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  • Build (slim/petite/burly/zaftig/etc.)

    8 25.81%
  • Breasts

    1 3.23%
  • Butt

    1 3.23%
  • Height

    8 25.81%
  • Body as a whole

    10 32.26%
  • Eyes

    14 45.16%
  • Lips

    1 3.23%
  • Face as a whole

    10 32.26%
  • Hair

    8 25.81%
  • Voice

    10 32.26%
  • Complexion (light/dark skin tone)

    3 9.68%
  • Hygiene

    6 19.35%
  • Grooming

    4 12.90%
  • Graceful movement

    3 9.68%
  • Clothing

    4 12.90%
  • Scent

    8 25.81%
  • Confidence

    11 35.48%
  • Arrogance/Conceit

    2 6.45%
  • Aura of untouchability

    1 3.23%
  • Intelligence

    18 58.06%
  • Kindness

    16 51.61%
  • Humor

    20 64.52%
  • Quiet

    4 12.90%
  • Innocence

    2 6.45%
  • Nerdiness

    5 16.13%
  • Easygoing

    6 19.35%
  • Crazy

    0 0%
  • Cutesy

    1 3.23%
  • Similar interests

    11 35.48%
  • Chemistry

    8 25.81%
  • Tolerance of others' quirks

    8 25.81%
  • Enjoys alcohol

    4 12.90%
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Thread: What Attracts You First? Poll #1 for Women Only

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    Black, white, yellow (?) or whatever - some women speak directly to your second brain, or your libido. Ideally you are looking for someone who entertains the cranial brain too.

    One of the most attractive quality a woman can have is to show an interest in you, to seek you out to flirt with. We shallow men like this, it massages our egos. I don't think this works both ways, because men tend to try and flirt with anything in a skirt.
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    Aloofness is a quality that I find to be a great turn on. An aloof woman, one who looks at me like I simply do not impress her, does in that way greatly impress me. She has to warm up and be friendly, but an initial aloofness bespeaks something, I don't know whether to call it virtue or superiority or shyness or what, but I like it, it turns me on.

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    One of the most attractive quality a woman can have is to show an interest in you, to seek you out to flirt with. We shallow men like this, it massages our egos. I don't think this works both ways, because men tend to try and flirt with anything in a skirt.

    Quite true. Chris Rock explains this reality better than anyone (don't click on this link if you are easily offended or underage.... now eveyone will be sure to look)

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XMiyg87UhL4
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    Quote Originally Posted by prendrelemick View Post
    ... because men tend to try and flirt with anything in a skirt.
    Well almost anything.



    "L'art de la statistique est de tirer des conclusions erronèes a partir de chiffres exacts." Napoléon Bonaparte.

    "Je crois que beaucoup de gens sont dans cet état d’esprit: au fond, ils ne sentent pas concernés par l’Histoire. Mais pourtant, de temps à autre, l’Histoire pose sa main sur eux." Michel Houellebecq.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emil Miller View Post
    Well almost anything.



    Humm there is something quite wrong with the whole ensemble I am not getting the mix of the fashions here.
    I would say wrong shoes and wrong jacket and definetely NO TIGHTS PLEASE!!!!, I will leave the skirt but shorten it so that the legs are showing.
    I will replace shoes and jacket with a see through sheer blouse to emphasise the curves of the arms and body and thrown flats summary sandals for effect.
    Haha that was nice to do liberating!!
    I cannot stand tie and suits so dated as to the shoes oh dear another tighteness not needed !
    Last edited by cacian; 07-10-2012 at 07:09 AM.
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    Here's a natty little number if you prefer a shorter skirt.

    "L'art de la statistique est de tirer des conclusions erronèes a partir de chiffres exacts." Napoléon Bonaparte.

    "Je crois que beaucoup de gens sont dans cet état d’esprit: au fond, ils ne sentent pas concernés par l’Histoire. Mais pourtant, de temps à autre, l’Histoire pose sa main sur eux." Michel Houellebecq.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emil Miller View Post
    Here's a natty little number if you prefer a shorter skirt.

    Emil thank you that is slightely better but I feel the hat must go because a visible likeable face is important to the whole outfit.
    The jacket shoes and socks must definetely go too. A skirt is usually light and indicate summer and warmth time reallly one can't have heated feet inside thick winter socks and a skirt it is a mismatch and it is not comfortable.
    so as recap just a sheer blouse, skirt and sandals with a the rest of the person body and face visible haha
    it may never try
    but when it does it sigh
    it is just that
    good
    it fly

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    Quote Originally Posted by stlukesguild View Post
    I'll offer some degree of defense for Alex... although he's quite good at speaking for himself. First of all... he is but 19 years old and quite likely may not have yet come across a Black or Asian woman that he has found personally attractive. Growing up in a predominantly (almost wholly) White community, I don't think I would have entertained the notion of finding either a Black or an Asian woman attractive myself at that age.

