I can only follow this philosophy of understanding to a point though, especially where violence toward others is concerned.
This is a healthy discussion we are having. When all is said and done ending violence is the most important objective for humanity.
When you say that you can "only follow this philosphy of understanding to a point...when violence towards others is concerned" you actually illustrate the importance of working hard at building bridges between those who act violently and those who are the victims
The issue here is that most victims of violence would say what you have just said. The guy who got shot standing outside a corner store would say the same thing if another person wanted to figure out the deep reasons why someone shot him. I am a Jew and I know that on an emotional level I would not have too much patience for deep understanding of why the Nazis did what they did. And so women also fear that the effort to understand will turn into justification.
Now the crisis this poses is real. The black men who are supporting the violence against women will tell you that they are quite sick and tired of the violence their community is subject to. And both sides in this discussion will be reluctant to listen to each others grievances because what they are fundamentally and emotionally attached to is their condition and not the condition of the 'other'.
Couldn't you very easily imagine a scenario where a person of color gets sick and tired of the violence that has been done to them and really says exactly what you have said, that they really are a hell of alot more concerned with ending it then all this discussion, dialouge, talk and attempts at understanding.
On a fight/flight emotional survival level we are set up to care much more about our own suffering then the suffering of others. And this is most certainly the case when we are being targeted with violence.
Art, for me, is grand because it expresses that which is most human, our ability to think, create, and act in ways that go far beyond core survival modes of fight,eat,drink,sleep. We can create works of such depth, complexity and intensity that art is the affirmation of spirit.
And in that same sense, I have no doubt that humans are capable of reaching out to those very people and communities that they may hate or that may hate them; that they may be attacking or that may be attacking them.
I really see no other way out, other then blood.
We either move forward by building bridges of mutual respect and concern or we build walls, moats and castles with large iron cauldrons of oil to pour on anybody angry, desperate or brave enough to try and scale them.
I have done violence to others. Nothing that has ever resulted in serious injury but that is not what seems so crucial to me. I understand, at least on a personal level(and through the books I have read and the people I have talked to)that those who do violence are the very same who believe firmly in their heart that they have been horribly victimized as well.
If we want to hold on to the one truth that is most dear to me, that all human beings share a granite rock solid core of absolute humanity, then there can be no other explaination for violence other then the one doing it believes and feels it was first done to them.
There are other important points that you raised in your post that deserve attention. I will stop now however and perhaps get to the other points in later posts.
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