to the opposite or same sex?
usually we know straight away when we see the person that we like them because something physically or maybe something else did it for us.
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to the opposite or same sex?
usually we know straight away when we see the person that we like them because something physically or maybe something else did it for us.
Petiteness, if there is such a word. In a world that seems dedicated to the survival of the fattest, small is indeed beautiful.Quote:
Originally Posted by cacian
I'm not original at all and it may sound like a cliche but I notice eyes first.
I think there are different types of people, like combinations of traits that re-occur fairly often. One specific trait isn't really enough to base attraction on. For males, I noticed I especially gravitate towards:
1. Messy-brown-hair-with-glasses types
2. Pale-skin-black-hair-and-blue-eyes types
This is all initial physical stuff though because that's what the OP asked, there's a lot more to attraction than that.
For girls that I find especially aesthetically pleasing, it's cutesy-types with red or blonde hair.
An example of "cutesy":
http://4minuten.eu/wp-content/upload...08-500x666.jpg
Totally off topic,but I have been meaning to say this for a while:Juniper, the text/quote in your signature is so great. Every time I read it, I somehow feel wiser and astounded.
As for the question in the thread-- I would also agree with Juniper about a combination of traits, though there are generally physical traits in men that I tend to consciously or subconsciously find attractive (e.g. a strong jaw line, high cheekbones, light eyes and/or long lashes)... but as far as attraction goes, for me it is usually something inexplicable... just a certain chemistry or spark. I think it has a lot to do with smell (love is half in smells) and possibly hormones, but I always know if there is a potential for something with someone within the first few minutes of talking to them. Or sometimes even before talking... I need to feel chemistry, otherwise no amount of good looks or even great conversation will make me feel (sexually and romantically) attracted to a person.
:yesnod: You can thank Darren Aronofsky for that one.Quote:
Originally Posted by PoeticPassions
If she's crazy, I'm usually attracted to her. I'm always drawn to the crazy ones. I don't know why.
Evidence of a brain..?
Perhaps that's a little harsh, but I am attracted to intelligence above all else. The most gorgeous woman in the world wouldn't much interest me if she couldn't support a decent conversation.
Haha everyone has a brain so it is a bit difficult so what do you actually mean by a decent conversation?Quote:
Originally Posted by Lokasenna
Now Emil... haven't we had this discussion before somewhere? I still suspect you are drawn toward those diminutive Asian women who are faithful, devoted and compliant. I've always leaned toward the other side of the spectrum. Not exactly being small, I've always preferred "voluptuous":
http://www.quick-gossip.com/images/s...ohansson-1.jpg
http://www.ruedechic.com/blog/wp-con...na-Johnson.jpg
Must be why I love Rubens so much:
http://okno.mk/sites/default/files/i...t_of_Paris.jpg
Luckily... in spite of the fact that my wife stands a foot shorter than be, she most certainly is voluptuous.
As for Lokasenna's comment... well it certainly seems the right thing to say. We can't go about admitting that we are just attracted to another human being based upon something as shallow as appearances now can we?:nono:
I do agree that in the long run other elements come into play... such as intelligence, personality, and even shared interests.
Interestingly enough, my wife's area of expertise (nursing) is quite removed from my own. We're actually quite different in many ways... but she is supportive of my interests and I of hers... and so far it's worked out.
Well, you know, someone who is both interesting and interested. Someone who feels easy talking about things that matter. Someone who's abiding characteristic is curiousity. Someone who looks at the world and really thinks about it, and is happy to talk it through.Quote:
Originally Posted by cacian
Dear Loka,Quote:
Originally Posted by Lokasenna
Agreed, intelligence is like gas on the fire, but what about the first ten seconds' impression of someone? You must've felt that. How could you think anybody was smart within the first ten seconds? Maybe poise?
J
EDIT: And also lol at stlukes
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Originally Posted by stlukesguild
OK then have this one on me.
http://img406.imageshack.us/img406/2761/746438.jpg
1)Small, brown hair, delicately roundish, small nose, large eyes, little lips of red, milky breasts, small and gentle hands and feet, satin skin of either arabian olive or northern pale snow or sun ripened blonde. That is what inspires love.
