Would You??

I dont think religion would come in my deciding whether to go on a date or not. I believe it is just one of the ways a person has decided to live their life and that they have all the right to practice it, so far as me getting influenced by their religion, would not happen, which means that if they ask me to do something specific to their religion I would not mind. I would be more interested in how the person is in their daily lives, their behaviour, their nature, I guess religion is something that a person may not be practicing day in and day out. But yes, I agree that the boy and the girl have to be a bit neutral or liberal on religious aspect and mutually accept each other, if they are fanatics or staunch believers and not ready to give space, then it may lead to problems. Only liberal views would help the relation survive. I believe I am neutral and live and let live would be my stance, and I think my relation would continue if the guy has similar beliefs (whether of the same religion or not) :)

Same question.

Well, I married a Jewish girl and I'm Roman Catholic. Neither of us is extremely religious but neither are atheists either. We accomodate each other around the holidays.

Very good question. Same Q.

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Originally Posted by Jean-Baptiste

Would you allow differences in religious perspective to determine who you may and may not date?

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I would not let religious-spiritual differences interfere only as long as they did not interfere greatly with our interaction. I have dated (and have had serious relationships) with women of greatly different beliefs from my own, yet what made us compatible? Reverence, reverence, reverence for others' beliefs, and we only debated out of mere sarcasm.
No one's religion would ever offend me, even if I disagreed with her faith, only as long as I do not hear constant, consistent preaching, debates, etc.

To the person below me: along the same lines, would you (or would your family or friends) ever object to you dating an individual of a different race?

no, i come from a liberal family, i've grown up internationally, "different races" are a completely integrated part of my life.
However, there is reason why one might be sceptical. Recently the danish government will throw you out if your a foreigner, so if i should, say, study abroad, fall in love with someone and we got married, and had children. I would not be allowed to bring them back home... Not really a pleasent situation, which namely students and academics are becoming trapped by.

If this were the situation, would you just forget about your own country, and stay with your loved one, never being able to return?

Probably, at least until said country removed its head from its rectal cavity and decided to carry on like normal again. (That was sarcasm. I am sure the Danes have some reason for such measures.)

Since Jamesian didn't give another question, I assume we're still on the same one. When I grew up in the 60's and 70's, Civil Rights were a big issue in the South. I'm Southern. But in my small town, race was what we did around the block on our cobbled-together bikes. I knew many bi-racial kids. And had I fallen in love with a woman of another race, family objections or not, I would have stayed by her even if it meant another country. I don't tell my kids who to date. They make up their own mind.

Do you feel stereotyping of people still goes on to extremes?

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Jamesian: Probably, at least until said country removed its head from its rectal cavity and decided to carry on like normal again. (That was sarcasm. I am sure the Danes have some reason for such measures.)

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:p Yes, chronical xenophobia. In fact it was suggested by a rightwing hostillity, that we should close our borders to sweden and norway, so that when their societies collapsed as a result of imigration, they couldn't flee into our country... sometimes you really have to wonder...
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Thus in answer to Pen's question, yes i'm very sure it does, the second biggest party in denmark has managed to portray all imigrants as terrorists, so we can no longer marry foreigners and remain danish... (It's a new Bedlam, someone save me please!)

How do you think racial discrimination could be "ended"?

"ended", sounds very wrong. ;)

But to be honest I don't know how exactly, racial discrimination is based on fear, so the only way to end it is to take away the fear. I do not know how it is possible to take away the fear. It is possible to take part of it away, but to remove it entirely is difficult to say the least.

Ofcourse I can get all political on this question, but I'm not.

Would you do the one thing you know you cannot do, knowing you will fail?

Sure. Many times I take up a fight/argument knowing that I will lose. Sometimes I find you eventually win by initially losing. I can't think of a real example off the top of my head, but sometimes if you make a good enough case (I'm thinking about work here) but still whoever decides can't help you now (for possibly lots of reasons) he may come back and help you later or make up for it in another way. Fighting the good fight in a respectful way and excepting losing earns recognition.

Same Q.

Yes, I would pursue my design, though it be destined for failure. Along the lines of Virgil's comment, I reasoned for myself some time ago that the true winner of any argument is actually the loser in the conventional sense; they have succeeded in becoming fully acquainted to a new perspective. The difficult part, of course, is drawing the line at being actually lead astray, when you know that your original perspective was true. Anyway, yes, I would make an attempt to exert my will in whatever direction that satisfied my fancy, and bask in the subsequent failure.

Would you do all in your power to "lose" an argument?

