Ladies, what don't you like to be called by men?

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08-19-2009, 07:58 PM
Virgil

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Originally Posted by Annamariah

Yup, and it's better to be Finnish than finished :p

:lol: Good one!!
08-21-2009, 04:16 PM
Maximilianus

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Originally Posted by Annamariah

Yup, and it's better to be Finnish than finished :p

I have a hunch that being finished must be painful :cold:, so I'd rather be "Finnished" :D :lol:
08-22-2009, 08:56 AM
Annamariah

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Originally Posted by Maximilianus

I have a hunch that being finished must be painful :cold:, so I'd rather be "Finnished" :D :lol:

Your smiley could as well be Finnished than finished, we do have some cold winters here, you see :lol:
08-22-2009, 12:32 PM
Maximilianus

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Originally Posted by Annamariah

Your smiley could as well be Finnished than finished, we do have some cold winters here, you see :lol:

Believe it or not I was talking to the smiley lately... and guess what it told me when I asked about its birthplace! ... up there in the north of the planet... :lol:
10-10-2011, 08:29 PM
JuniperWoolf

"Honey" makes me feel like a wife, which would be alright if I was a wife and my husband were the one calling me such, but in any other context it would seem awkward.
10-11-2011, 12:04 AM
Maximilianus

Wow, first thread I created has been revived!
Auld lang syne when I was born a member http://smilys.net/other_smilies/smiley5183.gif
10-11-2011, 12:09 AM
BienvenuJDC

Isn't "chick" a derivative from the Spanish... "Chica"? which mean's girl?
10-11-2011, 12:32 AM
JuniperWoolf

Oh yeah, another quick point of reference: calling us "chick" is usually okay, but calling us "hen" usually isn't. :p
10-11-2011, 12:35 AM
OrphanPip

Haha, I almost always use babe as a term of endearment for some of my male friends. Now that I think of it, I don't think I have ever used a pet name for a female friend.

I think chick is etymologically related to the older expression chicken for a young girl or boy. (Chicken in old gay slang means a teenage boy)
10-11-2011, 12:56 AM
Maximilianus

There're Spanish speaking places where women are sometimes called "pollita" which curiously and literally means "little female chicken."

One may assume that the first person who decided to address women this way was a native English speaker adopting "chick" as a short for "chicken" and then the term was borrowed by some Spaniard, with an equivalent intention. Or one may assume what Bien suggested a few posts above. It appears difficult (if not impossible) to accurately attest the very first use of certain terms in particular contexts, and where the idea came from.

Anyway, and regardless of intention, there's the evident language link among the terms above mentioned :)
10-11-2011, 01:59 AM
Paulclem

"Dear" was missed off the list. Or does it mean that "Dear" is universally acceptable?
10-11-2011, 02:16 AM
Maximilianus

I skipped several terms unintentionally, and mentioned the ones that came to mind first. I should have put more thought on the preparation of the list.
10-11-2011, 03:19 AM
Themis

Personally, I don't think any of these terms are derogatory per se. It really depends on who's using them to what end.

That being said, I don't like being called "baby" by most men - but my father has been doing so since I was born. I can't say I actually like it, but it's impossible to get my father to stop and I do realize it's him being affectionate. I think if somebody else called me "baby" or "honey" or whatever, if I saw they were being affectionate and just couldn't quite understand what was wrong with the term, I wouldn't be angry with them. It's the intent that counts, after all.
10-11-2011, 03:30 AM
Delta40

My Father used to call me Fanny Craddock (A restaurant critic and television cook) or Fanny Adams (an 8 yr old who was brutally murdered and dismembered in 1867)

What does it all mean?
10-11-2011, 03:30 AM
PoeticPassions

Chick is kind of annoying... I agree with Juniper about 'honey,' though I don't think I would like being called that even by my husband (if I had one).

Not on the list, but I can't STAND 'babe.' Maybe because of a person that used to call me that all the time, or maybe because it just sounds so stupid. It associates me to people that say 'dude' all the time.
10-11-2011, 04:16 AM
Scheherazade

Recently realised that "hun", "love", "darlin'" and "babe" do not make me happy. At. All.
10-11-2011, 04:20 AM
prendrelemick

I said "Morning gorgeous" to my neighbour the other day because I knew she was feeling down.

