I agree with Qimi that getting a diagnosis isn't just about labeling, but it can also provide some sort of guidance or help in dealing with issues if you want to deal with them.
I know personally that growing up in a home with someone who ignored their mental health issues was not a good place to be, so as much as I respect people's rights to be different and not medicated into a zombie state, I hope that people do seek help when they feel there is something affecting the quality of their life.
"If the national mental illness of the United States is megalomania, that of Canada is paranoid schizophrenia."
- Margaret Atwood
Thanks, Darcy. So, does your problem lie in your personality traits or is it this Robert Pattinson thing?
I truly believe you, but I'm having trouble wrapping my head around that whole thing. I know it's harrassment, but for God's sake don't take your life over that. Can you have a t-shirt made, or even a series of them, that says in big letters "No, I'm NOT Robert Pattinson!"
or "Yes, I AM a vampire and I WILL bite you!" or something? Just for when your running errands. Or carry a poster with a crudely drawn hand with the middle finger up and underneath it the words "This means you"? Or can you and your mates come up with another humorous way to deflect attention from yourself?
Would you be willing to wear sunglasses (hey, it worked for Clark Kent!). Sure, it's annoying, but it's annoying now, and your current solution is depression and ending your life. The trick I think, is to just turn this around, and try to find a way to either be a little more anonymous (if possible) or conversly, outrageous. Mix it up and see what works best.
"The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its' own reason for existing." ~ Albert Einstein
"Remember, no matter where you go, there you are." Buckaroo Bonzai "Some people say I done alright for a girl." Melanie Safka
Also, Darcy, if, say you did have ADHD, it's entirely possible that you have a co-existing problem. People with ADHD are suseptible to having other disorders such as anxiety, bipolar disorder, Sensory Integration Disorder. Here's something for you to look at; if anything sounds like something your dealing with you can take it up with your doctor.
http://www.mentalhelp.net/poc/view_d...e=doc&id=13851
Two books that I found helpful are "Driven to Distraction" by Edward M. Hallowell, M.D., and "You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?!" by Kate Kelly and Peggy Ramundo.
Good luck!
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"The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its' own reason for existing." ~ Albert Einstein
"Remember, no matter where you go, there you are." Buckaroo Bonzai "Some people say I done alright for a girl." Melanie Safka
I totally agree that diagnosis is a good thing. It stops us from fighting an unknown thing in the dark. It sheds light on our 'opponent' and allows finally to work alongside them instead of fighting them and making the most with the knowledge we now have and also presents us with opportunity and potential of overreaching ourselves. We can't do this unless we know what we are dealing with in the first place Darcy.
Before sunlight can shine through a window, the blinds must be raised - American Proverb
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I don't know you, but I can share some general advice I'd tell any parent investigating a specific diagnosis such as what you have shared. The correct label is Asperger's Syndrome. If you have Asperber's there is often a history of a developmental delay, such as motor skills or language. You are very verbal and I assume well coordinated from all the martial arts you do. You have a label of ADHD or just ADD? You take medication for it, which seems to help. I remember you stating at some point that you didn't take medication, so I assume your medication is a new strategy you are using. Hope it is helping. Some people who have Asperger's are not responsive to medication, simply b/c the brain chemistry is different. It can exist with ADDH (co-morbid diagnosis?). A person with anxiety and ADHD, can also look a bit like Asperger's. It's hard to tease out what is what, as it is not an exact science. They is a lot of brain research going on, so hopefully in the next 20 years they can hook people up to a scanner and see the brain function. It is so hard to know when something is not right, but you can't grasp what it is. It can also be as simple as a weaken mental state. Good luck, and I hope you get the correct label!!
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So, I'm a bit confused, Darcy. Do you take the medication because it helps, or because your family wants you to? In general, if it ain't broke, don't fix it.Originally Posted by Darcy88
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"The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its' own reason for existing." ~ Albert Einstein
"Remember, no matter where you go, there you are." Buckaroo Bonzai "Some people say I done alright for a girl." Melanie Safka
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One further suggestion is if you have any documentation of your delays or ADHD, I'd bring it with you to the doctor. Any reports can give the doctor more background information and see your situation more thoroughly.
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Let me just say if you are planning on moving don't move to the United States. Some parts are nice, but these places are hard to find.
Move to Eritrea, hardly any obese people and none of that corporate bull****; there is it just good ol'fashioned warlords.
So where are yo in this process? I know you blogged but did you get a definite diagnosis? If so, who is the doctor, since you said he is world re-known? I am always curious to see if the person has published anything worth reading.
Hello again Darcy, I'm not going to offer you advice as I have a son who genuinely is on the autistic spectrum - it's called aspergus syndrome in his case - and I know I'm not qualified to help him or even understand him (no book I've read on aspergus has given me a satisfactory explanation of what the condition is or what makes a person with it tick) so to advise you would be just fatuous.
I would agree with Aunt Shecky that a literature forum is not the place to look for advice on a medical condition if you are serious about this, but you don't sound autistic to me for what my completely non-medical opinion is worth. My son is 21 and had never had a girlfriend, let alone lived with one. Believe me you don't have as many problems as you think you have.
PS Aspergus is relatively low on the autistic spectrum.
What are regrets? Just lessons we haven't learned yet - Beth Orton
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