Hmmm, to 'lose' an argument - I often lose, in fact, without even trying. :lol:
In terms of debating, I really enjoy the occasional debate, but there does not necessarily have to exist a 'winner' or 'loser,' though some debates can get quite heated (especially on subjects on which I tend to feel very passionate, such as literature, poetry, philosophy, natural sciences, medicine, politics, and, how random, chess).

To the person below me: in a debate or argument that you very obviously lost, would you admit your wrongness and apologize, or continue debating or arguing (as in Sophism)?

If I'm proven wrong, I'm wrong. I don't claim to be unfailable, or to have all the answers. If it's a matter of opinion, I will agree to disagree, and remain friends, because there is too much fighting over stuff that really doesn't amount to much now.

Would you stand up for the rights of the "forgotten people", elderly, disabled, homeless, etc.?

I do, in fact, i once went as a representative for "Center for Conflict resolution" (I was 16) to a press conference about the UN, with top politicians and representatives from in the form of the swedish PM's press conference leader, and secretary of state. After a while i got tired of all their vague talk about improvements, and i raised ym hand, again i was 16 in a room full of proffesional journalists, i have no idea where i got the courage, and asked them how UN agreements etc could be valid when large nations chose to ignore some of the regulations, and somehow managed to include the lack of assitance given to the people in Aceh, Indonesia, whom have been supressed for many years by the government. :) what followed was a long silence, and a few meagre responses.
After at the champagne reception, i was approached by the leader of Unicef for children, as well as the swedish leader of the international department who gave me her card and asked me to do a broadcast about the Aceh minorities. A very cool incident.

In any case, i do things like that upon occasion, and i don't hesitate to stand up for the weaker.

Do you ever feel a strange surge of courage which allows you to do things you wouldn't normally do?

Yep, then I think I'm crazy.

Would you ever do something illeagal?

Not knowingly. If I broke a law, if would have to be because I did not know said law existed. A good example is that here in the USA, what is legal may vary from state to state. As I live near the borders of three other states, I cross into them often. A policeman in that state might stop me and find that the pocketknife I carry is illegal in that state, while it isn’t in mine. I would still be charged with breaking the law. That happened to a bounty hunter coming through here. He was caught with an illegal gun, legal in his home state. He was charged; the gun confiscated. So it's easy to do.

Would you run ten miles for charity?

I would if i could,

would you?

I run 10 miles for the fun of it, so I'd do it for charitiy too. :)

Would you swallow chewing gum if there is no place to put it and you are about to go into an important interview?

Sure. I quit chewing gum, as I would too often find myself faced with that dilemma.

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I would definately swallow the gum. Supposedly it takes seven years to digest, but I've swallowed a lot of gum in my life and I'm still alive so I don't think it's that big of a deal.

Would you just up and quit a job if all the people you worked with did not like you and made your life miserable on the job (this means that you don't give the customary two-weeks notice -- you're just out of a job that very day. This means that you just walk out of the office or whatever facility it is and just go home...would you?)

In hindsight, I wish I had. Then maybe I wouldn't have cracked up quite as quickly. Don't get me wrong, my illness is genetic, and would have happened anyway (my brother is showing bad symptoms now 12 years later.) But I wouldn't leave because I have a wife and three kids, the pay was good and the health plan unbeatable. But I cracked like an egg at age 34. My brother made it to 40.

If you walk off said job, would you go quietly, or have to say a final word to your tormenters?

I would go quietly; I do not need some dramatic exit to feel 'remembered,' nor to toss threats, retain a grudge, etc.

To the person below me: would you consider yourself quick to forgive, quick to forget, or do you feel to dwell on problems?

I tend to forgive and forget rather quickly. . . why bother holding on to something negative?

Next poster: same question

I dwell on problems, but I'm also quick to forgive and forget, just not myself, although it also depends on what I am dwelling on, there are things I'm very quick to forgive and forget off myself, while still learning from it, but there are certain things that I have a hard time forgiving or forgetting.
I can't actually think of something that I haven't forgiven someone for, or haven't forgotten, so that means I either both forgave and forgot, or I simply forgot. But I can think of things I did 10 years ago that I haven't forgiven myself for, or forgot. But I try not to dwell on things too much, and instead live in the present and look to the future. :nod:

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Originally Posted by mono

I would go quietly; I do not need some dramatic exit to feel 'remembered,' nor to toss threats, retain a grudge, etc.

To the person below me: would you consider yourself quick to forgive, quick to forget, or do you feel to dwell on problems?

