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Well they say you'll never know what you have till you lost it.
Ouch, sorry Sub.
OK I see this thread has drifted a little from the subject but I want to tell you about my day... I was yesterday at my favourite coffee house were I hang out a lot. and a waitor there who is 20 years older than me kept asking me about my breasts and my sex life! and he said 'please don't tell me you slept with Georg' a boy I was dating but never got really close to. he kept rubbing my shoulders and asked me to come with him to the Canary islands with him this summer. and for almost a month he's been begging me to kiss him.today I was at the coffee house with my friend and I told a girl who works there and I consider a friend of mine about the night before, she told the owner and he came to me and wanted the whole story and I told him because this was disgusting. I am 19 years old and he is 39, don't you think I was right to tell the owner? I came home a few minuets ago and I am still so mad at this waitor!
Helga that was pure, unadulterated sexual harrassment. what he did to you wasn't, never was, and will never be okay. if someone ever does that to you again, tell a manager immediately, hmm? he was absolutely wrong to lay a hand on you and to speak to you suggestively. in my profession i have to tell people before i touch them, because anything can be construed the wrong way anymore. what a cretin!
indeed, it appears to me that you did the right thing. If people like this are allowed to continue that type of behaviour, it will only escalate into greater misdeads.
I just hope he will be fired, cause I was talking to my brother and he said that if he will not be fired I should not hang out there anymore so they notice that they will lose customers if they keep him on.
the thing is that I love this coffee house I know all the waitors and one girl who works there told me that her two sons ask about the girl with the pipe when I'm not around. I can't imagine not hanging out there!
That waiter is one horrible person. :mad:
My question is, how come that place become your fav place with the fact that there's such an awful pathetic person working as a waiter there? I mean since it's your fav place and you hang out there alot, you should have been familiar with the waiters there and yet it's still one of your fav place..Quote:
Originally Posted by Helga
Well I'm just wondering. Sorry to hear that though..
Ugh, that sounds horrible, Helga! Compliments for being attractive, as he found in you, can only go so far, to where, like others said, they proceed to pathetic desperation and harrassment. I would have spoken with the manager too, and hopefully he/she fired that specific employee; if not, I would feel all the more annoyed - losing my favorite coffeehouse too for a reason like that would bother me immensely.
Take care, anyway, and hopefully things will heal themselves.
if he isn't fired the coffeehouse isn't worth favoring with your business, imho.
rant for two days: yesterday my exercise had to be abandoned because the page wouldn't load. today my computer took an ill-timed nap. considering my prof. reset a page for me, i'm a tad annoyed. hopefully, as it's almost identical to the in-class paper we got, i won't have to try this a third time...
and in other news, santa rosa junior college in northern california has a far more comprehensive anatomy program for nursing students than does my current uni. :( so kudos to srjc! :)
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Originally Posted by subterranean
well I hang out there for 3-8 hours a day and he started working there at a similar time as I did start hanging out there . first he was real nice and everybody flirt there, it's a very casual work place. I know all the waitors and the owner personally, I hang out with some of them away from the coffeehouse. at first I just thought he had a crush on me and I thought it was kinda sweet. I don't get that attention a lot. but than it became weird and the other people who work there have been telling me for months to complain about him but I didn't want to for some reason... well, then I started getting messages from the internet about not dating a boy I wasn't even dating and the boy was getting them too, and I get strange phonecalls in the middle of the night from a privat number and just somebody breathing on the line. it's really creepy and I suspect the waitor.
I hope he will be fired cause a friend of mine, a girl that works here gave me a pepper spray because she wouldn't be suprised if he would just grab me on the street or something...
this is really creepy but I hope the owner will solve it...
Perhaps you should call the local authorities?
Helga, I am sorry to hear that you are going through such an unpleasant experience. Sometimes when we try not to be unkind towards others, they take it as a sign that we do not mind their advances. Although it can be hard, there are occasions that saying a firm 'no' would be acceptable and save us further headaches. This waiter seems to have taken advantage of your nice and quiet personality. You don't have to put up with such people. :)
I agree with Stan, Helga. If there is someone stalking you like that, call the police. If not them, call the phone company. They can trace the caller for you and then deal with that person appropriately.
new here, skimming through old posts, like this one...i went to halloween party, bumped into young male wearing kkk outfit..blew fuse, asked to leave. what's that saying, don't say anything, then they'll come for you? now harry's wearing swastikas, we're all going to hell in a handcart as mother would say
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Originally Posted by Scheherazade
I know that when I describe it it seems much worse than it is. I don't think it's as bad as everybody else do. it does bother me but not that much. if it will continue I will talk to the police but not at this point.