Can boys and girls be friends?

[Pensive]

Yes , it is an act , when you are so closer friends , Isn't it lead to a dangerous problems?

Would you please like to give me an example of those dangerous problems?

Good , so you agree with me?

Not necessarily, I meant it's good if you would never be afraid of an action of a female friend. But still I can't see what would in a male friend get you on the edge of fear. And if it's related to some society b******t, then whatever the society considers to be okay does not have to be really fine.

Really!!! The World's problem?
No It is the two friend's problem.

Once again I would repeat that everything condemned by a certain society doesn't have to be wrong. If the society is forcing you to drink alcohol, and you know as a Muslim it's forbidden in Islam, would you just devour it because society thinks you have to do it? Even if you are forced to have it, would you start thinking that society made you do the right thing? I don't think so...

What ? a little trust , so you want to say that there is a man in the world or a woman agree happily to see his\her wife\husband with a male\female friend , telling him her secrets sharing with him her life , made him a member of that family ?
Oh , no I don't think that It is true.

I have seen husbands getting more unhappy with their wives' friends (yes, friends who are women) too. And by the way who said friendship means making someone the member of family or sharing 'each and everything' with her/him?

the second "good"
I don't know you agree or disagree .

I meant to say it's good if your parents wouldn't be scared of the female friends you make....though probably it's not too good. Often the stories of little girls befriending some older ones who turn out to be child-mollesters come in newspapers...

I think that I don't understand that word "lezbian" , also , I don't know why you said that you scared me .

Good. Now you wouldn't get scared.

That is my opinion , and I'm not trying to persuade any one to agree or disagree with me , it is your own decision ,
Thanks for using my favourite color ,

I know. I am not making any judgements here on whether male and females can be friends (though it can be an interesting discussion too) but I just didn't agree with your points. I might be in agreement with your actual idea (but there is 'might') but I don't support the points you give for it.

Oh and you are welcome.

[sprinks]

I think the hardest thing about these types of conversations is the fact that people generalise too much, like "guys are good for laughs and girls are good for meaningful conversation". I honestly think it all depends on the individual.
And the other thing is that people have different thoughts on friendship, so some people might count anybody they've known for years but don't have deep and meaningful conversations with as best friends whereas others count the people that are the closest to them as their best friends, so these different values would most likely affect peoples thoughts on the matter.

But as for me, I think I have an almost even amount of male and female friends, and some males I have better conversations with than some of the females, and some of the females I have better conversations with than some of the males. It really just depends on the individuals.

[dramasnot6]

My life-long pattern of friendships has always been a great balance of female and male friends, experiencing varying degrees of intimacy and trust with both genders. I usually have 3-4 best girlfriends, who i spend a lot of time with, one or two of which I consider my 'best friends' and deeply trust. I have always had a male as my "very best friend", one extremely close guy friend and a few other good ones.
Besides that, it's usually very easy for me to make an abundance casual friends, but I have a lot of trouble really connecting with people. For this reason, I often find myself feeling rather lonely,which most don't suspect because I 'technically' do have a lot of "friends".

[Chava]

Okay, so i've mostly only had male friends. I never understood the world of intrigue of the females in my age group. I didn't understand the social code for who was friends with who that day. The girls were just manipulative and cunning. If you disagreed with them, they would wind everyone up against you, etc.
Boys on the other hand... disagree with them and we sort it out with a wrestling match on the balancing beam. Winner takes all, end of story, everyone is friends afterwards.
Incidentally i was the only girl who was allowed to join them playing tag or anyhitng since i was the only girl who didn't cry when i got hurt.

Even today, my closest friends are males, or as someone else put it, bi/gay females.

[sprinks]

Some girls, and women, can be very cunning and manipulative. I don't see that in males, that's for sure.

Wow I know some equally cunning and manipulative males! They are more manipulative than cunning though, but most certainly they're as bad as how most females are percieved to be. The only thing with the guys I know is that they're a lot more obvious about why they're being cunning and manipulative than the females are.

[mercy_mankind]

Would you please like to give me an example of those dangerous problems?

First of all i've to tell you that me and you represent a different cultures.
and my concept of friendship is also different from your one .
Friendship means for me brotherhood , as there is a chance to choose my sister myself, it doesn't mean that i don't love my sister but i have to choose one or more will help me during my life , if they found any mistakes they will tell me the right because they love me.
so my friends mean a lot for me. I observe that the most posts here talking as if friendship is a sort of amusing. and they think that male friends are amusing more than females. I think that it is a sort of insult to the meaning of friendship.

Once again I would repeat that everything condemned by a certain society doesn't have to be wrong. If the society is forcing you to drink alcohol, and you know as a Muslim it's forbidden in Islam, would you just devour it because society thinks you have to do it? Even if you are forced to have it, would you start thinking that society made you do the right thing? I don't think so...

