what attracts you first?

[Emil Miller]

Thus far, we have...

• Petiteness
• Eyes
• Cutesy
• Messy-brown-hair-with-glasses types
• Pale-skin-black-hair-and-blue-eyes types
• Crazy
• Evidence of a brain
• Rubens
• and so on....

...but I would like to add something that can be spotted before all of those, from a hundred yards away: Graceful movement. That alone can spark your interest, and then, if you like what you see when you get closer, those other traits can do their job.

/Claes

This is difficult to disagree with but circumstances do not always allow for graceful movement. When I was seventeen (yes I still can remember those days) I was crazy, but totally crazy, about a girl who was a year younger. We were both at school although not in the same establishment. The English school uniform for girls is specifically designed to make them as unattractive as possible but when she changed into tennis shorts and a sweater she was beauty incarnate; it was a pity that she was already taken by someone else but her graceful movements when playing tennis have stayed with me to this day.

[Lokasenna]

Dear Loka,

Agreed, intelligence is like gas on the fire, but what about the first ten seconds' impression of someone? You must've felt that. How could you think anybody was smart within the first ten seconds? Maybe poise?






J


EDIT: And also lol at stlukes

Maybe it's just me, but I've usually formed a pretty good impression of someone's intelligence within 10 seconds of meeting them!

[Helga]

Maybe it's just me, but I've usually formed a pretty good impression of someone's intelligence within 10 seconds of meeting them!

I get so nervous around men I sound like an idiot and a jerk so I hope most men stay for more than ten seconds. A cute doctor once walked away cause I said I can't stand people who put milk in their coffee. What is that!

I said eyes are what I notice first and that is true about both men and women, but I can't look cute guys in the eye, so maybe toes.

[stlukesguild]

Lokasenna has moved beyond the mere attractions of the flesh that continue to seduce the rest of us. His ideal woman can weigh in at 375 pounds, have a wart at the end of her nose, a fake leg, and buck-teeth... but he looks beyond all that to the "inner-beauty" of her intellect.


To suggest otherwise would be to admit that Alex was right... and something as shallow as appearances count.

[mortalterror]

Haha everyone has a brain so it is a bit difficult so what do you actually mean by a decent conversation?

Agreed, this is the same as when women say that they want a man with a sense of humor, but in reality if they find a man they are attracted to they will consider him funny. We tend to project attributes we like onto the people we like.

For me, I would have to say proportion above all else, especially how a girl looks from behind.

[stlukesguild]

Ah... so Mortal's an a**-man.

Now, now Emil... there's a difference between "voluptuous" and obese... just as there's a difference between "petite" and anorexic:

[Scheherazade]

Maybe it's just me, but I've usually formed a pretty good impression of someone's intelligence within 10 seconds of meeting them!

I often think that too, Loka. Wonder if that assumption says something about our intelligence

For me, it is the "quiet confidence"... Not to be confused with "arrogance". That is, after cleanliness and general tidiness as hair or eye colour and such do not play a big determining role.

[Sancho]

I want a girl with a short skirt and a long...jacket

I don't know why that popped into my head:

Cake: http://youtu.be/u7aDstrDMf0

By the way, Luke and Emil, I like 'em all from Long Tall Sally to Short Fat Fanny, but you guys are definitely pressing the outside of the envelope.

[Jack of Hearts]

Maybe it's just me, but I've usually formed a pretty good impression of someone's intelligence within 10 seconds of meeting them!

This reader has been bitten in the butt too many times by snap judgments (or even being judgmental in general, but that's another topic). Lost a lot of time with great girls that way. The right kind of girls, even.

I often think that too, Loka. Wonder if that assumption says something about our intelligence

For me, it is the "quiet confidence"... Not to be confused with "arrogance". That is, after cleanliness and general tidiness as hair or eye colour and such do not play a big determining role.

Probably all smart people who have some strong grasp of inductive reasoning do it. This reader has challenged himself to be less judgmental and more open.

There is something to be said for 'quiet confidence,' Scher. Especially in women. Genuine confidence, not the ostentatious fake-ish kind, is so rare that it feels special when this reader meets anybody who has it.







J

[prendrelemick]

1)Small, brown hair, delicately roundish, small nose, large eyes, little lips of red, milky breasts, small and gentle hands and feet, satin skin of either arabian olive or northern pale snow or sun ripened blonde. That is what inspires love.

"

^Sorry Alexander, she's mine.


I was irst attracted to Mrs P by her aura o untouchability. Later I ound our skins matched.

[Jack of Hearts]

^Sorry Alexander, she's mine.


I was irst attracted to Mrs P by her aura o untouchability. Later I ound our skins matched.

Do a blog about it, mick. That's an incredible story... you've got like two generations going because you fell in love with a girl. That could be a story it'd be good for a lot of people to hear.


(This reader does remember you mentioning something about it in one of your blogs a while back- something about puking with her after drinking whiskey? And then later you abandoned her in a snowstorm!)







J


EDIT: And also buy a USB keyboard or something.

[Emil Miller]

Now Emil... haven't we had this discussion before somewhere? I still suspect you are drawn toward those diminutive Asian women who are faithful, devoted and compliant.

Unlike the West, the the beauties of the East are limitless and, although one is often spoilt for choice, I'll settle for this one.

[Scheherazade]

Good old adage, "women should be seen but not heard", comes to mind...

There is something to be said for 'quiet confidence,' Scher. Especially in women. Genuine confidence, not the ostentatious fake-ish kind, is so rare that it feels special when this reader meets anybody who has it.

It is rare not only in women but especially in men.

[cacian]

Interesting posts but it has to be said I never settle for a look because I never know I have seen it. I do a have however a soft spot for the for longish hair look ...I guess that is one starting point.
Then I think wit and cooleness is important after the look bit.

[Emil Miller]

Maybe it's just me, but I've usually formed a pretty good impression of someone's intelligence within 10 seconds of meeting them!

I know what you mean.