I'm not sure it was the right thing to do though.
10-11-2011, 01:41 PM
Emil Miller

The English comedian /presenter Jack Dee said that in the entertainments profession people are often referred to as Lovies.
He said: "I don't mind being called Lovie but I hate people who call me Ducky. There was some guy who was always calling me Ducky."
Pause..... "He's dead now."
10-11-2011, 03:23 PM
Paulclem

I don't like being called babe, babes or darlin'.I've been called all three by young shop assistants, so I quite understand. I suppose it's better than being called the rather more plausible grandad and old git though.

I would also object to lover, sugar and sweetie. More serious terms of abuse I'm used to.
10-11-2011, 03:40 PM
Emil Miller

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Originally Posted by Paulclem

I don't like being called babe, babes or darlin'.I've been called all three by young shop assistants, so I quite understand. I suppose it's better than being called the rather more plausible grandad and old git though.

I would also object to lover, sugar and sweetie. More serious terms of abuse I'm used to.

I suppose that any habitué of pubs in England gets used to 'darlin' pretty quickly but 'dearie' seems to have bitten the dust.
10-11-2011, 04:14 PM
Mutatis-Mutandis

My moniker, "Greatest Lover of All Time," has become tiresome. I get it, ladies, I'm a god. But I'm also modest, so just keep it "Greatest Lover."
10-11-2011, 04:42 PM
JuniperWoolf

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Originally Posted by PoeticPassions

Not on the list, but I can't STAND 'babe.'

Me neither, it reminds me of the pig. Babe is one of my favorite childhood movies, but I still don't want my nickname to be after a pig (no matter how cute he is).

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Originally Posted by Delta40

My Father used to call me Fanny Craddock (A restaurant critic and television cook) or Fanny Adams (an 8 yr old who was brutally murdered and dismembered in 1867)

What does it all mean?

:lol: Yep, that's a puzzling one.
10-11-2011, 06:38 PM
Maximilianus

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Originally Posted by Delta40

My Father used to call me Fanny Craddock (A restaurant critic and television cook) or Fanny Adams (an 8 yr old who was brutally murdered and dismembered in 1867)

What does it all mean?

Your father is quite a character... at dishing out nicknames, that is :p

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Originally Posted by PoeticPassions

Chick is kind of annoying... I agree with Juniper about 'honey,' though I don't think I would like being called that even by my husband (if I had one).

Not on the list, but I can't STAND 'babe.' Maybe because of a person that used to call me that all the time, or maybe because it just sounds so stupid. It associates me to people that say 'dude' all the time.

Whenever I've been called a "dude" I've strongly resented it. I feel it's among the ugliest English words and not because of the letters it's made of. It's just the way it sounds. It sounds so stupid, tasteless and maybe impolite to some extent... and all these trendy people uttering "dude" all the time as though it fitted their mouth machine guns like a charm :incazzato: I had to point out I hate the word :skep:
10-11-2011, 07:00 PM
Delta40

I guess I feel there is a subtle difference in the use of endearments between friends and family as opposed to the use of them between strangers. If a guy in a pub called me darlin, baby or any of those terms, I would find it insulting whereas someone I love using those terms would be construed differently, if that makes sense.
10-11-2011, 07:33 PM
cl154576

I still like my name most.
10-11-2011, 09:30 PM
papayahed

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Originally Posted by papayahed

Just recently a supplier started to call me "babe". I had to tell him it wasn't appropriate. If I would have known the guy in any other context besides work it might have been ok.

Seriously, I'm still fighting this battle with two coworkers. I think I've found a solution though. When a coworker calls me baby I answer back with "cupcake". That usually throws the guy off a little.
10-11-2011, 09:48 PM
Maximilianus

Is "cupcake" often perceived as an offense? I was once called a "cupcake", and after reacting rather violently I realized it had been said as a word of endearment. I shouldn't have reacted without being completely sure of the word's connotation, as I must have made the friend feel bad :frown2: So what's a "cupcake" in the place where you live when applied to a person?
10-11-2011, 09:57 PM
papayahed

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Originally Posted by Maximilianus

Is "cupcake" often perceived as an offense? I was once called a "cupcake", and after reacting rather violently I realized it had been said as a word of endearment. I shouldn't have reacted without being completely sure of the word's connotation, as I must have made the friend feel bad :frown2: So what's a "cupcake" in the place where you live when applied to a person?

