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Though I will not attempt to define 'love' in its complexity vs. simplicity, and I have avoided this thread for that reason, I remember reading some such poem (and I cannot remember who wrote it), that went something like --
Love is . . .
Lessons
Of
Venus
Embodied.
:)
On an individual level about love between two persons (bf and gf), love is about two person sharing a common soul. When two persons no longer share that common soul, then the strain of keeping the love relationship becomes more and more problematic.
Your gf has her reasons for her choice and she has her needs and wants. If you cannot provide for her and she need or want what she desires badly enough, then she will move on. To love someone is to share her soul. If you love her, help her to achieve what she desires. If you cannot help her, the useful and gracious thing to do is to give her the freedom to pursue her needs/ wants.
Just my humble views about love.
I do not think that I can be taken seriously today. I saw the heading for this thread and started singing "What is love? Baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me, no more"
I hope that people are familiar with this song because otherwise I just look kind of funny.
Don't know if I answered this one already, but I will come back to it.
True or not, I don't think the girlfriend had any particular interest in sharing Aragorn's soul.Quote:
Originally Posted by Fat29
I understand that nothing happens without a reason; and we have heard Aragorn's story so far, but not from the girl's story (which is not possible in this case), having said this I am not trying to take the girl's side, just trying to analyse why the girl might have done such a thing to Aragorn.
It is quite possible that the girl did not have the courage to bring up the real issue in the relation and made up this execuse for breaking off. And how can a person let go someone with whom they have been for about two years just because one day they said they wanted material things. I sometimes wonder how could he accept such an execuse to break off whithout going deeper into the matter.
So far as my experience goes, long relations dont break off that easily and such are certainly not the reasons (it might be from the outside, but I think that there might be something that is beyond the car that the girl demanded).
It might be that, if the real reason was told Aragon must have started feeling bad about himself and she let him think bad of her instead of him. And I also think that certain times people dont disclose the real reason as they are aware that the situation instead of improving might become worse and discussing wont lead to any conclusion, or to simply not start the pain and hurt associated with a break off resulting from the real reason. The consequences of the break off are very evident in this case because obviously Aragorn is feeling bad, but he also has this at the back off his mind that he was not the one who did it (which could exactly be what the girl wanted him to think), and maybe he is getting some comfort from this feeling of being the one who did not betray.
These are some of the thoughts that came to my mind, I might be completely wrong.
Love is about sharing a common soul. If the gf don't share Aragon's soul or vice versa, then it brings to the point that there is no common ground. Hence, love becomes problematic if both parties try to carry on the relationship. May all find their soul-mates. Regards.
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Originally Posted by RobinHood3000
You people think you know, eh?
Love in relationships can be described as "getting along". True Love is conceived by true Justice. One cannot love if one does not have the components of justice figured out. And neither can the two virtues be seperated.
I quite agree with Fzeko' opinion.
Love exists outside our cognition or participation in it. It is quite possible to be loved by one or many people and to never return those feelings. And the reverse is true as well. Love does not depend on our seeking nor our individual concept of it.
Love, seems to me, to be a choice by individuals to embrace and learn. It is putting our self gratification aside for the greater benefit of the person or thing we seek. It is possible to love things, ideologies, people, places and to love them to such an extent, we are willing to die for them -- which is the ultimate expression of denying one's self.
Love is not automatic, it is experienced from another, then we choose whether we wish to continue the experience and love others. The purity of love is in how much of our self/desires/motivations we are willing to give up in order to serve/care for/protect/spend time with an entity that is not part of us.