It's an interesting point of view, and don't mistake me, people are attracted to who they're attracted to and that's it. But for me (a middle-aged, heterosexual, and not-especially-bald male), I have felt for years that men who get some pattern balding and shave the whole gulliver are more or less being cowards. Women (and other men) ridicule men for being bald, wearing wigs, and "combing over" their hair. But what the hell do they want? Where are men whose hair grows like that supposed to put it? (The answer, of course, is that people want to feel better about themselves by ridiculing others).Originally Posted by papayahed
It seems to me, for example, that wearing a rug is not that different from getting silicone boobs; and that a comb over isn't that different from wearing a padded underwire "wonder bra" (at least men don't wear codpieces anymore). That doesn't really bother me--women can avail themselves of any kind of glamor they choose--but men cowering before that kind of silly judgement does. For me, being yourself is what shows confidence, not fearfully shaving and waxing your noodle lest people you don't even care about snigger at you. Who cares what they think?
Perhaps I should be more compassionate. I don't have a lot of balding, but don't like the thinning and patterning that I do have. Maybe if I had bald spots, or tufts, or a comb over, I'd understand what it felt like to be laughed at. It's true, too, that I don't play the dating game or corporate smack down anymore, and that appearances matter in both of those full contact sports. But I sure don't see head-shaving as a sign of confidence in a man. To me, it seems just the opposite.
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... I've found women either really dig it, or are immediately put off by it. I certainly won't criticize guys for doing whatever they want with their hair, or lack there of, as there's nothing wrong with feeling comfortable with one's own self.
