
Originally Posted by
kiki1982
You are very right in stating that there must be a few criteria for Jane to come together with a husband. But I do not quite agree on that her independence is enhanced by Rochester’s blindness…
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Indeed, it is right to state that he cannot anymore order her to do something, because he cannot see that it is done anyway… But on the other hand, although he is blind, he is still the husband. As such all the money Jane inherited (unless a marriage contract were made that stated it otherwise, which is unlikely because there were only three days to do that in…) is his. As such, Jane still is ‘his’ wife and he has the same authority over her as when he was not blind. Only that authority of course is not desired by him to be exercised. The ‘perfect concord’ which Jane and Rochester attain is not a result of his blindness, or any physical problem, but of his mindset. He no longer has the arrogance to think that he is superior. In that, he may now be the husband, but does not misuse that position. He lets her lead him and does not demand to be led. He now listens to her, instead of telling her what to do. His physical inability does not have anything to do with that. As Jane says he is no ruin but a safe prop where other plants will find good support. In other words, he is a little damaged, but is no less of a man than he was. The only thing that has changed is the fact of the idea of superiority. It has gone when he is blind, but will not return when he can see again and is not anymore totally dependent on Jane. Before, he felt superior to Jane, not only for her situation (as they called it: her status), but also for her becoming ‘his’ wife. The only thing that mattered was he and his decision. He said they were going to travel, he said he was going to buy her dresses, he said they were going to marry (even), he said he did not have a wife. Later, he does not have that mindset anymore and seems to respect her wishes as well. Not because he is dependent on her because of his inability, but because of his mindset. Admittedly he thinks Jane is going to marry (St John) Rivers, but only because he presumes that she will want an able man. He considers himself not worthy to be a husband anymore and does not want the attendance of a nurse because there his (gentlemanly) pride still has an issue. When Jane then gives him to understand that he is still an able man who will offer support to the ones around him he jumps at the chance and becomes a loving husband.
‘Reader, I married him,’ is very seducing and it has been widely considered as a feminist statement about Jane’s superiority because men did the marrying. But we need to consider that Mrs Fairfax asks Jane the morning after the proposal: ‘And you have accepted him?’ The same sentence Rochester says during his proposal: ‘Accept me quickly.’ If put in context, Jane Austen thirty years before talks about Lizzy having Mr Collins, and Lizzy accepting Darcy’s hand. Mr Bennet talks both about accepting him and having him. Rochester asks Jane if she will marry him. In that it is not at all strange that it says ‘reader, I married him’. Maybe men offered (which was considered a compliment in a time with a lot more women than men due to the Napoleonic wars), but a woman was allowed to refuse. Elizabeth Bennet famously refuses twice: once on the ground incompatibility, but once on a more important basis. They were not at all forced to agree and thus it was at least as much the woman’s decision as it was the man’s. Charlotte herself at least refused two proposals. The refusal of St John should also be seen in that light, as Jane considers the two of them incompatible as a couple. They love each other as brother and sister, but for her there needs to be something more to have a good marriage (which you addressed), but also compatibility of mind to avoid irritation.
I do not think the superiority/equality of Rochester lies in his physical appearance or blindness, or even in Jane’s independence with the money she inherited. Unless a marriage contract was made before the wedding (which I stated is highly unlikely), which granted her the exclusive usage of her property and generated income which would have allowed her to divorce Rochester and still be independent, the money would have become Rochester’s upon her ‘yes’. He could still have terrorised her if he wanted, because he had to conduct the business, which of course had to go through her hands (as she presumably wrote his letters), but which had to have his approval. Other than that it was possible for him to engage personnel to do just that task and ban Jane from any business whatsoever. In that, she is as dependent on him as he is dependent on her: if he wants something she does not want she can refuse to write the letter, but if she wants something he does not want he refuses his signature. For a good marriage, in any era, concord is needed. As such, Rochester’s superiority does not change with his physical disability to see and the loss of his right hand, but rather with the acknowledgement of Jane as his equal and not ‘his’ wife which is in his mind and not in his appearance.