Why do many women find 'the male body' ugly?

[SleepyWitch]

I'm confused. I read this article on Psychology Today about sex scandals etc. and it said the reason so many men have affairs or do other silly things (such as exposing themselves etc) is that many women find the male body ugly.
It didn't go into the details really, but it seemed to say that the reason they
go off the rails is not because they are sex-crazy perverts but because they want attention or affection or something.
I have observed that lots of women never cuddle or compliment their bf/ husband. Also my ex-boyfriends and my husband told me that their ex-girlfriends never cuddled them or told them they are cute etc.
I don't get it. I mean I know that lots of women are still regrettably old-fashioned and take on a passive role when it comes to actual sexual intercourse, because they don't want to be appear slutty etc. But what's wrong with cuddling? Also, in my experience it is those women who say they are attracted to athletic, masculine guys who then go on to NOT cuddle or caress such a guy once they've got hold of one.
Personally, I prefer geeky soft guys and I would feel threatened by an overly masculine guy with lots of muscles and would probably not feel invited to cuddle such a guy. But seeing as those girls say that they fancy this kind of man, what's their problem?
I know this is an all-age forum, so lets try to keep the discussion clean and focus on cuddling etc. and the psychology behind all this, not on sex.

[Emil Miller]

I'm confused. I read this article on psychology today about sex scandals etc. and it said the reason so many men have affairs or do other silly things (such as exposing themselves etc) is that many women find the male body ugly.
It didn't go into the details really, but it seemed to say that the reason they
go off the rails is not because they are sex-crazy perverts but because they want attention or affection or something.
I have observed that lots of women never cuddle or compliment their bf/ husband. Also my ex-boyfriends and my husband told me that their ex-girlfriends never cuddled them or told them they are cute etc.
I don't get it. I mean I know that lots of women are still regrettably old-fashioned and take on a passive role when it comes to actual sexual intercourse, because they don't want to be appear slutty etc. But what's wrong with cuddling? Also, in my experience it is those women who say they are attracted to athletic, masculine guys who then go on to NOT cuddle or caress such a guy once they've got hold of one.
Personally, I prefer geeky soft guys and I would feel threatened by an overly masculine guy with lots of muscles and would probably not feel invited to cuddle such a guy. But seeing as those girls say that they fancy this kind of man, what's their problem?
I know this is an all-age forum, so lets try to keep the discussion clean and focus on cuddling etc. and the psychology behind all this, not on sex.

This has the potential to be the funniest thread ever launched on the forum,
I would comment further but I'm literally speechless. The mind boggles at the forthcoming replies, of which I shall be an attentive observer.

[SleepyWitch]

Hum, I fail to see the humour. But then, I'm German.

[papayahed]

I'm confused. I read this article on psychology today about sex scandals etc. and it said the reason so many men have affairs or do other silly things (such as exposing themselves etc) is that many women find the male body ugly. It didn't go into the details really

I'd love to hear the details. Was there some kind of poll?

[LitNetIsGreat]

Hum, I fail to see the humour. But then, I'm German.

Is that a joke? There's a paradox!

As for the subject, I wouldn't know what to say.

[SleepyWitch]

I'd love to hear the details. Was there some kind of poll?

Nope the article was rather vague and not very long. The bit about cuddling etc. is my contribution, the article focuses more on sexual desire as such. I wasn't sure whether to post it, because it refers to scandals involving politicians, but as I said, I'm interested int he psychology behind it, not current politics etc.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...hts-weinergate

edit to add: ok, it doesn't actually say that women find men ugly, just that many guys have never been told that they are 'hot'.

[Vonny]

Personally, I prefer geeky soft guys

Ackkk, I'm staying away from this thread -- dangerous territory!!

[DocHeart]

I'm confused. I read this article on Psychology Today about sex scandals etc. and it said the reason so many men have affairs or do other silly things (such as exposing themselves etc) is that many women find the male body ugly.
It didn't go into the details really, but it seemed to say that the reason they
go off the rails is not because they are sex-crazy perverts but because they want attention or affection or something.
I have observed that lots of women never cuddle or compliment their bf/ husband. Also my ex-boyfriends and my husband told me that their ex-girlfriends never cuddled them or told them they are cute etc.
I don't get it. I mean I know that lots of women are still regrettably old-fashioned and take on a passive role when it comes to actual sexual intercourse, because they don't want to be appear slutty etc. But what's wrong with cuddling? Also, in my experience it is those women who say they are attracted to athletic, masculine guys who then go on to NOT cuddle or caress such a guy once they've got hold of one.
Personally, I prefer geeky soft guys and I would feel threatened by an overly masculine guy with lots of muscles and would probably not feel invited to cuddle such a guy. But seeing as those girls say that they fancy this kind of man, what's their problem?
I know this is an all-age forum, so lets try to keep the discussion clean and focus on cuddling etc. and the psychology behind all this, not on sex.

Will you marry me?

[Mutatis-Mutandis]

Well, what are women's feelings on the body of a man? Generally positive, no? It seems like many women practically slide off their chair when they see a shirtless Matthew McConaughey. The usual area of contention seems to be what women think of seeing a man's penis. Some women seem to like seeing a dude's junk, and others seem not to want to at all.

As to the cuddling thing, since when? I thought it was usually the guy who doesn't want to cuddle. isn't this the stereotype?

[JuniperWoolf]

Hmm, I've never heard this before. As a female, I spend quite a bit of my time admiring the male body. I think I'd question the validity of the article.

Although, for the record, I do hate cuddling. It's just boring.

[OrphanPip]

I get the aversion to penises though. I don't mind touching them, but I wouldn't want pictures of them hanging on my walls .

[_Shannon_]

I dunno..I am all about the totality of a person, bodies are just vehicles for the beauty of a whole person.

In my experience men are much less tactile and much more visual in their appreciation of the female body, and women are much more tactile and less visual in their appreciation. I dunno, it's also my experience that most men are lazy lovers, and do the minimum to arouse their partners....so it's hard to be all "Dude! You rock my face off in bed!", when they in fact, do not.

[Mutatis-Mutandis]

From Seinfeld:

Jerry: Well, I was walking around naked in front of Melissa the other day--

Elaine: Whoa! Walking around naked? Ahh... that is not a good look for a man.

George: Why not? It's a good look for a woman.

Elaine: Well, the female body is a... work of art. The male body is utilitarian, it's for gettin' around, like a jeep.

Jerry: So you don't think it's attractive?

Elaine: It's hideous. The hair, the... the lumpiness. It's simian.

George: Well, some women like it.

Elaine: Mmm. Sickies.

[JuniperWoolf]

lol That's what this thread reminded me of too.

[Vonny]

Is that a joke? There's a paradox!

As for the subject, I wouldn't know what to say.

Oh Neely, there you are turning up again!

I don't know what to say either, regarding one of the cutest guys on LitNet, other than I will never understand women!! I mean, I see what they do, but I'll never understand them!