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We were very close. I've always been a daddy's girl...we used to go mountain biking together all the time...and he always used to ask me to come along and do stuff with them. But the thing is, why would he want to do that in the first place? I mean, he is never home anyways, so why would he want to push me out even further! I almost freaked out on him yesterday...me and my dad are a lot of like...we don't really say 'I love you' easily, or 'sorry'...Quote:
Originally Posted by mkhockenberry
Take a little break. Its not fair for you to have to ASK for him to hangout with you...he should want to do that without you asking. Sometimes change is for the better. I wish you luck though, with whatever you do...Quote:
Originally Posted by Niamh
And maybe he is just going through something...I dunno...good luck though!:)
i hate my little sister, she does nothing but lead me on and force me to have to go to my parents to figure out what she's doing, today, she grabbed somehting from my room but wouldn't tell me why she took it, i asked her politely many times over, then i finally went to my parents and they said they had asked her to get it from me. i have to live with a demon in the house and i can't get away from her, my parents also take away all of my power as the adult when i'm babysitting, no one listens to me, they blow me off until i stick my face two inches away from theirs and yell until i'm hoarse. then i get in trouble for it, i'm on the verge of saying something once and when they don't do anything about it, dropping it then having my parents be the bad guys and yell at the three of them for not doing something. blame it all on my stepmom, her favorite method of communication is to scream at the top of her lungs for us to do something even when it's the first time she's asked us to do it, i'm getting fed up with this family, this is why i hate people, i have such awesome examples in front of me.
I hope things get better Niamh, you deserve only the best.
Sounds really unfair silent x, don´t try to get too down on all of humanity because of them. When I encounter hopelessly wretched people I tell myself to strive to be better to prove them that i am.
No complaints here, im on holiday! :p :)
Hopefully things will get better Silent X. I was lucky to be the youngest, and my sister and I were close enough in age that she never had to babysit me.
Oh I can understand how it feels but you should perhaps look at the positive side - the things your parents have provided you? This might help. And you said your sister is little, if she is little then forgive her, nearly all children do such things. That's a part of childhood.Quote:
Originally Posted by the silent x
And I hope things better for both Niamh and you and everyone who is in trouble!
I resent - to myself, to God, to world, to system, whatever - the fact I have one more academic year to spend at school before I can go to university. Not that I particularly dislike my school, I just dislike the fact it is school, it is filled with immature undereducated brats to whom the main purpose in life is to get drunk (I would not like to generalise, but the majority are such), the "academic spirit" in it does not exist except during a couple of minutes of Gaudeamus igitur during ceremonies, and I dislike having to study a plethora of subjects I am never going to need in my life.
Not that I see the world from the utilitarian point of view, nor that I particularly care about "usefulness" as pretty much everything "useful" one learns out of one's formal education, but I still view it to be pretty pointless that our school system forces students to study so many subjects and does not allow us to choose amongst them.
So I intend to study literature, history of art and Italian at university, and still, I will have to bother myself the entire year also with Chemistry, Mathematics, Politics, Latin, Greek and whatnot else they invented, which only takes away my precious time which I could dedicate to literature and art.
I also dislike constant arguments I am having with my family regarding my choice of university. They believe my choice is "childish and idiotic" and that it will only bring me to ruin and disappointments, and that I should study something "useful", with which I could "contribute to society instead of wasting your talent on doing-nothing in reading books and observing architecture", such as medicine, or, if I so dislike sciences, law; and I cannot even imagine myself on those universities, and do not get me started on how much I would hate to study something other than what is my choice. From their perspective I am just "too lazy to go to concrete university". I am sick of constant trying to prove them that the only thing I wish to do in life revolves around languages, literature and art.
That's a truth that it's difficult for those who study languages and literature to get a a good job, but it all depends on your priorities. If you would rather earn less money with your hobby as a job, it's understandable or even if's the other way, it's also understandable. I would advice you to choose whatever you want but before it think about the advice of your parents also. And coolly not emotionally. Not because they are saying it but because you have to choose whatever is good for you. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Anastasija
here's an idea, i always do this when deciding whether to spend a lot of money on something, get an impartial party, (e.g. friend, brother, sister, family member who doesn't adore your parents), then sit down with your parents and the impartial party, then write down all the good and bad things about your taking your parents approach, and all of the good and bad thinggs about your approach. The impartial party is supposed to be there for helping both parties and deciding the verdict.
when all this has been done, have the impartial party put the stuff together with a point value, such as: you want to learn about architecture, so you would pay more attention and produce better results than something you didn't want to do, that would get a 2. becoming rich might get a 1 or something like that.
anyway, this won't work if you have extremely authoritarian parents, "you will do this my way when i say so."
have you ever considered being an architectural engineer? that way you could study the actual building and help complement society at the same time, try combining the topics to make a job that makes both of you happy.
i am thinking about going into Literature as a teacher, i like to read, i like to analyze and i want to impart that on a bunch of crazy drunk kids who have nothing better to do than sit in class and listen/sleep.
about the school thing, i have no school spirit so i can't help you there, and for the drunks, ignore them, or if you see one of them getting drunk, smash the bottle over their head and say, "every time you drink, the bottle will get smashed over your head and you will get covered in beer" (don't really do that i was making an attempt at humor.)
