LOL! There is a number of scholars who were laughing at that theory. I don’t believe it either. I was laughing when I read about Gnostics and their interpretation of Jesus teachings. BTW, Gnostics cults with its sexual practices were sickening. From promoting homosexuality, sex with minors, and bestiality to prostitution. Who with a clear mind would take seriously their teachings? I pass……I leave it to them.Fertility culture in some pagan tribes were something Judo-Christianity had a kind of censored and women had no roles in Christianity and though there are plenty of evidence to endorse the fact that Jesus had a wife and he had a sexual intercourse his followers had negated it callously presenting the image of Jesus as somebody cold and insensible.
Why don’t we leave religion aside? I have my tread about religion and mythology….... I am fully satisfied and I don't like to mix it as it takes our attention from what is important.
Let’s focus on relationships.
Trust me, not all men and women go through that. Please don’t forget that people have different upbringing. You may benefit from reading Giordano Bruno’s book about magic and bonding. He was quite perceptive into the human nature and human desires. Even though he had in mind control and manipulation, his observations are thought provoking. It is an interesting addition to psychology as he looked at human nature from a different angle.When I was somewhat younger and come across a beautiful girl I had to put off the idea of touching her, not to mention kissing her as this is a sin and I was told I have to go through an entire marriage ceremony to engage myself in that act and that is how suppression takes hold of us,
People are different and their desires are different. Think about what would happen, if natural met with moralist. Funny names that Bruno used but the essence is important. If a person who is sensual and loves touch meet with a person who is more moved be mind and entertaining conversation, no matter what sensual person will do, he or she is not going to change a moralist. My point is that we need to know ourselves first before we even think about having a relationship. I am not talking about romance or sex as it has nothing to do with having relationship but short lived, let say, sexual encounter. Therefore, thinking that sexual passion is a remedy for a relationship discord is very misleading. I wish I could create a fourth group that is a mix of naturalist and moralist where both passion and mind are of equal importance.
A few more quotes from Bruno’s book that fit into our discussion.
Humans are bound in many ways. Of all the things which bind, certainly more of them bind humans than brute animals, and more of them bind those who have an active character than those who are dull witted; those who are well endowed in their faculties and powers are aware of more details, circumstances and purposes, and thus, they are moved by more desires.
How the senses are panderers for the bonding agent. Dull witted people are bound by lusts, which are aroused infrequently and by natural impulses, and which are few in number and limited to base nourishments. Such people are not soothed by eloquent speech, nor are they won over by beauty, music, painting or by any of the other attractions of nature.
Why only one bond is not enough. As I am bound by more things, I become aware of the many things which bind me, for there are many different kinds of beauty. Thus, I am inflamed and bound in a relationship by one thing in one way and by other things in other ways. If every relationship were reduced to one, then perhaps one thing would be welcomed for all purposes and for all occasions. But up to now, this has not happened in nature, which has spread about many bonds of beauty, happiness, goodness, and the various contraries of these dispositions, and which widely distributes them separately according to the numerous types of matter. But it does sometimes happen that a person is so tied to one object that his awareness of other things is weakened, overwhelmed and suppressed, either because of the dullness of the senses which are blind to and neglectful of all other things, or because one bond is so strong that it weakens and distorts him. But this is extraordinary and happens rarely and in only a few cases. For example, there are some whose souls seem to be so carried away by the hope of eternal life and by a vivid faith and credulousness, and seem to be so separated from the body in some way, and so strongly bound and controlled by some object in their fantasies and in their opinions, that they do not seem to be aware of the most horrible torments.
What is bound more easily. A person who is more truly human is bound most strongly by the most worthy things, and he prefers much more to seek out more worthy things than to possess base things, for certainly, we are easily irritated by base things and more ardently seek for things which we do not easily attain.
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Originally Posted by ftil
We have to live own lives, embrace all strengths, weaknesses, and passions and learn from our mistakes, otherwise, we will be puppet intimating others. I wouldn't recommend that to anybody. 
I am not the only one.lol Yes, we are bombarded by messages of violence and rape in movies, music videos, or advertisement. It has a deep impact upon a psyche and I can’t deny it but human are not animals and need to take full responsibility for their actions and feelings. I have higher expectations from men. But there are men and there are boys who never want to grow, incapable of building deep and intimate relationships. Trust me, men get the best women. Boys get second or third category, and of course, they get bored or complain, wanting to have another relationship. But they never get the best. 
Those women who attract real men don’t set up for less. But it is fair as like attracts alike.
