Originally Posted by
Lykren
I've had an idea: what if gender is essential for some people but not for others?
Take me for instance. I'm a heterosexual male, yet I'm slightly gender-atypical; but most significantly, I've never thought to myself, I'm really glad I'm a guy, or, I'm glad I'm not a girl. My maleness does not factor into my self-identification. In fact, if I imagine myself as the same person, living in a female body, I don't have any reaction one way or another; I suspect I could live with it, apart from the difficulties of having to live as a homosexual due to my desire for women. This has made me suspicious of those who claim gender is an essential construct; I just can't relate to that idea.
But not too long ago, I met a woman who worked as a performer at Disneyland. In one of her costumed roles, she had to act slightly aggressive; her character was a male one. But sometimes, she got to wear a Minnie mouse costume. At those times, she said, she felt not just comfortable, but relieved to be a woman again, declaring that she loved the feeling of twirling her skirt and generally acting coquettish. So for her, perhaps, gender is an essential part of personality. Since she was completely costumed, she could have felt no external pressures to 'act female'; her desire to do so, therefore, must have been completely endogenous.
Is it not then a possibility that gender exists for some and not for others? I'd love to hear what you guys think.