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Originally Posted by starrwriter
I'm sorry, Starr, but what you just said is of serious insult to both your personal intelligence and integrity. Believe it or not, there are things women enjoy doing besides man-catching. You must have really went after the lemons, man... I wish you only better luck in the future, though you might have to change your attitude first. Mistrust is too often a self-fulfilling prophesy.
Also, I agree with Sher when she said she doesn't want a "protector." I mean, I'm not always frigid and politically-correct; I think it's cute when my boyfriend can get things off high shelves for me, and then teases me about me being short; and I like that thing where we're walking on the sidewalk, and someone is coming the other way, and I move in front of him and he automatically puts his hand on my back to "guide" me—I think that's so cute!—; so, yeah, I like some of the "protective caretaker" stuff. It makes me feel... cared for. But I don't want someone to do everything for me—I insist on paying my half when we go out to eat, or to the movies. Sometimes he takes me out on "real dates" and pays for everything, but sometimes I take him out, too, and insist that he doesn't pay for himself. It's fun; I like feeling like a caretaker, too. I like doing silly domestic things, like baking cookies for him; but for a housewarming present, when I first moved into my apartment, he made me coconut macaroons, my favorite! And, again, we often get together just to cook together. I love a man that likes to cook!
I would hate, hate, hate to have a guy who is jealous and controlling; the type who would get in a fight with another man if he hit on me—or over anything, for that matter,—as if assuming that I would automatically go to any man who extended the opportunity, or that I was too weak-of-mind to tell someone off myself. That wouldn't make me feel cared for, it would make me feel like I was dating a possessive jerk. I like balance of power in a relationship. But, again, that doesn't mean I want to have power over the other person... Anyway, that's what I mean by "freedom;" the freedom to be my own person, and make decisions for myself. It's a shame if one views "freedom" as a kind of power game; that if one gives a partner freedom, he or she will only use it to hurt you. Personally, I don't view romance as a series of one-up-man-ships.
Who would have thought it would be so hard to describe such a basic idea as that of equality and mutual respect? I'm just sorry that some people can be so unlucky in love—or weak of character; take your pick—that bitterness utterly pollutes their opinion of women/men as a gender.