Your example is very nice one, but believe me that it is the right way.
also you have this thing acceptable in your society but it doesn't mean that everything in your society must be "" right traditions "" also in my society there are some tradition and habits are wrong and i refuse them , but they are acceptable and wrong alike.
Finally i'm glad for that discussion with you

[Pensive]

First of all i've to tell you that me and you represent a different cultures.
and my concept of friendship is also different from your one .
Friendship means for me brotherhood , as there is a chance to choose my sister myself, it doesn't mean that i don't love my sister but i have to choose one or more will help me during my life , if they found any mistakes they will tell me the right because they love me.
so my friends mean a lot for me. I observe that the most posts here talking as if friendship is a sort of amusing. and they think that male friends are amusing more than females. I think that it is a sort of insult to the meaning of friendship.

Okay, even if friendship means getting your friend know all your secrets, what do you think is wrong with sharing a secret with a male friend?

Your example is very nice one, but believe me that it is the right way.

Thank you, but I still don't get your points on how it's the right way...

also you have this thing acceptable in your society but it doesn't mean that everything in your society must be "" right traditions "" also in my society there are some tradition and habits are wrong and i refuse them , but they are acceptable and wrong alike.
Finally i'm glad for that discussion with you

Never did I say anything acceptable in my society has to be acceptable in my eyes. Did I?

[kratsayra]

Whew . . . I remember this thread. It's hard, you know . . . I said that I didn't mind my boyfriend's female friends who he'd known for a long time. That's still true. But now he's actually becoming new friends with a girl, yikes!

It's actually the first time since we have been together that either of us had made a new friend of the opposite sex (we both have old friends of the opposite sex). It definitely takes some getting used to. Especially because we are long-distance right now. But it's not like we could assume that neither of us would ever have a new friend of the opposite sex, that's just unreasonable.

It's weird too . . .I expressed to him that I felt upset/worried about his new friend that's a girl. I know it was unreasonable, but I still had to show how I felt. Meanwhile, I'm quasi-friends with one of my male roommates and my boyfriend doesn't process it. It's some sort of willing unacknowledgement. I'll be like "I'm getting dinner with [roommate] tonight" and then hours later my boyfriend will be like "what did you do for dinner?" And usually we know everything the other person is doing because we are long-distance and we always say what we're doing. When I'm hanging out with my roommate or mention him is the only time that my boyfriend doesn't process what my plans are.

So, yeah, we both need to work on what it's like when the other person has a friend of the opposite sex.

I kinda wish I could do the willing unacknowledgement thing. It seems easier than feeling jealous.

[Lily Adams]

Surprisingly I don't actually have many male friends that I hang out with regularly. Me and my gravitation towards males.

Wait...I don't have any. Yeah, I have aquaintances, but not actual friends.

I guess it's because I don't have many friends at all in the first place. Real friends.

I love guys but not guys my age? I guess?

It's funny, I'm surrounded by boys in my geometry class because that's how the seating chart turned out, and before I was next to a couple girls and the guys are far more interesting to sit next to. They actually talk about things other than who's going out with who. They do talk about sports a lot, however, which completely bores me and sometimes they'll talk about "this hot chick" they saw or the young English teacher all the boys like at our school, but I think that's just funny. So it kind of is a way for me to examine them.

[dramasnot6]

People are such lab rats.

[Dori]

It's funny, I'm surrounded by boys in my geometry class because that's how the seating chart turned out, and before I was next to a couple girls and the guys are far more interesting to sit next to. They actually talk about things other than who's going out with who. They do talk about sports a lot, however, which completely bores me and sometimes they'll talk about "this hot chick" they saw or the young English teacher all the boys like at our school, but I think that's just funny. So it kind of is a way for me to examine them.

Boys will be boys. I can personally attest to that.

[dramasnot6]

I was one of those guys. Actually, I might have been the only one who really liked her...

Awww.

[Pretty^Athens]

well well well, about 3 years ago i almost didn't have any female friends; i had only one and all the others were male which was awsome, i felt they could understand me better and could do a lot of fun stuff with them, but it all went wrong suddenly: because some of them fell in love with me and the others just left to study or work, and that is why i no longer believe in friendship between the two sexes!

I think the hardest thing about these types of conversations is the fact that people generalise too much, like "guys are good for laughs and girls are good for meaningful conversation". I honestly think it all depends on the individual.
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i totally agree with you. some of my male friends were much more understanding and thoughtful then my female friends

[Linsiyu]

Hello! i study in taiwan. I’m female. My personalities are lively, open and bright. I’m don’t bully the person in the verbal and I don’t threat people, ha ha ha !!!

When I was in the primary school, same with you that some of my classmates are what you are talking about, and I don’t want to make friends with them, so I do my own thing by myself, I don’t even talk with them. Therefore, I agree with your opinions.

After I entered high school, I found out that not every one have the same personalities; I discovered males are not really all tough and strong, for example, one or two of my male friends are sensitive men. I like to talk with them, talk about my secrets and when I feel upset, they will comfort me in the soft way. Instead my some female friends are not sensitive and soft, they talk to me in a rough way.

These differences doesn’t let me feel uncomfortable, instead I love to make friends in different gender. Because I think that every one has the different personalities, so I make friends with my patience and true heart. Then I make a lot of male/female friends!!!!

[romantic novel]

I have been wondering about this subject for a while.

Is it possible that a unsexual relationship between a girl and a guy can exist??

Is it possible that they remain ONLY friends forever?

Different opinions, different points of view from different poeple around the

world from different ethics and religions..what I seek here to highlight the

subject...Welcome both Girls and Guys