & Ft) is that your weight to length ratio is just right. 80lbs would drop you deep down into the underweight and anorexia pit. Please, do not go there! Besides, even if it was warranted, which I say again is not the case, your bf's desire to see you drop from 118 to 80 Lbs equals a loss of no less than one third of your bodyweight. To require you to do that when you are not overweight is nothing short of appalling.Originally Posted by stephofthenight
As for your bf, I do not usually express myself like this, but in this case I will make an exception to that rule: I concur with the general consensus here, that he is in dire need of a good, well aimed boot up his backside.
/Claes
Hanlon's Razor: "Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by stupidity."
I have to question the motivation of a 26 year old man dating a 15 year old girl. Nothing against you Steph but there are reasons why it's illegal.
Claes is right, you are currently at a good weight for your height.
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ehh you do realise not only are you well within the optimum weight range for your height your at the lower end of it?
heck Ill aiming for 126 lbs and Im shorter than you , the very least you should be weighing ( and I think this is ridiculously small anyway ) is 105.8 lbs .
Ultra skinny is not an attractive look on anyone, an its unhealthy. Also even if you wanted to lose the weight and chose to doso you cant loose that much wieght that fast without long termside affects, that could possibley even kill you.
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!!!! Steph I would do anything to be your weight!!! *shudders* Be careful with that dude; you're far and away more important than he.
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hes fine. and its just. im trying to get over being afraid.
but he comes frist, not me...thats just the way it is, always has been...to both of us
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Congratulations on quitting smoking,steph! He should be proud of you for accomplishing that,not upset at your gaining weight!
Remember to keep healthy and happy, don't starve yourself and don't work yourself too hard.
If you are going to diet,only only do it for YOU. Not him. Don't let some man dictate your life. If he loves you, he'll want your happiness and your health to come first,not the way you look.
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if you dump him, you'll instantly lose whatever he weighs...
1) exercise before breakfast
2) eat breakfast. not eating breakfast is more unhealthy than eating a donut and coffee.
3) Cut down on mayonnaise, and salad dressing.
4) Bake foods instead of frying. By baking you reduce the calories by 1/2
5) substitute Coke for CokeZero. It has no calories and tastes better.
6) Chew slowly
7) want seconds? drink water after a meal, and wait twenty minutes for getting seconds-- it takes that ling for your stomach to tell your brain that you are full.
8) to lose one lb a week (1 lb= 3500 calories): do 500 calories worth of exercise a day, eat 500 less calories a day, or do some combo of the two.
If it's worth complaining about, it's completely worth doing yourself!
Steph, your BMI (Body Mass Index) is 21.6 (if I haven't done it wrong, and you can always visit this website to make it sure.
Just yesterday I got my weight checked in Doctor's clinic after about three years or so when I went there to get over my severe flu and temperature. My BMI is 19 and I am a bit thin. I am not actually really 'under-weight' but I am on the very lower-side of normal. Not something to be really proud of I guess and it wouldn't probably hurt me to gain a few more pounds.
I am perhaps being emotional here but that's one of the reasons I am not very much attracted towards radical/extreme feminism. If men consider themselves superior, then women do have a hand behind it too at times. It's good to make up certain compromises in a relationship but that's far too much...
Exactly.
I sang of leaves, of leaves of gold, and leaves of gold there grew.
if you want to snack snak on raisins...
and did I say congrats on the quitting smoking?
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honey you shouldn't die in order to look perfect -- he might be very well caring about you...but thats not good when you kill yourself just to get thin:
look out those points very well in mind sweetie:
1- when you think you have alot to loose , you will get depressed and then
gain wieght....just walk and have dinner at 7 so that you have plenty of time to disgest the food inside of you.
2- dont take pills they wont help ,just move and eat normally like any other human and when you prevent your self from eating something- your body might be in need of it.
if i were you i would eat normally but move , look i am 81 KG but but but >>>
when i started to walk and eat normally i lost wieght.
Thanks and hope the advise is good.
idk. sometimes, i want to do something for myself but i feel selfish... And he always makes me feel guilty if I do something I want to do, that he doesnt want me to... Idk, maybe im wrong, but its what i deserve so, what can be done... well i'v lost 3 pounds in 3 days
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I'll second that.Steph, why does he come first? You need to come first sometimes, too. (If it's none of my business, just say so, I don't mind. And I apologize.)
And congratulations for stopping smoking. That's the best thing you can do for your health and for those who love you. You're very strong to have stopped.
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I agree with LadyW's first post here and with what some others have said. You have to think if you're really happy the way your boyfriend treats you. Perhaps you are, but what you wrote here sounded like regrets somehow, as if you would prefer having more freedom or being loved differently. You can have this freedom if you want to, maybe there is another man who would love you for who you are and you would feel a great difference. You don't have to be imprisoned in order to be loved.
For my part, I want to be the one choosing what to do with my body. Some people tell me I'm too skinny, but people will always criticize you. I love my body the way it is and that's the most important. I would advise you to do what feels right to you.
Oh, now about a 25 years old dating a 15 years old, I see absolutely nothing wrong with that, we don't choose who we fall in love with, and I will not judge that, it would be quite ridiculous. Be happy, girl, and congratulations for stopping smoking!
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