Ladies, what don't you like to be called by men?

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Originally Posted by crystalmoonshin

Do men want to be called "my man" by women???

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Eh, thats a bit My man Jeeves-ish isnt it?
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Originally Posted by BienvenuJDC

Chick is a reference that I THINK came from the Hispanics.

'Chica' is girl!

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Or of course it may have come from the fact that mothers have a tendancy to get called mother hens if they are very fussy with their kids so may be teh term "chick" was a reference for an unmarried girl? also as pointed out, its short for chicken and chicken is used widely as a term of endearment. :) For example, " How are you feeling chicken?" is commonly used here. were we would have the term "chick" we do have other winged animals used in reference to girls ans usually as someones girlfriend. "Bird" and "moth" (pronounced with out the T sound *cringe* )I hate these as much as a girl calling her boyfriend "me fella" or another girl "young wan".

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Originally Posted by crystalmoonshin

There's this one guy who said to me, "See you around, my fair lady." It was the first time a guy called me a fair lady but HIS fair lady???:rolleyes: I absolutely hate phrases with possessive pronouns like "my girl", "my woman" or whatever "my" phrase coming from a guy. Do men want to be called "my man" by women???

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Sayings like "my fair lady", "my girl" etc are just sayings. The possessive is not supposed to be taken seriously and personally. When you hear that from someone, they're just being playful and friendly. Most of the time they really don't mean to "have" you. These are nuances, not to be taken literally.

Sometimes, in certain extreme situations, you want to get rid of someone, you'd say, "I got to run, my dear" and that's unisex, you can say that to a guy, a woman can say that to another woman, even when that person isn't that dear to then, again, it's just a saying.

Not to go off subject, people at a workplace, in passing, may say: "hey, how's it going" and they keep walking. Now that's not a question to be answered, they're not rude, it's a greeting and a polite acknowledgement of your existence. Most likely they are preoccupied, they have a meeting to go to, or more importantly, they're en route to their cup of coffee.

No one but my S.O is allowed to call me anything aside from my name. For a stranger, or casual acquaintance to call any woman.....honey, baby, or any of the ones mentioned in this thread is patronizing or sexist, whether subliminal or not.

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Originally Posted by crystalmoonshin

Even friends won't be spared a cold shoulder or a kick or a punch from me if they use that word to address me.

I am flattered when guys call me "lady". )

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A lady would never use kicks or punches.:)

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Originally Posted by crystalmoonshin

loveydude (which I first heard from my sister)

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Didn't know this one... sounds nice, I believe :)

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Originally Posted by crystalmoonshin

I especially hate it when men call women "chicks". It somewhat carries a connotation that a woman is meant to be food for men's fantasies, :flare: well at least to me. Even friends won't be spared a cold shoulder or a kick or a punch from me if they use that word to address me.

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It's a very comprehensible feeling. Too many hungry men out there wanting to eat persons of their opposite gender. Me wonders if they have any other thing to do with their time, apart from eating.

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Originally Posted by crystalmoonshin

I am flattered when guys call me "lady". Friends and relatives tell me I'm SO childish and everytime I'm addressed as a "lady", I feel matured :D. (But it's kinda disappointing to learn its origin. HMPH!)

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Origins are just that, origins ;)
As I said before, "lady" is actually my preferred term to address a... lady :)

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Originally Posted by crystalmoonshin

I absolutely hate phrases with possessive pronouns like "my girl", "my woman" or whatever "my" phrase coming from a guy. Do men want to be called "my man" by women???

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I do... if she is whom I'm thinking about right now :brow: ... :p

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Originally Posted by Nightshade

Eh, thats a bit My man Jeeves-ish isnt it?
:p

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It may be seen that way :p

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Originally Posted by Haunted

Sayings like "my fair lady", "my girl" etc are just sayings. The possessive is not supposed to be taken seriously and personally. When you hear that from someone, they're just being playful and friendly. Most of the time they really don't mean to "have" you. These are nuances, not to be taken literally.

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True... in most cases. There are people out there wanting to possess others, you know :brow:

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Originally Posted by Haunted

Sometimes, in certain extreme situations, you want to get rid of someone, you'd say, "I got to run, my dear" and that's unisex, you can say that to a guy, a woman can say that to another woman, even when that person isn't that dear to then, again, it's just a saying.

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True, mostly a saying. They don't "dear you" that much.

