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    Quote Originally Posted by SleepyWitch View Post
    hope this hasn't been done before:
    can boys and girls/ women and men be friends,
    Yes.

    esp. when one of them is single?
    Yes

    or will one of them start to romance the other sooner or later?
    Not necessarily.


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    That's different. If they are couple, they shouldn't have any walls between them, because there's love. I am talking about two possible result of being friend with opposite sex, destroying walls between a girl/boy will make you fall in love with her/him or losing a part of you gender identity.
    There is more to love than sexual relationship. In simple friendship, there is love as well.

    As for what you said about gender identity, I totally disagree with you here. In other words, are you trying to suggest having a parrot as a pet would bring in me parrot-ish characteristics?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pensive View Post
    As for what you said about gender identity, I totally disagree with you here. In other words, are you trying to suggest having a parrot as a pet would bring in me parrot-ish characteristics?
    People are not parrots.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Turk View Post
    People are not parrots.
    But it can move people away from the human-identification! Can't it?
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    Of course; yes is the only answer.

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    Of course. I have a lot of male friends myself..and some of them are single too. I can see no problem in that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Turk View Post
    People are not parrots.
    And boys are not girls.


    We personally think yes. Can't actually see why not.
    If you believe even a half of this post, you are severely mistaken.

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    I think they certainly can. I also acknowledge there is, at times, a danger, chemistry can pop up in the oddest places and without any warning but you can't let that limit who you become friends with. If those feelings should happen to pop up, there is such a thing as restraint and good sense and if you're such good friends, you should be able to talk about it and come to some sort of understanding, whatever that may be.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SleepyWitch View Post
    hope this hasn't been done before:
    can boys and girls/ women and men be friends, esp. when one of them is single? or will one of them start to romance the other sooner or later?
    This is fun. When I was studying for my Baccalaureate in London I met my best ever non-sexual relationship-wise male friend. His name was/is Dominic. He was/is bi-lingual [french/english]; most of the students on the Bacc.were/are bi-lingual on some mix of languages.
    Okay, back to the question at hand. I was in a relationship, heterosexual [because I am]. Dominic was bi-sexual, and he enjoyed sex with either gender. Lunchtime at school was a very good time for the two of us, we would repair to the student union and catch up on our week. I would tell him of going to concerts in London, parties and my latest relationship issues. We would lie on these 'bean-bag' type things in the 'Students' Union' and chat. He was my best friend for a very long time and I am very glad to have known him. And so, to answer the question, most definitely yes, men and women can be very close friends but without a necessary sexual liaison. Admittedly, this was a little different as Dominic was not gay he was/is bi, so I suppose there was/is always the chance but our 'Lego doesn't/didn't fit that way'. Haven.
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    Well, Dominic is not opposite sex for you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Turk View Post
    Well, Dominic is not opposite sex for you.
    How do you know? Haven...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Haven View Post
    How do you know?
    Exactly, if he's bi, anyone could possibly be under the heading as "the opposite sex".
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    Quote Originally Posted by Idril View Post
    Exactly, if he's bi, anyone could possibly be under the heading as "the opposite sex".
    Exactly.........LOL

    but Yes, opposite sex friends are very possible, as per my previous post.

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    Nice story.

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    yeah of course they can be friends but i think there is a certain line to draw when it comes to this if a guy has no freinds that are guys then i think thats a little over the line. same for a girl if a girl never trys to make freinds with any girls that seems a bit suspicious to me. any way u look at it the only answer is yes whether they are single or not.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Haven View Post
    He was my best friend for a very long time and I am very glad to have known him. He was totally special. We did everthing together, [except that..]
    And so, to answer the question, most definitely yes, men and women can be very close friends but without a necessary sexual liaison. Admittedly, this was a little different as Dominic was not gay he was/is bi, so I suppose there was/is always the chance but our 'Lego doesn't/didn't fit that way'. Haven.
    Your friend seems quite a character, Haven. I think true friendship is such a gift to receive, that when we find a special friend it really behooves us to cherish them, no matter what sex they are. If romantic chemistry rears it's head, well...so what? There is no reason why we have to act on every single impulse that passes through our minds.


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