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Only women can Love truly. Men can't and thats their tradgedy! :D
1. Only women can love truly - I agree 100% :D
2. Men can't and that's their tragedy! - I agree 100% :D
3. Women's Love is like the Ocean and men's like a little pond - I agree 100%;)
5. Both option 1, 2 and 3 are offensive :D - I agree 100% :flare:
6. Both option 1, 2 and 3 are so lame as it bears no truth - I agree 100% :D
Yes, you are right in saying all three options don't seem to be truthful at all.
There is little known when it comes to love in psychology.
Love may be better defined in religion, but if the truest is that of God we all fall short.
Men and women love differently and few reach their genders potential.
It's not gender, but individuals and their E.I. (Emotional Intelligence).
But in Evolutionary context Men and Women indeed "love" differently.Quote:
Originally Posted by NickAdams
Actually every individual loves differently.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lote-Tree
:lol: I see Lote is back with his provacitve questions. good question, but i think the options are lame. I like Nick's reply to this. I agree with Nick. I wonder which he voted for.
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Originally Posted by NickAdams
only women can truly lust after celebrity old guys :D
I am beginig to worry about you Sleepy - kissing false teeth does not put you off at all ? ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by SleepyWitch
How could you know, unless you have been both?...
sure it does, which is why I fancy only those who've still got their own set of teeth :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Lote-Tree
If you are loved by one?Quote:
Originally Posted by TheFifthElement
All that gives you is the appearance of how they love, but knowing how they actually feel...well, that's a different story.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lote-Tree
If we were to actually feel how someone else feels inside then world would be a different place won't it? Murderer would know exactly how it feels to be murdered?Quote:
Originally Posted by TheFifthElement
Yes, and a lover would know how it feels to be loved. A different place indeed.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lote-Tree
I went with the only possibility: It's lame and bears no truth.;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Virgil
I did my fair share of lusting over Ashley Judd and Diane Lane.:blush:Quote:
Originally Posted by SleepyWitch
The ability or inability to love is not confined by the sexes. I've seen many mothers who can't even love their own children. More important to the question what is the quantification of loving truly? Is in unconditional love? If that is the case, then both sexes can have it. The feeling is normally only about a child, though.
I'm in agreement with what Nick so eloquently said here. The only thing that I am not sure on, though, was this Emotional Intelligence thing....Quote:
Originally Posted by NickAdams
Good thread, Lote (as usual), and hey, love that new avatar! :)
I think mkhockenbarry was right on target, and I have to disagree with Nick. Now I haven't studied a whole lot of psychology, only a few books, but I think they understand love very well. For one, the psychologists themselves are people who have families and love, and I'm sure it is an inspiration for them and something they are trying to figure out. I learned so much about love and relationships from Dr. M. Scott Peck. He talks about love as a feeling and as an action. Lol I just realized that para was ended very lousy...
Now it would be very valid to say that these are only opinions, observations and notes, and so they're not knowledge. And so ceding that I cede it all, but I would say psychologists can define love well.
Socrates and the old philosophers also talked about love. :) Kind of interesting. But in those days this wouldn't be understood. I think it was more the opposite. For some people of course.
Anyway, I think between the two authors Dostoevsky and Hugo all is said.
Er, actually that isn't clear, so what I think is that both men and women can love equally deeply, yadda yadda. Perhaps the schizophrenic can love deepest of all...
And when I said Dostoyevsky I had White Nights in mind, and when I said Hugo I had Les Miserables, the only book I've read by him, in mind.
Of course men can love deeply. Even if some don't. Others have. And even if we are talking about majorities, and saying a majority is one way or another, capacity is another thing.
Bueno! Beauty is Truth and Truth Beauty :DQuote:
Originally Posted by kiz_paws
I will reply to all once I get home.;)
I'll post the explanation of EI later too.Quote:
Originally Posted by kiz_paws
Pheesh!:p Nah! It's not true.
Maybe men have a harder time showing love than a woman.
Only women can love truly. Men just want to use women.
Even in a married couple the woman usually loves her husband more than he does her.
Not true. Men are capable of loving just as much as a woman can.
There are some women out there that use men and some men that use women.
It goes both ways.
You know what I am talking about Baki :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Bakiryu
I don't think that's true at all - perhaps in an unbalanced marriage, where the woman has low self-esteem (as many women do), and the man is selfish. Perhaps this is why many marriages fail?Quote:
Originally Posted by Bakiryu
Marriage fail because of men! Men can't live without sex. Women can :DQuote:
Originally Posted by TheFifthElement
Is the pylon pic from one of your collections :D lol
I don't think that's fair Baki. I know lots of men who love their wives strongly and quite possibly more than the wife loving him. Sometimes men don't show it as well as women, I'll admit that.Quote:
Originally Posted by Bakiryu
That's because for women, there are always rabbits ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Lote-Tree
Yes :lol: ! Do you like it? There will be more.Quote:
Is the pylon pic from one of your collections :D lol
LOL :DQuote:
Originally Posted by TheFifthElement
How can men compete with that !!!!! ;-)
We will just have to wait for the invention of the Holodeck or fembots in the future :D
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Yes :lol: ! Do you like it? There will be more.
