What Attracts You First? Poll #2 for Men Only

[Darcy88]

An attractive man has much need for whore houses as they are the only women who do not fall in love with him after he sleeps with them.

This is actually true. I've never used a whore house and never expect to, but, as bad as it sounds, this is true.

[Mutatis-Mutandis]

This poll is supposed to be about the attractiveness of women not their perceived faults. For most men life would be unbearably dull without them.

Which is why I voted for face, butt. breasts, and body.

I admit when seated on a crowded train I study all those groins in my face. How can I not when I'm at eye level with them?

I've always wondered, do women examine a man's groin area to try and discern his endowment?

An attractive man has much need for whore houses as they are the only women who do not fall in love with him after he sleeps with them.

This is actually true. I've never used a whore house and never expect to, but, as bad as it sounds, this is true.

How exactly is this true. If it's true, it must be provable. As it stands, it sounds like the boasting of over-inflated egos.

[Darcy88]

Which is why I voted for face, butt. breasts, and body.

I've always wondered, do women examine a man's groin area to try and discern his endowment?



How exactly is this true. If it's true, it must be provable. As it stands, it sounds like the boasting of over-inflated egos.

Well the opposite is true too.....its very hard for me to have intercourse with a woman I am very attracted to and not find myself soon falling madly in love with her. Actually from the first act I find myself plunging hard into the blessed abyss of love.

Sex releases oxytocin. I remember from somewhere also that physical attractiveness - symmetry of figure and features - itself releases chemicals that push one towards the feeling of love. Physical attractiveness alone can create infatuation and I like to think of infatuation as the initial step on that pyramid which has at its apex the experience of true love.

This is the reason I live like a monk and most often avoid members of the opposite sex as best I can. Its so easy to fall in love. And I know from my experiences with women that it is extremely hard for most women to have sex with a man and not fall in love with him, particularly one that she is to a great degree attracted to physically. When I am with a woman who is able to have sex without any emotional involvement a part of me recoils in horror. It is a thing so foreign to my way of being. Sex and love are in my mind inextricably conjoined.

It sounds like over-inflated ego and maybe it is that as well, but I still think its true. At least its been true in my experiences. One of the reasons I abstain from casual sex is the emotional harm it can do to my partner. So called "friends with benefits" relationships usually result in one partner developing a strong attraction to the other and then suffering the great misery of unrequited love.

[prendrelemick]

Well the opposite is true too.....its very hard for me to have intercourse with a woman I am very attracted to and not find myself soon falling madly in love with her. Actually from the first act I find myself plunging hard into the blessed abyss of love.

Sex releases oxytocin. I remember from somewhere also that physical attractiveness - symmetry of figure and features - itself releases chemicals that push one towards the feeling of love. Physical attractiveness alone can create infatuation and I like to think of infatuation as the initial step on that pyramid which has at its apex the experience of true love.

This is the reason I live like a monk and most often avoid members of the opposite sex as best I can. Its so easy to fall in love. And I know from my experiences with women that it is extremely hard for most women to have sex with a man and not fall in love with him, particularly one that she is to a great degree attracted to physically. When I am with a woman who is able to have sex without any emotional involvement a part of me recoils in horror. It is a thing so foreign to my way of being. Sex and love are in my mind inextricably conjoined.

It sounds like over-inflated ego and maybe it is that as well, but I still think its true. At least its been true in my experiences. One of the reasons I abstain from casual sex is the emotional harm it can do to my partner. So called "friends with benefits" relationships usually result in one partner developing a strong attraction to the other and then suffering the great misery of unrequited love.

Which brings us to the purpose of casual sex.
It's not for procreation and not just to requite lust, it can be about ego and peer pressure, but as you say is, or can be, part of falling in love. Many relationships begin with sex rather than lead to sex. I think there is also a strong urge to get naked and hold someone - to feel safe and not alone for a night, it feels good for both participants.

I should just add I was last in the game way back in the 70s.

[cacian]

An attractive man has much need for whore houses as they are the only women who do not fall in love with him after he sleeps with them.

this word is so offensive. sorry.
there has got to be another less offensive word to use.

[Emil Miller]

this word is so offensive. sorry.
there has got to be another less offensive word to use.

You could use 'woman of easy virtue'.

[cacian]

You could use 'woman of easy virtue'.

Haha yes that's a nicer way to put it.
I think prostitution is bad enough without having to persecute the poeple who sadly involved in it.
Prostitution is one of the worst form of human abuse and so it is already punishing to those who make it so for others to use and abuse.
Those who seek it in my eyes are worst. A prostitute provides a service for some who I feel are lower then prostitution itself.
why isn't there an equally degrading name for them. A punter is almost giving it and getting away with it.
Sorry I do not mean to distract from the thread.