    I will go on to say that there is a degree of hypocrisy involved in this thread when one is asked for an honest response concerning what initially attracts us as individuals... and then when such honest answers are put forth, some are taken to task concerning their answers. Honestly, propriety and political correctness have nothing to do with what we are or aren't attracted to. The fact that Alex has isn't sexually attracted to Black or Asian women would seem to me no more racist than the fact that I have never been sexually attracted to men is sexist. Alex may be wholly respectful... even admiring of Black and Asian women in every other context, but simply finds that he has never been physically attracted to any of them. I suspect there are certain attributes that we all find unattractive to a given extent and as such are not attracted to individuals with these attributes. Obviously, this amounts to a prejudice or discrimination of a sort... but desire... attraction is nothing if not discriminating and propriety, equality, justice, and political correctness have absolutely nothing to do with it.

    And in case some were wondering... in light of my defense of Alex... yes, I most certainly have come across more than my fair share of Black, Asian, and Hispanic/Latino women that I have found deadly attractive. One of my favorite operatic performers... and I'll admit that her appearance bears far more weight upon my admiration than her solid singing abilities... is the soprano, Danielle de Niese, who is of Sri Lankan Burgher heritage... a Eurasian ethnic group, historically from Sri Lanka, involving a mixture of European and native Sinhalese:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P7onnt2OvPY

    Well put, I think you covered it all. Except for one thing I disagree with; which is the lack of exposure to certain races means that one finds them less attractive. Well at least in the case of sino girls.

    I lived for 5 years in Singapore, during a crucial formational period, when began puberty and such. And I would think that my cause for not fining sino girls attractive is over-exposure rather than under-exposure. There were so many there and there were so few caucasians that the sino girl became common and the caucasian rare. And I am quite sure that is why I am not attracted to them, because in my mind they are still common, unlike for most western males. Also I hate it when western guys say I like Asian girls, and yet are unable to see any difference between a japanese korean or chinese girl. I could differentiate the 3 just as easily as I could differentiate between an Italian, English and Bulgarian girl. Yet most western guys don't see these apparent physical differences. It's like when a chinese guy who has never been to europe says I love western girls, and he would not be able to see the difference between a scandinavian and a Spanish girl.

    Also while in Italy there are few sub-sharans, France and England have a strong population of them, and most french and English (white) friends of mine feel the same way, in fact of all my white friends I think roughly 8/10 of them are not attracted to black girls. As St.lukes pointed out it is stupid to think this is racism as racism would be, She is pretty, but she is black so I would never - just as homophobia is not, I am not attracted to guys ergo I am homophobic, so much as it would be Wow I would like to sleep with him, eeew im not gay no way.

    It may be an age thing, but I don't see why that would be. Maybe considering the large segment of white male population which is not attracted to black girls, at a young age black girls are simply uglier and as they grow older they develop better.

    Oh and P.S If you guys use examples of black girls you are attracted to by citing mixed race girls...well... you'r not exactly strengthening your argument. I find the girl in the video very attractive. But she is not black, or if she is included in your definition of black girls, then I too in such a case am attracted to black girls, just not the darker ones.

    Quote Originally Posted by cacian View Post
    I cannot stand tie and suits so dated as to the shoes oh dear another tighteness not needed !

    I am sorry, are you aquatinted with the word "job"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alexander III View Post
    Also I hate it when western guys say I like Asian girls, and yet are unable to see any difference between a japanese korean or chinese girl. I could differentiate the 3 just as easily as I could differentiate between an Italian, English and Bulgarian girl. Yet most western guys don't see these apparent physical differences. It's like when a chinese guy who has never been to europe says I love western girls, and he would not be able to see the difference between a scandinavian and a Spanish girl.
    Lol the Vietnamese guy that works at the cafe outside my workplace (who we call 'Flipper' because he tells girls he's trying to pick up that he is a dolphin trainer) often gets our coffees mixed up when he writes the names on the cups and when we stir him about it he exclaims, 'You white girls - you all look the same!' He's dating white girls but he's young, good looking and I think he's just doing everything he can to get lucky - even if he can't tell the difference!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Delta40 View Post
    Lol the Vietnamese guy that works at the cafe outside my workplace (who we call 'Flipper' because he tells girls he's trying to pick up that he is a dolphin trainer) often gets our coffees mixed up when he writes the names on the cups and when we stir him about it he exclaims, 'You white girls - you all look the same!' He's dating white girls but he's young, good looking and I think he's just doing everything he can to get lucky - even if he can't tell the difference!
    LOL, that says something about the currency of white girls when he dates/prefers them even though they "all look the same".

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    Quote Originally Posted by tonywalt View Post
    LOL, that says something about the currency of white girls when he dates/prefers them even though they "all look the same".
    His mother complains to us that he has no respect for his culture, that he is only interested in anything Australian!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Delta40 View Post
    That is good to hear. Can I have A guy, 6ft, brown eyes, good sense of humour, intelligent WITH A BIG ****??? Oh and extra fries please....
    Haha, you took the joke right out of my mouth.

