Which is worse you think: Divorce or the Death of your spouse(husband/wife)?Why?
Which is worse you think: Divorce or the Death of your spouse(husband/wife)?Why?
Last edited by eighteen_white; 10-18-2011 at 08:21 AM.
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I'd try to answer this question, but it seems that I need more context. I would like to compare the divorce or death to a specific situation/emotional state. Do you mean you love your spouse and he/she divorces you or you love your spouse and he/she dies? OR You hate your spouse and you get divorce or you hate your spouse and he/she die?
Can you modify your inquiry, so it is more clear?
Divorce is preferable to death. Both parties at least have the opportunity to go on and enjoy fulfilling lives.
Even if you hated your partner you shouldn't wish death on them any more than you would want them to wish death on you. That sort of hatred will destroy your life more than theirs, and it also goes against the 'Golden Rule'
Lastly, if you could save the life of someone you loved by divorcing them it would surely be a sacrifice that was worthwhile.
I think that covers all the angles!
Death, obviously. What's so terrible about splitting up with someone? They're still alive.
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It really would depend upon the circumstances of the situation. But I do have an obsessive-possessive personality so my first initial response is that Death would be better. While I would not actually wish them to die, but I would rather that they lived out the rest of their life with me, than know than have the possibility of them ending up being with another person. And well if they died there would still be love and tenderness towards them, but if they betrayed me, it would shatter everything we once had. I would rather have the love preserved, immortalized in their memory than for us to be turned against each other.
Deep into that darkness peering, long I stood there, wondering, fearing, doubting, dreaming dreams no mortal ever dared to dream before. ~ Edgar Allan Poe
This is a very tricky question. Wishing everybody good health, long life and peace is a virtue and wishing death to even our enemy is some thing repulsive. I cannot conceive it. Divorce could be better based on what my civilization has taught me despite the fact that I might have buried inside me a brute that may sponsor a vendetta. I choose nonviolence though I understand its limits and practicality.
Just wondering... Not because it would be a determining factor, you see, but out of sheer curiousity, which one would be less costly?
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LOL! Death every time! Get the spouse insured properly and you can make loads of money! Plus, less money on solicitors!Originally Posted by Scheherazade
Or, did you mean emotional cost......?
Oh Scher, this place would be a lot duller without you.
Death is worst, given, whichever feelings you have toward your spouse.
I actually have to disagree. In so many ways, I feel like divorce is worse. If your spouse dies, then even if it is sudden there is little to understand about it. Everyone will die, and I tend to firmly believe that when it is time, it is time. With divorce, you are left with the undying need to understand what went wrong. Where did things get so complicated that they stopped working, and is there anything that you could have done to change it. You are also left to deal with all the same issues that you had, but now there is a new layer of complexity added into the mix. If your spouse is dead, you grieve and move on, but with divorce you grieve but have to learn to cope with being near that person each day with no remainder of love and intimacy that you once shared. It is much more difficult to maintain your grip on the happy memories.
Divorce could be wonderful. You are finally free, you don't have to fight and you can start something new. More people should break up.
There is hope, but not for us.
I am not sure if I was supposed to laugh at it though.
I sang of leaves, of leaves of gold, and leaves of gold there grew.
I don’t know. I think both death and divorce have the same gamut of emotions. Both involve the loss of someone you love, or loved at one time. Both involve major changes in life styles. Both involve “what-ifs”. Both leave you as the proverbial “fifth wheel” in your group of friends. Either death or divorce could follow a prolonged period of fighting the happening or could happen suddenly, like a bolt of lightning. Either of them could bring devastation or relief. In either case, a single woman could be a perceived threat to married friends. Neither is a good thing, but both are part of life.
It depends.
To some people, divorce can be worse--especially if they're still in love with their exes, and their ex marries someone else. Divorce also is often expensive.
Death can be worse in some circumstances. We need more context.
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