LOL :D very nice - it looks like a four handed women - like Kali ;-)
We're being attacked Virgil.:lol:
Women, or atleast my wife, needs to hear and see cliched love signals to know we care, but a lot of the things a man does for his wife she will never know- or won't be the right way of showing.
When my wife has to be to work at 5AM, I wake up with her at 3AM to walk her to the train. When she gets out late, I walk to the train station to walk her home. If there is a last anything in the frig, I leave it for her. I do small things that don't scream I love you, but she is happier for it and that's what matters.
There is more, but Virgil knows what I'm talking about.
You know the remake of Texas Chainsaw Mass, when the boyfriend has the ring and his girlfriend doesn't find out he was going to purpose until she finds the ring on his dead body? That's what a guy love is. It's unnoticed and tragic ... and a great idea for a book. :lol:
PS: I will post the psychology and EI stuff tomorrow. As promised. All will recieve their island or kingdom on dry land.;)
[QUOTE=Lote-Tree;431878]Only women can Love truly. Men can't and thats their tradgedy! :D
1. Only women can love truly - I agree 100% :D
women truly love shopping. men truly love women :p
2. Men can't and that's their tragedy! - I agree 100% :D
Men can love truly and that's why women desire them. :p
3. Women's Love is like the Ocean and men's like a little pond - I agree 100%
Men are the Ocean and go skinny dipping in a little pond. :lol:
Whoa, whoa!!! Hold up a minute there...Ain't no reason to jump to conclusion.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lote-Tree
Men can live without sex...Of course, it's just more difficult for 'em. Ugh.:sick:
And who ever said women can live without sex?
http://i124.photobucket.com/albums/p...hipendales.jpg
Your reaction? Is it getting hot in here?
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Originally Posted by Neo_Sephiroth
Yeah...I didn't need to see that. Its quite frigid on my end...so cold that Mr. Snow Man can't stand it.
I think both sexes can and can't live without sex. Some people just have more self-control than others.;)
Ha ha :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Neo_Sephiroth
Okay, well I've got mixed feelings on the issue. I think sometimes men might love the woman more than she loves him. Sometimes women have a hard time of showing their love...I know I do...and I am of the female gender;)
I have a really hard time of saying "I love You"...I think its different in every person. I've seen plenty of girls just 'play' with boys that are totally infatuated/in love with them...I don't think its fair to say that men are incapable of love. I don't/can't/refuse to believe that. Maybe people just have a harder time to show how much they care for other people...maybe the stuff they do just goes unnoticed...Maybe some people just need more attention than others so then they feel as if they aren't being loved properly. I'm not saying that that is always the case...but I don't think that it falls just on the males.
I've got your back Nick and Virg.:)
And I think females need sex just as much as males do. Thats all I'm going to say about that.
Can't appreciate such jokes! Sorry, Lote. Or are you really serious?Quote:
Originally Posted by Lote-Tree
And if Research should this is the case - would still not appreciate it? :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Pensive
Yes, both men and women have the capacity to love deeply, regardless of whether some men don't show it, or some girls lead on boys who are in love with them. Besides, we can never know what the accurate statistics are, can we?
Both men and women are capable of deep, intimate, love. The problem arises out of two important considerations:
1. We define "love" pretty loosely and often incorrectly - e.g.: "I love cats, I love my car, I love my wife." Right - so what does "love" mean? Since love is actually a choice (rather than a feeling) both genders are capable of the same depth of love (though men, through their inherent ability to compartmentalize can more easily isolate it, and women, through their relational wiring, integrate it more fully into their existence).
2. Men and women experience love differently; the old high school maxim that "girls give sex for love and guys give love for sex" is actually fairly accurate. For girls (and this is a generalization ladies, so go easy, OK?), sex is but one possible expression of "love" - but for guys, that often is THE expression of love. In other words, guys feel loved in the act of sex - it is the most powerful experience of "love" we can have - and because women can experience love in many other ways, they are less focused on it than men as a definitive method of communicating love. Yes, I know there are exceptions and such, but I think that both genders are capable of true "love" (whatever that is).
Nope. Researches can be claimed to be made by jokey-jokey ones who don't consider such claims instead of making people laugh annoy them at their choice of jokes/research.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lote-Tree