    Quote Originally Posted by Calidore View Post
    Meantime, I would like to do my part to dispel the generalization of the shallow, physical-attribute-obsessed man.
    Yeah, I noticed that Loka hasn't posted in these threads since the "boobies!" crowd kind of ridiculed him out of the first one. That's something we'd have to look at in evaluating the poll results and responses.

    Quote Originally Posted by Calidore View Post
    Meantime, I would like to do my part to dispel the generalization of the shallow, physical-attribute-obsessed man. Unfortunately, I've realized that the first thing I checked out when looking at the women's poll results was whether any women voted for boobs (One did! Yes!).

    So before I go back into my cave, I'd like to ask this question: Do women who like breasts like breasts in the same way that men who like breasts like breasts?
    Women are attracted to the breasts of other women. I remember the numbers on it from last year's social psychology course, over 30% of females under the age of 30 self-report sexual experience with members of the same sex and over 65% reported same-sex attraction (of course, it was much higher for women - society is more intolerant of male homosexuality). These threads are confusing for same-sex attraction however, so I'd be willing to bet that the one chick who voted for "breasts" meant female breasts. Me, I just answered the "for men" poll and selected the traits which I admire in women.

    Quote Originally Posted by Mutatis-Mutandis View Post
    I guess it doesn't matter that it was women who brought up dating jerks in the first place.
    Actually, it was Neely:

    Quote Originally Posted by Neely View Post
    anyway I don't believe it. Women always say things like 'humour', 'nice eyes' or 'cute smile', but then go for the office/jerk/bad boy/flashy shirt/heavy bank account types.
    ...'Cuz Helga and LadyLuck and all them said they liked kindness. And thus, the timeless battle lines were re-drawn. I'm considering telling people that I was born intersex so that I have an excuse not to play. Imagine how freeing that would be.

    Quote Originally Posted by OrphanPip View Post
    I voted for kindness and humour too!

    Although, I was confused over which poll I should vote in.
    I voted for build, face, arrogance, and clothing, and I voted in both, because .

    Quote Originally Posted by Alexander III View Post
    Also, at the risk of opening up a dangerous can of worms as the saying goes; is anyone else like me, and simply not attracted to certain races.
    Yes, this was discussed very briefly in the first thread when PoeticPassions said that she had a particular fondness for black men, to which I responded:

    Quote Originally Posted by JuniperWoolf View Post
    A friend of mine once asked me "why is it that every girl you've ever liked has looked like the product of a six-generation eugenics experiment?" *shrug* That's just how it is. You shouldn't feel bad if you're particularly fond of dark guys, physical attraction can't be overridden by notions of political correctness.
    I've never been attracted to East Asian or black men. The typical physiological traits just don't do it for me. They work well on a female though. I find that to me there are attractive women in all races, but I much prefer very pale caucasion women with blonde or red hair. My boyfriend's not attracted to hispanic women, but he loves black women, I'd say that's his favorite typical racial trait combination.
    Last edited by JuniperWoolf; 07-13-2012 at 04:28 AM.
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    [QUOTE=stlukesguild;1153626]One of the most attractive quality a woman can have is to show an interest in you, to seek you out to flirt with. We shallow men like this, it massages our egos. I don't think this works both ways, because men tend to try and flirt with anything in a skirt.

    Are you kidding, nothing turns meo on like being chased...by a worthy manof course but still, nothing better than flattery to catch my attention, that said I'm a little vauge, so perhaps it only works because I never notice people otherwise. That said, there is nothing worse than being hit on by a bogan.

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    It was Pensive.

    Quote Originally Posted by Pensive View Post
    Kindness, innocence, honesty and simplicity
    Modesty too.

    However for some reason I have always found the only people who are attracted to me happen to be real jerks who do not possess any of the attributes mentioned above. Maybe I am just not good enough for the good guys out there! (but well that's another topic for discussion).

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    Only jerks are attracted to her? "Jerks are attracted to me" isn't the same thing as "women are attracted to jerks," which is what the majority of this thread has been about. Those sentences are almost exact opposites actually. The sentiments expressed in both posts, "I like kindness, jerks are attracted to me," and "all women are attracted to jerks," are contradictions. So, either Pensive is a liar, she's delusional, or Neely is wrong. Either way Pensive didn't start us on this train, you're the first person to reference that post and this all started with Neely's, as his expressed opinion was the one which was picked up by other posters and discussed.

    Just painting the scenario, not drawing conclusions. And also, what does it matter? have we descended to the "they started it" level? Are you and Neely on a team now, and me and my vagina aren't allowed to join? You know, I was born intersex.
    Last edited by JuniperWoolf; 07-13-2012 at 07:20 AM.
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