To silent x, to Niamh, and to Anastasija, I sincerely hope that things go better for you. You are all such nice caring people and deserve only happiness in life.
For me, I am here to say that I am thoroughly sad that a couple of really talented and wonderful people have just up and quit us. Just like that. For reasons I cannot understand. I hope that they find happiness in life, too bad that they could not have mingled here even a bit longer. I have found a wonderful group of people here, this is a site that is a lot different than so many on the internet. Bravo LitNet, and may our two friends go in peace. They are always welcome here, just for the records. :)
well thank you kiz paws, was one by chance countess, i believe she was one of your friends and you posted the most on her leaving thread, again, i think that's how it was, yeah, countess will be missed
Ummm, well, I only posted once in that Countess "Leaving" thread, but yeah, she is one of the people who have recently left. The other was (sadly) Adolescent, who, without word or warning, just disappeared in a puff of smoke. Both of these people were extremely eloquent, animated, and full of spirit. I hope they rethink leaving LitNet, because it is such a place where all are welcome, no matter what their personal story/history is.... there is a place for all....
Good luck with your sister, silent x, things have a way of working out over the years
**thinking back to a hellion [a.k.a. sister] of my own...** :lol:
Thank you everyone for your suggestions, and just... for being there to stand my rant ;)
I do not have authoritatian parents, thankfully, they are just somewhat conservative, but in the end they will accept my decision (as they always have before when we were in disagreement - it is my life after all).
It really is more important to me to enjoy thoroughly what I do, even if I know that as professor of literature or as historian of art (unfortunately I do not have enough talent to be an artist myself, and I have always preferred history and theory thereof, so... it will be history of art, not art or architecture) I will not have much "profit" in life. They will simply have to live with the fact their daughter has got head in clouds and is really not suited for medicine, or law, or international business, or anything of the kind :D
stick it to them, my dad wanted me to be in nano technology, he got my first grade in physics and immediately realized that he couldn't always have his way. haha
I'm so angry I've been listening to whiny rock for hours. the idiot in my house started screaming at me about housework and made me clean. He's been telling me if Kiichan (my cat) steps in the living room, he'll kick her out the house. I began drawing and posted some of the sutff on my blog, but i'm still very, very mad.
who's the idiot, your dad or older brother?
go on to the another creative game thread and start killing people left and right, but think of some really good stuff for them too
Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha :lol: :lol: Silent, sometimes you really make me smile! **hugs**
OK, I am mad at my car. Very mad. Blowing up mad... :flare: :flare:
what did you car do?
if you are blowing up mad at your car, i actually blew up a car, took a lot of sledgehammers and fireworks, but we finally got the thing to explode, with the help of an Acetylene bomb. shop kids had a fundraiser, $2 to hit the car, then we blew the thing apart (with 18+supervision, [some kids older brother])
The state of that sh** box we call a car is such that a trip to Minneapolis has been halted. Dang and all dang! (the front end is shot -- hmmm, maybe I should put it out of its misery???)
**sigh**
Maybe it is in the stars that I stay put for the next few days??? Let us hope so, cuz it better be a good reason. I was soooooo looking forward to The Mall of America and all the other goodies that Minneapolis has in store for travellers... Grrr and double grrrr! :flare:
The idiot is my stepdad, so annoying! And to top it off I still have to pack since I'll be leaving in 2 weeks or so. (Minneapolis is in Minnesota right KizP?)
step parents are either a**holes or b****es, i have a step mom who hasn't spoken a word that has not been screamed, all she does is scream, I definitely understand where your coming from
Yes indeedy, Baki!Quote:
Originally Posted by Bakiryu
Sorry to hear that you must tolerate so much screaming in your life, Silent. Buy an opera cd with lots and lots of soprano singing. And BLAST the dickens out of it. She will get the point. Unless the point is on her own head ... :lol:
she wouldn't understand. i ruined two CD players doing that with a screamo band, maybe you should put the car out of its misery kiz, hwo long have you had it or how old is it. i'm no expert on cars so i'll be looking things up oonline for a while
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Originally Posted by the silent x
:D Then do what I do X: SING. My stepfather got so mad:flare: and hated it so much I'm not allowed to sing at home anymore. I do it occasionally and his face turns purple :lol: :lol: :lol:
The car is over ten years old, we have beaten all the life out of it that we were meant to, methinks (what with winters-in-the-Canadian-Prairies and the sheer torture cars have to put up with therein...)Quote:
Originally Posted by the silent x
My hubby believes in this car, and so I silently stand back. My ship will come in. Someday...
