Get it off your chest!

[Niamh]

to every beaten-down soul commenting this thread:

there there, now now

That is so sweet Kandaurov!

[Madhuri]

When some people say (in the beginning of the month) -- that they are falling short of money, do they really mean it? Or is just another way of getting some money out of me, knowing that I dont say no to friends? How can someone make a lavish plan when they know they cant afford it? Why do they plan in the first place and then back off, so that the other person is in a fix? They suddenly become so broke that they cant even afford their own bus tickets. Not that I cant buy their tickets or pay for the lavish plan, but it really surprises me sometimes. I am not sure if they are really in need or just making it up? I dont get money for free, its my hard earned money. Dont they realise what they are doing?

[kilted exile]

**Ok, just going to vent here. Mainly cos I need to get it out my head. Dont feel any need to reply, and I will apologise up front in case any profanity makes its way in.**


I hate feeling helpless.

Some of you who have been here for a while will remember me posting about my younger brother previously, I have no desire in boring the rest of you by repeating it. It has been a couple of years now since the attack took place and I thought he was over most of it (still seeing the plastic surgeon on a fairly regular basis) at any rate he seemed fine. Over the last couple of months however he has regressed and is at times breaking down into tears or scared to be out at night with only one other person.

I am his older brother and I should be able to do something to make it easier or make him feel better, yet I dont have a fragging clue how!!! There are a few things I'd like to do - such as take a sledgehammer find the ######## and smash in their faces - however dont worry you wont see me appearing on the news any time soon, I am fully aware this would make the situation a thousand times worse, but it would make me feel a little better.

There is also a possibility that I may be moving halfway acroos the country for work, something I have to do for myself. It still feels like I am deserting me when he needs me though.

[Shalot]

**Ok, just going to vent here. Mainly cos I need to get it out my head. Dont feel any need to reply, and I will apologise up front in case any profanity makes its way in.**


I hate feeling helpless.

Some of you who have been here for a while will remember me posting about my younger brother previously, I have no desire in boring the rest of you by repeating it. It has been a couple of years now since the attack took place and I thought he was over most of it (still seeing the plastic surgeon on a fairly regular basis) at any rate he seemed fine. Over the last couple of months however he has regressed and is at times breaking down into tears or scared to be out at night with only one other person.

I am his older brother and I should be able to do something to make it easier or make him feel better, yet I dont have a fragging clue how!!! There are a few things I'd like to do - such as take a sledgehammer find the ######## and smash in their faces - however dont worry you wont see me appearing on the news any time soon, I am fully aware this would make the situation a thousand times worse, but it would make me feel a little better.

There is also a possibility that I may be moving halfway acroos the country for work, something I have to do for myself. It still feels like I am deserting me when he needs me though.

Not that you have to do it, but whoever did it does deserve it. They'll get theirs.

[Niamh]

Kilt i feel sorry for you and your brother. It must be very hard for you to see him still so beaten down and truamatised by the attack. I understand why you feel guilty if you have to go away, but sooner or later we have to fight our demons and get on with our lives. I know nithing about what happened to your brother, but nobody deserves to have anything happen to them by thugs. But they will get their comuppence.

[kathycf]

I think I need a break from here to put my feelings into perspective. I noticed several comments that each by themselves would probably cause me a few minutes of annoyance. However, I noticed them all around the same time, and I have to say...I am totally offended, upset and generally PO'd. I feel like I have been slapped in the face and completely marginalized.

This is what concerns me. I must be some sort of weirdo to let this sort of thing bother me, but there it is. Apparently, I am getting too emotionally involved with this forum.

I suppose this seems all very ungracious of me. Let me say, I have met some incredibly warm, friendly and caring people here. My complaint doesn't negate that.

[Lote-Tree]

I think I need a break from here to put my feelings into perspective. I noticed several comments that each by themselves would probably cause me a few minutes of annoyance. However, I noticed them all around the same time, and I have to say...I am totally offended, upset and generally PO'd. I feel like I have been slapped in the face and completely marginalized.

This is what concerns me. I must be some sort of weirdo to let this sort of thing bother me, but there it is. Apparently, I am getting too emotionally involved with this forum.

I suppose this seems all very ungracious of me. Let me say, I have met some incredibly warm, friendly and caring people here. My complaint doesn't negate that.

I was joking about the dancing bananas Kath :-)
Please forgive me :-)

[Madhuri]

I think I need a break from here to put my feelings into perspective. I noticed several comments that each by themselves would probably cause me a few minutes of annoyance. However, I noticed them all around the same time, and I have to say...I am totally offended, upset and generally PO'd. I feel like I have been slapped in the face and completely marginalized.

This is what concerns me. I must be some sort of weirdo to let this sort of thing bother me, but there it is. Apparently, I am getting too emotionally involved with this forum.

I suppose this seems all very ungracious of me. Let me say, I have met some incredibly warm, friendly and caring people here. My complaint doesn't negate that.

I am sorry that you are feeling this way, Kathy. You can never know if it was intentional or not until you ask them. If there are issues then it is best if they get cleared up, I am sure you'll feel better after that. Why don't you PM that person and clarify? (just a suggestion )

Hope you feel better soon.

I will check in my Inbox too

[Niamh]

Hey Kathy! Dont let things here get to you! If i had let every annoyance i've come across on this forum get to me i would have been long gone from here! Next time you come across something that annoys you just tell yourself that the person is being a heartless idiot and that their words aren't going to affect you!
We'd all miss you if you took a break!

[kathycf]

I was joking about the dancing bananas Kath :-)
Please forgive me :-)

Oh, your joke was funny and not in anyway a "face slap". Please don't worry about it.

Maddie, I wish I could be mature enough to just say something to the person(s) but I really can't.

[Niamh]

Oh, your joke was funny and not in anyway a "face slap". Please don't worry about it.

Maddie, I wish I could be mature enough to just say something to the person(s) but I really can't.

Maybe to even just one person? It might make you feel a bit better?

[kathycf]

I don't know. I feel very silly now. If I say something I am just going to look even stupider. Thanks for your input, but I think I just need a bit of time.

[Madhuri]

Maybe to even just one person? It might make you feel a bit better?

I agree. Why do you want to keep it to yourself and feel bad? It is possible that the comment was not directed to you. Just ask the person.

EDIT -- Take your time.

[Niamh]

I agree. Why do you want to keep it to yourself and feel bad? It is possible that the comment was not directed to you. Just ask the person.

EDIT -- Take your time.

Or that person was in a bad mood and didnt mean to be rude to you.

[Lote-Tree]

Oh, your joke was funny and not in anyway a "face slap". Please don't worry about it.

No probs - I was trying to be amusing :-)

Maddie, I wish I could be mature enough to just say something to the person(s) but I really can't.

I think whatever anyone writes on the forum should not be taken seriously. Because we are all anonymous here. No one really knows us. It would be improper to be angry with an anonymous person that we know nothing about.