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    Quote Originally Posted by Dori View Post
    I believe that a man and a woman can be friends, but eventually--inevitably--one will "fall in love" with the other. That has been my experience so far in the sixteen and a half years that I've lived.
    Inevitably? Hmm, that's quite an interesting notion...
    I doubt that is the case in every single circumstance. But I will testify to that statement from personal experience.
    Most commonly, the feelings are not reciprocated... Do you believe that a friendship can still survive despite this?
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    Quote Originally Posted by LadyW View Post
    Inevitably? Hmm, that's quite an interesting notion...
    I doubt that is the case in every single circumstance. But I will testify to that statement from personal experience.
    Most commonly, the feelings are not reciprocated... Do you believe that a friendship can still survive despite this?
    Perhaps not inevitably, but most likely.

    I'm not sure about the question you posed. I'm limited to my personal experience. I can't even wager a guess.
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    I don't know about "fall in love" but maybe it's very likely that one person will eventually develop a crush of some degree on the other person. And the friendship can definitely survive as such through that - I've had that experience. Maybe it can't always, but it is certainly possible. It doesn't necessarily doom the friendship.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dori View Post
    I'm not sure about the question you posed. I'm limited to my personal experience. I can't even wager a guess.
    I have limited experience myself...
    However, I would suggest that the survival of the relationship would depend how deep the romantic attatchment was...
    If the feelings were only temporary, I suppose any hardships are easily overcome. If it was love... well that's a different story.
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    Quote Originally Posted by LadyW View Post
    I have limited experience myself...
    However, I would suggest that the survival of the relationship would depend how deep the romantic attatchment was...
    If the feelings were only temporary, I suppose any hardships are easily overcome. If it was love... well that's a different story.
    Indeed. Love is a different story I can't speak to that type of situation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LadyW View Post
    Throughout my childhood, the ratio of male/female friends leaned heavily towards the latter. Looking back, I'm not exactly sure why... I guess it was just the done thing. I found males lacked a certain degree of maturity
    What? I found girls lacked maturity, obssessed over make up and clothes. I think "maturity" is a matter of perception and definition.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Virgil View Post
    What? I found girls lacked maturity, obssessed over make up and clothes. I think "maturity" is a matter of perception and definition.
    Yes I understand what you mean...
    However, you must admit that children... male or female do posses a certain level of immaturity. Personally, I was always rather sensible for my age... so I suppose I found both genders a little childish, but mainly boys.
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    Quote Originally Posted by LadyW View Post

    What are your thoughts on male an female friends?

    Like me, do you spot significant differences between the two?
    First of all , there is nothing called friendship between males and females , because that friendship won't be pure , so I think that each of them has to befriended with the same , as males with males and females with females , that will be so comfortable than any thing else ,
    Note: this is not my opinion , it is a scientific researches .
    Thank you ,

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    Guy frinds are so much less backstabbing and manipulative! Girls, on the other hand, are more nurturing. I have more guy friends, than I do female friends, but my female friends are closer.
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    Quote Originally Posted by LadyW View Post
    What are your thoughts on male an female friends?

    Like me, do you spot significant differences between the two?
    I had male friends for the first 14 years of my life, actually I think for the first 9 years everyone though I was a guy and then they were like "Hey! since when do YOU have boobs!?"

    I like my male friends usually more than the girls, I'm sorry. Women just are so down. A guy would never say "Bakiryu, I feel small! Do you think my girlfriend loves me? I'm fat! I'm so ugly!" and break down crying. He'd probably make me laugh until I turned red and then share with me commentaries about girls and tv shows.

    I like women friends for shopping and advice, they are more emotional and open.
    I like male friends for companionship and like-mindedness.
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    Wow, Baki! You're so freaking funny!
    If it's worth complaining about, it's completely worth doing yourself!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Anza View Post
    Wow, Baki! You're so freaking funny!
    only on the 'net, I'm afraid, love.
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    Aww, I'm sure you're funny all the time. You can't say, also that you're only awesome over the net.
    If it's worth complaining about, it's completely worth doing yourself!

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    Quote Originally Posted by mercy_mankind View Post
    First of all , there is nothing called friendship between males and females , because that friendship won't be pure , so I think that each of them has to befriended with the same , as males with males and females with females , that will be so comfortable than any thing else ,
    Note: this is not my opinion , it is a scientific researches .
    Thank you ,
    What's pure friendship?
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    Quote Originally Posted by kratsayra View Post
    Sometimes I wonder if friendships are better if you have the possibility of some kind of sexual tension. Not when you actually get involved with the person, but when the friendship is somehow fueled by some kind of curiosity or possibility - even if it's one-sided.

    Because my closest, closest friends have always been guys or bi/gay girls. What's up with that? I have had many close friends that were straight girls but for some reason those friendships have never been as satisfying. Maybe I'm just insane . . .
    or maybe you are so attractive that even straight girls turn gay when they get to know you? j/k

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