2) Voluptuous and older and brown haired. That is what inspires the great lust.
3) Brains are always secondary to Character. To alter an Oscar Wilde epigram - "there is no such thing as an intelligent or a stupid woman, there only exist dull women and fascinating women"
Thus far, we have...Quote:
Originally Posted by cacian
- Petiteness
- Eyes
- Cutesy
- Messy-brown-hair-with-glasses types
- Pale-skin-black-hair-and-blue-eyes types
- Crazy
- Evidence of a brain
- Rubens
- and so on....
...but I would like to add something that can be spotted before all of those, from a hundred yards away: Graceful movement. That alone can spark your interest, and then, if you like what you see when you get closer, those other traits can do their job.
/Claes
This is difficult to disagree with but circumstances do not always allow for graceful movement. When I was seventeen (yes I still can remember those days) I was crazy, but totally crazy, about a girl who was a year younger. We were both at school although not in the same establishment. The English school uniform for girls is specifically designed to make them as unattractive as possible but when she changed into tennis shorts and a sweater she was beauty incarnate; it was a pity that she was already taken by someone else but her graceful movements when playing tennis have stayed with me to this day.Quote:
Originally Posted by ClaesGefvenberg
Maybe it's just me, but I've usually formed a pretty good impression of someone's intelligence within 10 seconds of meeting them!Quote:
Originally Posted by Jack of Hearts
I get so nervous around men I sound like an idiot and a jerk so I hope most men stay for more than ten seconds. A cute doctor once walked away cause I said I can't stand people who put milk in their coffee. What is that!Quote:
Originally Posted by Lokasenna
I said eyes are what I notice first and that is true about both men and women, but I can't look cute guys in the eye, so maybe toes.
Lokasenna has moved beyond the mere attractions of the flesh that continue to seduce the rest of us. His ideal woman can weigh in at 375 pounds, have a wart at the end of her nose, a fake leg, and buck-teeth... but he looks beyond all that to the "inner-beauty" of her intellect.
To suggest otherwise would be to admit that Alex was right... and something as shallow as appearances count. :D
Agreed, this is the same as when women say that they want a man with a sense of humor, but in reality if they find a man they are attracted to they will consider him funny. We tend to project attributes we like onto the people we like.Quote:
Originally Posted by cacian
For me, I would have to say proportion above all else, especially how a girl looks from behind.
Ah... so Mortal's an a**-man. :devil:
Now, now Emil... there's a difference between "voluptuous" and obese... just as there's a difference between "petite" and anorexic:
http://ehgazette.blogs.brynmawr.edu/...dsay-lohan.jpg
I often think that too, Loka. Wonder if that assumption says something about our intelligence ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Lokasenna
For me, it is the "quiet confidence"... Not to be confused with "arrogance". That is, after cleanliness and general tidiness as hair or eye colour and such do not play a big determining role.
I want a girl with a short skirt and a long...jacket
I don't know why that popped into my head:
Cake: http://youtu.be/u7aDstrDMf0
By the way, Luke and Emil, I like 'em all from Long Tall Sally to Short Fat Fanny, but you guys are definitely pressing the outside of the envelope.
This reader has been bitten in the butt too many times by snap judgments (or even being judgmental in general, but that's another topic). Lost a lot of time with great girls that way. The right kind of girls, even.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lokasenna
Probably all smart people who have some strong grasp of inductive reasoning do it. This reader has challenged himself to be less judgmental and more open.Quote:
Originally Posted by Scheherazade
There is something to be said for 'quiet confidence,' Scher. Especially in women. Genuine confidence, not the ostentatious fake-ish kind, is so rare that it feels special when this reader meets anybody who has it.
J
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Originally Posted by Alexander III
^Sorry Alexander, she's mine.
I was irst attracted to Mrs P by her aura o untouchability. Later I ound our skins matched.
