Only Women can LOVE truly?

[Lote-Tree]

but why do people start topics like this? Infuriating

To amuse and we do desperately need some amusement around here

[Redzeppelin]

I agree with this, however;

Well, of course...

Love is both a feeling and an action. Being in love is a feeling, but it is not the same as the action of love.

The "in love" feeling is known as infatuation. Once infatuation dies down, the true work of "love" begins. Love begins where infatuation ends.

When we act on love, that is like acts of kindness or friendliness, and when those are returned that is the beginning of love. By the way, we do this with objects, too, it's called 'cathecting,' and is a valid form of love.

The Christian concept of "love" makes it clear that it is not something we act upon because we feel kindly or attracted to someone because we're told to "love" our enemies; in that instance, "love" means to do what is in that person's best interest. Sometimes painful things are in someone's best interest.

I think your terminology about the differences of men and women loving is bogus because the process is the same for each. Give love, receive love, grow, etc.

I'm less than half concerned about how you feel about my terminology. Men and women do not experience, process, and understand love the same way because our psyches and emotional makeups are radically different. Psychology has clearly established that. If we both experienced it the same, I doubt we'd have the difficulties we see between couples. Men and women universally struggle in relationships, partly because we do not understand what the other person wants or needs in terms of "love."

This is so localized, generalizing and bland...it is not even a 'rule' since there are probably large percentages in many different categories that are nothing like what you describe here. This is not how the genders are. It is maybe how some are, and even some stereotypes, maybe. But there are different nations, cultures, ages, all different types of people...you say that love is not a feeling, and then you consider an orgy to be the most powerful experience of love. Why not a mutual heroin experience? A love letter? A hug? A shared evening, or shared music? A shared life?

OK, so you disagree. My reading and my experience suggest my conclusions. Your hysterical overstatement of my point about men and sex suggests that you don't really want to take the issue seriously. So be it. Why don't you come up with a counter-argument instead of being sarcastic next time?

Anyway, at least you agree that obviously both can experience deep love..

I suppose so.

[NikolaiI]

No worries, Red. Have a nice life.

[mosimo]

Women Love is like the Ocean full of salt and completely on drinkable. Men's like a little pond capable of quenching the thurst of many and never claiming any lives.

You cannot compare the way men and women love. Men and women are like two seperate creatures

A woman will many times show her love though passion and small acts. While men like doing dig physical things. Any man who is truly in love would willingly die for their love by taking the blow. While a woman would die for their love out of sorrow and by trying to nurse them back to life.

[drunkenKOALA]

"reach their gender's potential" lol

[*Classic*Charm*]

Only women can love truly. Men just want to use women.

Even in a married couple the woman usually loves her husband more than he does her.

Oh Baki, that's a very cynical thing to say. May I ask what makes you think so?

I have a question for Redzeppelin, if he's still around!! I understand what you were saying to Nik, but what do you think about the "love" a person has for something other than another person, such as an animal? Do you believe that the phyiscal aspect of love prevents one from truly loving anything but another?

[Granny5]

Oh Baki, that's a very cynical thing to say. May I ask what makes you think so?

I have a question for Redzeppelin, if he's still around!! I understand what you were saying to Nik, but what do you think about the "love" a person has for something other than another person, such as an animal? Do you believe that the phyiscal aspect of love prevents one from truly loving anything but another?

Great question Classic. I wonder about Red's answer, too.
And Baki, a man can love his wife as much as his wife loves him..ask Virgil or Poppy or Pen.

[firefangled]

Is this truly all you think there is to love of another? These choices. I would hope this is a joke.

To think that men and women are incapable of loving the same and equally is probably at the heart of the reason those who think so can't.