Baki, his face turns purple? Sounds very scary, fodder for a horror novel ... :sick: **shivers**
Poor you kiz. I remember when i was a kid we headed off for out summer hols in wexford. We'd only gotten as far as south dublin When the blasted thing came to a halt. Stupid nissan dastun! When we eventually got it back working again my dad turned around and headed home. Stopped at my sisters old apartment for a few hours. She convinced him to try towards wexford again, which we did and some how made it. That was the summer we almost didnt have a holiday!
one of these days i'll have these lions mauled.
who am i? your dread sovereign and you will yield!!
gotcha sucker.
If anyone has seen Family Guy you already know what this thread is about. If not.... feel free to get out todays stress with a little rant about something that really "grinds your gears." :flare:
Im pretty happy today so ill just wait and watch :p
When skin grows on my pudding or mushroom soup.
When I'm waiting for a call and my roomate's dad stays on the phone for two hours.
People pounding on my dorm room door at absurd hours of the night so I'm too scared to go to sleep! Ooh, and the night someone broke all the light bulbs in my floor all over the lounge right outside my room. That was a fun night too.
People saying, acting and doing stupid things just for the sake of being stupid. That in turn makes them annoying, irritating and frustrating.
Also, people who completely forget how to drive in snow. I can't even let it go with the first snowfall. But, for the sake of this post, let's say people actually DO "forget". Why, when we have gotten SO much snow this winter do they STILL not have the tiniest bit of memory of how to drive??? You'd think they'd get used to it by now! :rolleyes:
People who can't shut up. I need to be somewhere isolated.
I hate it when people snap their gum, especially if I am sitting next to them on a bus. I'll admit I snap my gum as well but only when I am by myself.
As to LadyWentworth's comment abt people forgetting how to drive in snow, how abt the people that forget how to drive when its raining out?
People who turn the volume down on my computer 'cause they hate DEVO. Jehovah witnesses showing up at my door on Sunday at 6 am. Stupid people, people who can't shut up, boring people too. people. Concerned people putting pieces of meat on my lovingly prepared all vegetarian food, c'mon man, not cool!
I'm 14, She's 14, He's 15, She went out with him, He made her cry almost every night, He had sex with another girl, I love her. She still loves him.
THAT'S WHAT GRINDS MY GEARS!
WHEN PEOPLE SNEEZE.
Ahem. I'm sorry...
I don't mind just ONE sneeze, covered by a hand.
However, when people are careless enough to fire their germs at me and/or do this about 8 times in a row - I could scream.
It makes me want to puke :(
I get annoyed when people demonstrate a significant lack of:
A) Classical manners of behaviour.
You do not need to open door to me every time or insist that when in the group of people we go out only guys pay for the drinks everybody had - though it is certainly nice :lol: - nor do you have to demonstrate you know all the rules of gentleman's or lady's behaviour, but you do need to respect some of those. I do not show it openly, again because I am raised in accordance with those same norms, but I do get upset over those things.
You cannot not pay attention to how you eat in a restaurant, you cannot not to look in people's eyes when you talk to them, you cannot interrupt another person speaking, you cannot walk around behaving like an idiot, or you sink down in my eyes; sorry, some basics are to be respected.
B) Classical manners of speech.
Same as the above; you do not need to speak in hexameters, but do care to make coherent full sentences and to minimise the use of vulgarism in your language - speaking like a person who never read a book or typing lyk dis definitely grinds my gears, even if I will not mention it.
C) General knowledge.
Of course that nobody is omniscent, but some things are just assumed to be known by an educated individual. And even if it happens that you do not know some crucial things, do for the sake of your own image hide that fact and quickly change the discourse, because there is nothing worse than "Voltaire, who?" in the midst of conversation, especially if in larger company and in public.
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*Classic*Charm*
People pounding
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LadyWentworth,
People saying,
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Tersely ,
People who can't shut up
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pussnboots,
I hate it when people snap their gum
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Bakiryu,
People who turn the volume down
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Aston,
I'm 14, She's 14, He's 15,
People!Quote:
LadyW ,
WHEN PEOPLE SNEEZE.
If we asked those people they will answer with the same word too
"(PEOPLE)" . :nod:
For me , I hate to see some one talking badly about another one while his\her absence , and when that one came , he\she starts praising after insulting. He\She is hypocrit .
:s i didn't say people
I DID say PEOPLE.
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Originally Posted by Bakiryu