Oh yes I am fascinated by Wilde, you are correct, what an interesting figure.
I'm not putting you straight, just giving the best guess from what I've read of the situation - for nobody knows these things for absolutely certainly. There are many inconsistencies when it comes to such details - Frank Miles is the worst offender, by all accounts absolutely unreadable due to the inconsistencies of his first hand account of Wilde.
There is a sort of tragic romanticism about Wilde's arrest. The way he sat back drinking wine in style waiting for it (even if he might not have had much of a choice about it). Have you come across the John Betjeman poem on the matter?:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GH0uPXxA8dg
Good fun.
Very sad though of course, genuinely I can hardly read his final letters, but what a way to await your arrest!
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His two years hard labour was a virtual death sentence. The warden said that Wilde would not survive for much more than two years after his release in May '97 because the conditions in prison were absolutely horrendous at that time (Wilde had almost permanent diarrhoea due to the food and sanitary conditions and the extreme hardship was simply backbreaking) - 'gentlemen couldn't survive it' the warden said and of course he was proved to be correct. Wilde died quite pitifully 30 November 1900. Despite the conditions Wilde was kind and gracious throughout and won over many people, including one of the wardens who took pity on Wilde and allowed him a pen and paper, which was strictly against the rules. Wilde was particularly disturbed by the treatment of children in prison, who were thrown in with the adults for minor offences. It was mainly for this reason, and to help keep his sanity, that The Ballad of Reading Gaol was penned. This was written in realistic style to add weight to the changes in prison legislation that Wilde was trying to help bring about. It was not completed until after his release but was drafted in prison.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKL2KY67Soo