Do a blog about it, mick. That's an incredible story... you've got like two generations going because you fell in love with a girl. That could be a story it'd be good for a lot of people to hear.Quote:
Originally Posted by prendrelemick
(This reader does remember you mentioning something about it in one of your blogs a while back- something about puking with her after drinking whiskey? And then later you abandoned her in a snowstorm!)
J
EDIT: And also buy a USB keyboard or something.
Unlike the West, the the beauties of the East are limitless and, although one is often spoilt for choice, I'll settle for this one.Quote:
Originally Posted by stlukesguild
http://img805.imageshack.us/img805/8...8c9bcdd55o.jpg
Good old adage, "women should be seen but not heard", comes to mind...
It is rare not only in women but especially in men.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jack of Hearts
Interesting posts but it has to be said I never settle for a look because I never know I have seen it. I do a have however a soft spot for the for longish hair look ...I guess that is one starting point.
Then I think wit and cooleness is important after the look bit.
I know what you mean.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lokasenna
http://img705.imageshack.us/img705/3...olishwoman.jpg
I hope that's rare among the general populace. Helga mentioned being awkward around men, but I'm awkward around EVERYONE, even online, where anonymity is supposed to help with those things. I always have been and I don't know why that is. I don't get nervous and it's not about impressing them... I don't know.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lokasenna
Anyway, what I have noticed is that when I see a very handsome guy and he says something stupid or arrogant or anything that reflects negatively on his personality or intelligence, I don't find him as good looking anymore after that.
Overall I try to be open minded, because I know how difficult is to try and get the 'real me' across, heh.
I quite agree. But it is definitely attractive and something that I notice as well...Quote:
Originally Posted by Scheherazade
For what it's worth, I harboured a fairly long crush on a girl who was damn near twice my weight. Looks are a bonus, sure, but I'm far more interested in abstract matters.Quote:
Originally Posted by stlukesguild
People can be awkward (I know I certainly am!), but that really is a completely different thing from having a quick mind. I don't know how, but somehow a person's intelligence communicates itself to me very quickly, sometimes before they've even opened their mouths. I'm not usually wrong, either.Quote:
Originally Posted by TurquoiseSunset
Depending on which theory you believe, there are a lot of different types of intelligence 7, 9, 12, who knows what they’re up to now. A snap judgment on somebody’s intelligence may (I’m using may because I really don’t know) be a reflection of your own intellectual strengths (and weaknesses). By and large, I do think we tend to prefer the company of others who think like us, but that’s getting a little off-topicy.
I think some of us - and I'm guilty of it as well - are attracted to our own kind of intelligence and outlook. Kindness to animals and children are a plus as well. Girls who dislike children are noticed by myself.
Also, I like girls who are washed and scrubbed before being brought to me - joking, kind of...
You mean they are actually brought to you? Well I know there's a lot of wealth stashed away there but I didn't think that harems existed in the havens of shady money or niches fiscales as the French so delicately refer to them.Quote:
Originally Posted by tonywalt
West Indian mix up / mix up women that are a genetic cocktail of; African, Chinese, Indian & Europen. Unbelievable combinations!
As a fan of both men and comedy, I can tell you that's not true at all. Most attractive men are as funny as taxes.Quote:
Originally Posted by mortalterror
Me, I love arrogance. Everyone else seems to hate conciet but I have no idea why. It's interesting, way more intersting than self-deprication.Quote:
Originally Posted by Scheherazade
True! One of the things I like here are the Europeans, mainly British, but other parts of the continent as well.Quote:
Originally Posted by MANICHAEAN
Intelligence. I'm with Loka on this one. I can tell right away.
That being said, for me, the intelligence has to include an awareness of hygiene and composure. I would not be physically attracted to an obese person. I tend to like tall, slender guys. If a guy looks like a live version of Spike Spiegel, chances are I will think he's good looking. My preference here also comes from shorter guys expressing that they don't like that I'm taller than them (5'8"). I'm not interested in people who feel less confident when they stand next to me, and I like to wear heels.
I like women who are similar to me. Intelligent, beautiful, pretty lips, excellent breasts, feminine.
Oh, and I don't care about hair color, eye color or race. Why limit myself?