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Since the attraction threads have proved so popular, one cannot help but wonder what the opposites are.
Some attributes that I do not find attractive:
Lack of hygiene
Passive-aggressive attitude
Loudness
General lack of sympathy, kindness and generosity of soul towards others
and drum roll, please:
Extremely good looks (or tendency to think so)
"Extremely good looks (or tendency to think so)"
The opposite for me, In terms of self perception. It's not being cocky it's loving yourself and the more the better. Anorexia, bulimia and those oh so damn common "well I'm okay, but I hate my body, I have a nice *** though" statements sicken me. What is wrong with you, why would you hate yourself? Why not love yourself, think you're beautiful! That is hot, that is sexy, that is probably the most attractive quality a person can posses. It's a complete f you to everything we are forced to believe and it's stuff that kills.
I find content unattractive in general. You live once, why should it be good enough? What a waste.
long fingernails on a guy
Men who ask to borrow money not as in hey, I bought the tickets can you get the popcorn but as in hey, can you pay for my car repairs. Dude, where's your emergency savings?
Girls who act really Dumb-super annoying. Some are quite smart, but act that way for my benefit?!?! It's not as common with European girls -actually kinda rare.
Oh yea, what else - girls who scream OMG and Awesome etc...a little bit is ok, but too much squeaking is an irritant.
Overly loud.
People who are afraid of themselves and have to adopt the mannerisms of those around them for fear of societal rejection.
Liars. The extreme opposite may be just as bad - the overly honest type - but people who lie to me about important matters don't count for much.
The ones who spend half their time lying comatose-like in tanning beds and who like whatever is fashionable in the mainstream. Girls who say they really love to read but can't ever seem to find the time to read and get annoyed when I decide to read rather than watch a movie. Girls who fear commitment is number one, I'd honestly rather face immediate damnation than ever again fall in love with a young woman who simply can't seem to fall in love, no matter how much they LIKE me.
Girls who do not know what a proper diet entails, who pump themselves full of soda pop and skip meals and graze on convenience store food. A young woman who is embarrassed by public displays of affection will not own my heart for long. I like to pick my woman up, ravish her, put my arm around her. I respect some rules of decorum, especially when kids are around, but I really like to show the world that she's my woman, and I like the opposite, I like seeing young women be jealous of my woman. My girlfriends are always beautiful but they are not these tanning bed bleach blonde barbie types and my women usually drive said barbie types nuts. I like to show off my girlfriend and I like to be shown off by her.
A closed mind is a pretty tough nut for me to crack. If a girl is homophobic, racist, antithetical to any of the world's main religions and their adherents, is unable to see both sides of the philosophical and religious coin, I will be quite turned off. Racism and bigotry are big turn offs for me.
An unwillingness to learn. Some young women don't want to hear about Milton or Freud or Homer. They are comfortable wearing blinders and shriek every time you attempt to enlighten them on anything.
A girl who does not love and respect nature. Some young women just do not like nature. They can't handle the lack of electronic stimulation, the bugs, sleeping on an air mattress instead of a bed.
A young woman who does not know how to inflate my ego when its been obliterated by some life event. If I am feeling down I need her bring me up, not harp on about how much I messed up.
A woman who is too materialistic.
In the end, I need a young woman who is comfortable with and respectful of me, during times when I am strong and weak, healthy and sick, happy or down, agitated or apathetic.
O_O; Darcy, that's a long list. You really thought this through, didn't you?
As for me, self-centered and unethical people are a complete no-no on my list. Anything else can be worked out, eventually. But if you lack those two, you wouldn't have the needed commitment to change and fix the bad things in you.
So yeah, the unrespectable and unethical.
Ah, but ethics exist on a per person basis. There is no true wrong and no true right. What you might see as being wrong, someone might see as being right.Quote:
Originally Posted by Monamy
Really hairy men. I mean so hairy you could crochet something out of them - but you know, they might be really nice, intelligent and have a great sense of humour which would affect my eyesight....
I should clarify.Quote:
Originally Posted by Revolte
I do not mean people who are content with their physical qualities but those who spend hours in front of the mirror as well as a small fortune to "improve" their looks... Those who are obsessive about how others perceive them physically. And that includes excessive physical training as well.
Another thing: People who fuss over food and drink.
I would, of course, like to have good quality but I find it very annoying when people keep talking about how their steak was not perfectly done or how their pasta was over cooked by 30 seconds. Have been out with people who actually sent their food or drinks back and I find it very embarrassing. I don't get it right every time at home myself and if one meal out of thousands in my lifetime does not turn out "just so", I feel it is OK.
I'm aware of that, but some people are so selfish they'd see the wrong in the actions of others, but they would not see it if that same action came from them. In other words, Hippo-crates.Quote:
Originally Posted by Revolte
Fatness, then again there's fatness; not to mention fatness and what about fatness? But in thinking about it, at the end of the day and with all due consideration, it comes down to fatness.
You do know that some people can't help the genes they have inside them, right? ^_^;
I agree with both... I don't like cockiness or those who obsess over their looks, nor people who are really fussy about food. I also do not think I could date a guy that really did not like to eat and found food to be just something that he needed to ingest in order to survive... I'm a gourmand, so I like others that are as well...Quote:
Originally Posted by Scheherazade
In addition, I find the following extremely unattractive:
-Bad body odor
-Any fundamentalist views (religious, nationalist, racist, etc)
-Intolerance or unwillingness to engage with people of different backgrounds, views, opinions, etc.
-Bad/improper etiquette (or having none at all) and/or rudeness
-Passivity or inactivity (general and prolonged laziness)
-Someone who is not curious (to learn new things, to try new foods, places, activities, etc)
-Someone who is constantly negative and a total downer
-Extremely overweight individuals (the way you treat your body reflects a lot on your mental health as well and your will power and character)
-Lack of compassion AND passion
The title of this thread is: What do you NOT find attractive?Quote:
Originally Posted by Monamy