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Originally Posted by Haunted

Not to go off subject, people at a workplace, in passing, may say: "hey, how's it going" and they keep walking. Now that's not a question to be answered, they're not rude, it's a greeting and a polite acknowledgement of your existence. Most likely they are preoccupied, they have a meeting to go to, or more importantly, they're en route to their cup of coffee.

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... or they don't care at all about you, and just pretend to care a little to merely satisfy society's politeness rules (or hypocrisy?) ... me wonders ... who cares about whom, when, and why? :brow:

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Originally Posted by Brian Bean

A lady would never use kicks or punches.:)

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Well, I'm a lady warrior. :p And I admit that I am un-ladylike. Still, it pleases me when someone calls me a lady. It's as if that someone sees my feminine side despite my seemingly boyish ways.

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Originally Posted by Brian Bean

A lady would never use kicks or punches.:)

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Originally Posted by crystalmoonshin

Well, I'm a lady warrior. :p And I admit that I am un-ladylike. Still, it pleases me when someone calls me a lady. It's as if that someone sees my feminine side despite my seemingly boyish ways.

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Circumstances, and not protocol, define what to be a lady or a gentleman is, I believe. At times, the best way to be a lady or a gentleman is to kick and punch :)

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Originally Posted by Maximilianus

Circumstances, and not protocol, define what to be a lady or a gentleman is, I believe. At times, the best way to be a lady or a gentleman is to kick and punch :)

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OUCH :redface:

So, Max, are you that good a gentleman? :lol:

wow...I can't believe "chick" is winning on this poll. I've never seen chick or chica as being offensive.

I'm sure some of these have different connotations depending on where you live

I know of a few women who don't like being addressed in such a way because they find it quite patronizing.

Personally, I really don't mind it at all... I think alot of men find that it's just a natural part of conversation, and they don't mean any harm by it.

I suppose it can be quite endearing/complimentary (especially from friends and acquaintances.) Alot of my male friends refer to me as "darling", "m'dear" or something similar.

However, I must admit... I wouldn't be offended as such, but I'd be quite taken aback to hear "chick." That's not something that's used very often around here.
Also, although it doesn't rattle my cage too much, I'd much prefer it if men didn't refer to their girlfriend/ their friend's girlfriends as "my bird"/"his bird."

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Originally Posted by LadyW

I know of a few women who don't like being addressed in such a way because they find it quite patronizing.

Personally, I really don't mind it at all... I think alot of men find that it's just a natural part of conversation, and they don't mean any harm by it.

I suppose it can be quite endearing/complimentary (especially from friends and acquaintances.) Alot of my male friends refer to me as "darling", "m'dear" or something similar.

However, I must admit... I wouldn't be offended as such, but I'd be quite taken aback to hear "chick." That's not something that's used very often around here.
Also, although it doesn't rattle my cage too much, I'd much prefer it if men didn't refer to their girlfriend/ their friend's girlfriends as "my bird"/"his bird."

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As I was saying, I think a lot of it is regional.

I've never heard of calling someone a bird. What exactly is that in reference to?

Chick and chica are used here quite frequently which is why I was surprised that it seems to bother some people. Girls say it to other girls and it's fine for guys to say it to.

I would find darling patronizing and condescending. m'dear wouldn't bother me though

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Originally Posted by Stargazer86

As I was saying, I think a lot of it is regional.
I've never heard of calling someone a bird. What exactly is that in reference to?
Chick and chica are used here quite frequently which is why I was surprised that it seems to bother some people. Girls say it to other girls and it's fine for guys to say it to.
I would find darling patronizing and condescending. m'dear wouldn't bother me though

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I think "bird" is just British slang; I have no idea where it comes from actually.
But yes, you're quite right, it's certainly a regional thing.

Alot of females address other females in the same way (especially old women, it would seem.)

Haha, now I've only been called "darling" by one of my closer friends... so he can get away with it I suppose.

I've no problem with Darling, my dear/ dearie, honey, sweetie, petal (although pet i dont like)... and i detest Luv, especially if its accompanied by a thick dublin inner city accent. :sick:
Bird is not just a british thing, we say it in Ireland as well. But yes, a lot of these things would be regional. Chick, would be a real american thing, although as previously mentioned, chicky would be said in parts of england as a sign of affection from friends, family and neighbours, but its a localised thing like my love/ my lover is in sumerset.

I love it when older guys call me "my dear," but when younger guys say it, it sounds slimy (unless the guy is a Newfie, then it's more like "m'dear" and as natural as breating).

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Originally Posted by Brian Bean

A lady would never use kicks or punches.:)

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Sounds like you've never met a Canadian woman! :D