Cupcake is a term of endearment. I use it because it evokes the same response in guys that "baby" evokes in women. To me being called "baby" makes it seem like I'm not on the same level as the person calling me baby, like they have to watch over me.
10-11-2011, 10:06 PM
Maximilianus

I get it. Thanks papaya :)
10-11-2011, 10:12 PM
JuniperWoolf

Yeah, I got that all the time when I was a waitress. "Hey baby, bring me over an MGD." Okay, sure, then I can wedge the bottle down your throat. A-hole.
10-11-2011, 10:21 PM
Maximilianus

You can't actually prevent a drooler from drooling over a beautiful woman. They just can't hold it. As a contrast, wedging a bottle down the a-hole's throat seems a more attainable goal :p
10-12-2011, 04:20 AM
PoeticPassions

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Originally Posted by Maximilianus

Whenever I've been called a "dude" I've strongly resented it. I feel it's among the ugliest English words and not because of the letters it's made of. It's just the way it sounds. It sounds so stupid, tasteless and maybe impolite to some extent... and all these trendy people uttering "dude" all the time as though it fitted their mouth machine guns like a charm :incazzato: I had to point out I hate the word :skep:

Oh, dude, tell me about it! :biggrin5:

hahahaha
10-12-2011, 04:31 AM
Emil Miller

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Originally Posted by PoeticPassions

Oh, dude, tell me about it! :biggrin5:

hahahaha

Just another silly juvenile fad that will disappear in due course to be replaced by another.
10-12-2011, 11:28 PM
stephofthenight

sweet cheeks- precious and I really hate when you walk in walmart and hear "damn babbbbbby yo b finnnnne" Im not sure rather It is so revolting because of their pathetic language skills, social skills, or the fact that when I think of fine, or hot I think of meat. IE thats a fine cut of meat, or I want it hot and juciy. Food words do not make good pet names. I really can not stand to be called angel though. It brings out the most non angelic part of me- my temper...
10-13-2011, 08:42 AM
prendrelemick

Hmm.. food related names. a whole new can of weiners.

My mother used to call me "sausage" and don't the French call a woman "Mon petite chou" or My little cabbage.
10-13-2011, 02:31 PM
Emil Miller

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Originally Posted by prendrelemick

Hmm.. food related names. a whole new can of weiners.

My mother used to call me "sausage" and don't the French call a woman "Mon petite chou" or My little cabbage.

I once called a Belgian girl that and she slapped my wrist.
10-13-2011, 03:02 PM
tonywalt

I usually say girl, like ''hey girl' but in a flirtateous context, only. It gets a positive result.
10-13-2011, 03:30 PM
TheFifthElement

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Originally Posted by Emil Miller

I suppose that any habitué of pubs in England gets used to 'darlin' pretty quickly but 'dearie' seems to have bitten the dust.

Only south of Watford. If you heard 'darlin' in a pub in Manchester it would be immediately followed by the sound of someone being propelled out of a window.

It's 'love' or 'chuck' round my way, both of which are unisex so none offensive to women :)
10-13-2011, 04:04 PM
papayahed

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Originally Posted by tonywalt

I usually say girl, like ''hey girl' but in a flirtateous context, only. It gets a positive result.

ok, In the right context and tone I do repond positively to girl. Sme with darlin' but in addition to context and tone it must be said with a southern (US) accent.
10-13-2011, 04:16 PM
Emil Miller

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Originally Posted by TheFifthElement

Only south of Watford. If you heard 'darlin' in a pub in Manchester it would be immediately followed by the sound of someone being propelled out of a window.

It's 'love' or 'chuck' round my way, both of which are unisex so none offensive to women :)

I can see that I'll have to extend my travels to the north of Watford.

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Originally Posted by papayahed

ok, In the right context and tone I do repond positively to girl. Sme with darlin' but in addition to context and tone it must be said with a southern (US) accent.

I'm afraid that the southern (UK) accent of those who use darlin' leaves a great deal to be desired.

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