I was watching a clip online today and a woman slapped a man across the face. In response, he slapped her back. This raised a question between my mother and I: Is it ok for a woman to hit a man? If it is, is it ok if the man hits back?
I hear "men can't hit girls" often but I never hear how girls shouldn't hit men. Is it ok for girls to hit but not men? If it is ok, why?
"If I knew for a certainty that a man was coming to my house with the conscious design of doing me good, I should run for my life." -Thoreau
Ní mar a dtarraingím mo chuid anála ach mar a dtugaim mo ghrá a bhfuil mé i mo chónaí
(Not where I breathe but where I love, I live)
A man should be able to defend himself. Cases of spousal abuse where the woman abuses the man aren't all that uncommon.
I wouldn't hit a woman unless she had a gun. If she had a knife maybe, but I'd probably still take my chances running away or taking her down. Hitting a woman just seems deeply wrong to me.
Its also not okay for a woman to hit a man, but its still not just cause for a man to hit back.
If you change the scenario to "a man hits another man and then that man hits him back" - is it an entirely different issue?
I think the idea that it is only men abusing women and not the other way around is very dangerous.
I wrote a poem on a leaf and it blew away...
Yeah I can see that. Maybe we hear more of men abusing women because few men would admit to being physically abused by their spouses. But still, the average man significantly out weighs the average woman, possessing a lot more muscle mass and strength. Its like if you were walking down a dark alley-way and a young man was walking your way you might feel a little anxious. A young woman and you'd feel fine. An out of control man can beat a woman to death without much difficulty. Its not the same the other way around.Originally Posted by Charles Darnay
It is a 50 /50 world and I agree women are as bad as men and yes there should a counerargument to readjust the balance.
There was this programm about rape and young women and the add was a young man and women about to have some kind of sexual contact but it turns nasty because the young man is portrayed as the baddie/rapist.
I think there is a danger of stereotyping all young men as being the baddies and the young women the victims.
I think it is again a 50/50 deal because lots of young men also are victim of sexual violence and it is never mentioned by anybody.
It is logial to portray this kind of abuse with both genders in mind as victims which should send out a message that not every one is an abuser .
Victimise the cause/the act itself and not the gender is what I am trying to say.
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Ideally, I'd prefer not to hit anyone.
It would have to be extreme circumstances for me to strike a fellow human being, though I honestly cannot say what they would be. I hope I'm never put in that situation.
"I should only believe in a God that would know how to dance. And when I saw my devil, I found him serious, thorough, profound, solemn: he was the spirit of gravity- through him all things fall. Not by wrath, but by laughter, do we slay. Come, let us slay the spirit of gravity!" - Nietzsche
i think women are more emotional violence. and you can stuff that in your "womens day".
I agree with you. I am all about nonviolence. Though one time I did slap a man... and then he threatened to hit me back, and I kept saying he did not have the balls to do it, and kept egging him on, saying 'c'mon hit me, do it...' This provocation went on for a while... and then he slapped me. And then I stood in shock for a few moments and yelled, 'I can't believe you hit me!'
Ah women... we are complex
"All gods are homemade, and it is we who pull their strings, and so, give them the power to pull ours." -Aldous Huxley
"Sooner murder an infant in its cradle than nurse unacted desires." -William Blake
Why can't the question be if a woman slaps another woman, is it okay for her to slap back? And why can't this be done in an inflatable pool full of mud or jello?
Sexist.
J
A man slapping his girlfriend for slapping him isn't so much self defense as it is revenge, it's not like he can't get away. If your girlfriend is the type to slap you (and you don't like it) then leave her, problem solved.
Incidentally, isn't this International Prevent Violence Against Women Day or something?
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This almost seems to suggest that slapping is international and that all women around the world are slapped which I am sure is unfounded.
Not everyone around the world is violent.
it may never try
but when it does it sigh
it is just that
good
it fly
OK, but does this work the other way around? If your boyfriend is the type to slap you (and you don't like it) then leave him, problem solved?
sure but not without teaching him or her a lesson surely because then he goes to do it to somebody else.
it may never try
but when it does it sigh
it is just that
good
it fly
It is International Women's Day. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interna..._Women%27s_Day
"All gods are homemade, and it is we who pull their strings, and so, give them the power to pull ours." -Aldous Huxley
"Sooner murder an infant in its cradle than nurse unacted desires." -William Blake
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