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I take time in forgiving and forgetting (but this usually happens when the intensity of the emotion has reduced, or that now it doesnt make any difference), which means it is not quick and which also means I have a tendency to dwell on problems (I must say it is not a good habit).

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hmm, allright a confession. I usually connsider myself a fairly reasonable person, and i can't be bothered into harbouring a grudge... BUT - and this is really silly, there is one girl that i do not only intensely dislike, but really hate! and for some reason i cannot stop getting irritated by her very prescence, and infact, i sometimes feel a claustrophobic need to remove myself from a room if we are alone in it together. I know it's really strange, and highly immature, but i really can't help it... i feel a physical discomfort about her. (blah, long story) in short, i can't just "forget" abut her....

Would you tell such a person about your issues in an attempt to resolve the matter?

No -- I think it's a bad idea to tell someone about how uncomfortable you are in their presence. I think it's best to just stay the hell away from him/her and not waste too much energy with that. If they've already upset you with their actions or inconsideration or whatever (and you have such instense feelings of hatred towards them for it), chances are they don't really care about you and your feelings. Whatever they did was pretty bad and the best thing you can do is stay as far away from that person as possible.

Would you skip your grandmother's funeral if she was nothing but a toad to you when she was alive? If you go to the funeral, you have to run into your self-absorbed, psycho aunt who has also been nothing but a toad to you. Would you skip it, or go?

Go and face myself. Whatever she might be in my life, now dead I should show some respect, if not to myself.

Would you face your own fears or just acknowledge them?

That's a tough question. It's easy to say I'll face them, but there have been times where I'v been frozen in fear and not able to confront them. One doesn't know until we come face to face with it.

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I say that there are only two types of fear: that of what we do not know or cannot understand, and that of what we know all too well and refuse to acknowledge. (The philosophers on this forum would have a good round with this statement!) That being said, I think everyone sooner or later fails the test, because there is something in everyone's life that one doesn't want to face.

It's a very good question, however, and I will pass it on.

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Originally Posted by Adilyoussef

Would you face your own fears or just acknowledge them?

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Acknowledge them - that way you have more time to do the things you actually want to do!

Oh sorry I forgot!!! :D

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Hmmm, good question. I would first attempt to acknowledge them, then 'play it by ear,' so to speak. Some fears exist that I will likely never face, and would rather never try (like water), yet, even by admitting my fear, I acknowledge it; like several others, however, I have the common fear of failure - that I have both acknowledged and faced.

To the person below me: if you could save the life of only one person - an elderly but healthy individual or a baby, who would you save, and why?

Now this is a difficult question, I'd probably save the baby, despite the fact that I think they are smelly, wrinkly and all that stuff. But a baby still has a full life in which it can possibly offer a great contribution to humanity or at least be a productive member of society. The elderly is likely to die within 15 years anyway, that is, if elderly means old people that have already retired, which I think it does. :) Not that I want the elderly person to die, but if I had a choice, the potential value of a baby's life far exceeds that of an elderly member of society.

Of course, the baby could grow up to become a killer or thief or what not, but it's a risk I'll have to take.

What does it take to get you upset, or to rephrase, what upsets you?

Mean people upset me.

Would you ever walk barefoot in a gas-station bathroom? Or in any public restroom for that matter?

I don't set foot out of the house barefoot!

Would you travel a long distace based only on the map in your head, with no back-up plan at all? We are talking a trip of, say 750 miles one way, car trip?

No - absolutely not. I would never get back to where I needed to be.

Would you tell your mom that you were sorry for being an inconsiderate bratty teenager?

I have apologized many times, but, of her other three sons (I have an older brother and a younger brother), she called me the 'most well-behaved by a small margin.' We both survived, nonetheless, and learned a lot from each other. The same story goes with my father - both very understanding, patient, warm, and wise people.

To the person below me: if you could re-experience one moment in your lifetime, would you merely desire to re-experience it, or would you alter it somehow, especially the result of the moment?

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Originally Posted by mono

To the person below me: if you could re-experience one moment in your lifetime, would you merely desire to re-experience it, or would you alter it somehow, especially the result of the moment?

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I would alter it - change what I did at the moment. (I would get in the car and speed away from it in fact).

Same Q to the next person

As I once wrote in a poem "the road behind, not the road ahead, is the one forever barred to our footsteps" . But I would love to have a "second chance" on many things, which I would change if I could.

Would you consider a terse dismisal from a job as a personal affront?

I don't know about an affront. I certainly want to know why. If it was expected I would just move on. Otherwise I would want answers.

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