[Delta40]

There is no such word as worser (sorry, but it really offends me) High end prostitutes live a very fine life, are in peak condition, drug free, disease free and highly selective of their clientele. Here in Australia they have an ABN (Australian Business Number) and report their business income to the tax office just like any other business.

Low end prostitutes on the other hand, are not so fortunate in terms of safety, health or income and neither are their honest 'punters' who must get their jollies illegally and at a riskier price to their health. Great fodder for the sickos though.

[cacian]

There is no such word as worser (sorry, but it really offends me) High end prostitutes live a very fine life, are in peak condition, drug free, disease free and highly selective of their clientele. Here in Australia they have an ABN (Australian Business Number) and report their business income to the tax office just like any other business.

Low end prostitutes on the other hand, are not so fortunate in terms of safety, health or income and neither are their honest 'punters' who must get their jollies illegally and at a riskier price to their health. Great fodder for the sickos though.

Sorry Delta I did recorrect the word to worst as I have removed ER and put a T instead. I am sure I have heard it somewhere hence my spelling it that way.
here is a link:

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/worser

About prostitution I think whether it is at a lower or higher end I feel it is still a kind of human abuse because at the end of the day no one wants to sell their bodies for others to abuse. In the same way no one wants a society when men or women are brought to think that prostitution is part of life the norms if you like which is wrong.
At the end of the day, one way or another prostitution will catch up on those who were never involved in it or agreed with it at the first place.
A possible scenario would be that one day someone is going to fall in love or about to marry someonbe and then found out they used prostitution as part of their daily life. Prostitution affects everyone directly or indirectly.
Gving prostitution the same status as a respectable job is risky and badly thought out.
What's next a diploma in it and why not? There is always people who will exploit the idea for money.
The sky's the limit.
I personally do find it offensive for the ordinary people who strive to make a living and the same time struggle to better a life for themeselves and their offsrpings but yet are rebuffed with ideas such as these that think of themselves as liberal and yet long term we all know that repercussions of this calibre are unforgiving for such idealism and liberalism.
what comes around goes around

[Emil Miller]

There is no such word as worser (sorry, but it really offends me)

What about 'wowser' ?
Anyway, I don't really see the need for prostitution in this day and age when women are able to prevent unwanted pregnancy and have a more relaxed attitude to sexual relations. In the past it wasn't easy but since the advent of the contraception pill it doesn't present anything like the problem it once did.

[Delta40]

What about 'wowser' ?
Anyway, I don't really see the need for prostitution in this day and age when women are able to prevent unwanted pregnancy and have a more relaxed attitude to sexual relations. In the past it wasn't easy but since the advent of the contraception pill it doesn't present anything like the problem it once did.

Are you serious? As long as men are willing to hand over cash for this service, there will be a lucrative market for it.

[cacian]

Are you serious? As long as men are willing to hand over cash for this service, there will be a lucrative market for it.

well of course they will they know it is there so why not?

[Emil Miller]

Are you serious? As long as men are willing to hand over cash for this service, there will be a lucrative market for it.

If men are silly enough to pay for something that is available for free, there will obviously be a market for it but, in my experience, the pill made a definite difference to women's attitude to sexual relationships.

[Mutatis-Mutandis]

Haha yes that's a nicer way to put it.
I think prostitution is bad enough without having to persecute the poeple who sadly involved in it.
Prostitution is one of the worst form of human abuse and so it is already punishing to those who make it so for others to use and abuse.
Those who seek it in my eyes are worst. A prostitute provides a service for some who I feel are lower then prostitution itself.
why isn't there an equally degrading name for them. A punter is almost giving it and getting away with it.
Sorry I do not mean to distract from the thread.

What's it look like from up there?

Anyway, I don't really see the need for prostitution in this day and age when women are able to prevent unwanted pregnancy and have a more relaxed attitude to sexual relations. In the past it wasn't easy but since the advent of the contraception pill it doesn't present anything like the problem it once did.

Yeah. I know me and my other ugly friends are just getting laid all the time. Chicks are just throwing themselves at us.

And, just to be clear, I've never used a prostitute. I don't judge people who do, though, nor do I judge the prostitute. Frankly, I've never seen it as a big deal.

[Darcy88]

Are you serious? As long as men are willing to hand over cash for this service, there will be a lucrative market for it.

Agreed. Ridding the world of prostitution is about as likely as ridding the night sky of its stars. As long as there are men in this world with money there will be prostitution. Its natural. What we should focus on is protecting the women who provide this service, guaranteeing as best we can their health and their safety.