Game: Ask the Person Below You

I moved from Delhi, my birthplace, to Chandigarh when I was 10 years old, and absolutely hated leaving my home, my friends, my school and everything I'd known behind. But over time, I gained lots of friends in Chandigarh and grew to love that city too...the greenery, going for walks by the lake, the school. But now, I've moved back to Delhi to study at Delhi University, and by a strange coincidence, live in the same area I used to live in earlier. But things have changed so much around here in the past decade...people and friends have moved on and you barely recognise the place. So, it doesn't really feel the same anymore. I like living in Delhi for the opportunities it offers but I think I could equally adjust to living somewhere else. In fact, I think I'd like to travel more and experience other places.

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Well Mono you kind of asked the question which answer is my life goal..
I was born (in case you don't know) In Israel.. Born in the middle of a conflict which does not relate to me.. non the less i was forced to choose:
join the Israely army or refuse and go to jail.. since i was a cowerd i choose the army which ment that unlike other people in the age of 18 i got a rifle in my hand, a uniform and was send to pass 3 years of my life in the service of my country..
I'm sorry... i know i should be proud in my country and i defintly do not say it is a bad place witch i hate.. i truly have no problam with it's being here..
i just say that for me since i turned 18 my life goal will be to leave...
not to stay here..
not be a citizen..
i truly don't want anything to do with this country..
My only true wish it was as simple as it is in my head... ... .. .

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Wow, I feel happy to see so many of you liked the question - very interesting responses, too. :nod:
As for me, I honestly claim that I highly dislike the town in which I spent most of my childhood. My family moved very, very frequently, making it difficult to settle in one place for more than a year; then my parents' divorce concluded, and things seemed as stable as they could get in a given situation.
I still visit the small town frequently to visit my father, only about 20 miles from where I live in Portland, Oregon (luckily, my mother does not live there), and usually visit for as long as I can, then flee from that town as quickly as possible - a miserable city of drugs, alcoholism, a record for number of churches per capita (which no one attends :p), immense conservatism, bar brawls, loud and boisterous trucks, and teen pregnancy; it does have some charming countryside, however. :D

To the person below me: when a child, where did you visualize yourself in the passing of years, leading to your present self?

Dont know why but I had always pictured myself as a teacher & that is what I am today. By the grace of God my childhood dream has been fulfilled.

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I had a very interesting outlook on life as a child. I usually split my choices in two: what I would presently view as what my parents would desire for me more, and what interested me, but seemed slightly out-of-this-world. As a child, at this age, I viewed myself either in a stable career (surprisingly attained), a decent relationship of some kind (far from it!), and living in a nice house or apartment (I like my apartment, actually :D). On the other side of the spectrum, I visualized myself as a constant traveler and back-packer; always having an interest in nature, seeming in an incessant state of traveling and experiencing new things appealed to me (obviously, I never pursued that lifestyle, but desire to travel immensely).

To the person below me: what kind of area do you live in, and do you feel relatively satisfied with your neighborhood and city?

the area I live in is bland, and mostly boring, but that's okay, because it is like me, except I don't fit in with the population, which for a large part resemble narrowminded people that think their village is the centre of the universe and their cow is the best cow in the world, and nothing that happens outside their village matters, except for sporting events. Many of them, although not xenophobic, are wary of any outsiders. It's not as bad as it was 10 years ago, but then again, I've probably gone through some process of mental reconditioning making me less aware of it.

There are also pleasant and intelligent people though, but they are not nearly as many.

Overall, the area is nice to see, but nothing happens, it's a good thing distances are small in the Netherlands and it's easy to move about to where ever one wants to go.

Same question, because I can't think of anything that wouldn't offend the rest of the populace.

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what kind of area do you live in, and do you feel relatively satisfied with your neighborhood and city?

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I live in a pretty luxurious neighbo...Oh crap, somebodies stealing my BMX!

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i live in a rural area in a nice city that is quiet and there isnt really any crime at all and most of the people are amiable.therefore i am content in the area in which i live and would not want to move. however the scenery is not STUNNING but it is nice and i can see more beautiful places on vacation so overall i really like where i live :).

to the person below me:what is your current occupation and do you like it and why/why not?

I am a M.A. student & also a teacher. I am satisfied with my profession as I have always wanted to be a teacher.

Same ques : what is your current occupation and do you like it and why/why not?

Currently I am into Software testing. I am quite enjoying my work and the environment. I have studied computers and for the initial two years I did not get a job in this field, I had to take up a job in Content Writing bacause of financial constraints, and did not intent to continue writing, neither did I enjoy the work.

The primary reason behind liking my job has been the work culture, if the environment is not conducive be it software testing or content writing, both would be equally disliked. Although, I learnt a lot while in Content Writing, it helped improve my comprehension and writing skills which I am still able to use, but did not like the environment, it was authoritarian.

In my current profession, I have job satisfaction, that is, I am back in my field, and I have freedom to do my work they way it suits me (ofcourse I have to abide by the basic rules, such as, finishing work on time, keeping clients happy), but there are less boundations, that is I can manage my time (no 9-5 job), I have to finish my work on time no matter what time of the day I come and do it, all this helps in maintaining a balance between personal and professional life. I am able to pursue hobbies, and think beyond work.


to the person below me:
If you were in a situation where you found one of your parent competing with you, as in, if you found that they are forever trying to prove that they are better (they dont need to though), maybe because when they were your age they did not get what you might be getting now and they feel deprived and maybe cannot control their emotion in the sense that why didnt I get such opportunity and although I am the one facilitating such opportunities to my kids, I cant help feeling bad. What would you do? and if in a similar situation how would you behave with your child?

(I am not sure if I have been able to put across my point, I hope the readers understand)

Very interesting and in-depth question, Madhuri.
Though I give no advice to anyone, I accept it as a hypothetical situation, and would do one of two things: assertively bring the problem to an open, honest discussion, or relinquish any competition and literally let the parent 'win,' as ridiculous as it sounds, merely to give him/her the satisfaction of winning.
Surely, it depends on the parent. With my parents, personally, I would make the problem open to discussion and find some kind of conclusion, yet this may not work in every family. Regardless, it ought to seem quite a learning experience for everyone! :nod:

To the person below me: what would you probably consider the most boring book you have ever read, and why did you read it?

(a bit of a superficial question, I know, but my brain does not seem to work today :p)

I am not sure if one could do anything about the situation, because the understanding that there was a competition would come much later when the kids have become mature and the parents have also have had some experience in parenting. I think this competing attitude would develop when the parent is confused as to how to deal with the emotion that at that age the child is doing much better than they and maybe competing is the best way they can adopt to deal with it, I believe all this would go on without the parent and the child understanding what it is until years later when they look back they would know what it was and that would be the time when they are mature enough to understand that it was actually a competition and provide equal space for each other to grow. I think one would not really be able to anything about it in the troubled times.

Mono's question remains unanswered. So for the person below me the same question.

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Originally Posted by Madhuri

I am not sure if one could do anything about the situation, because the understanding that there was a competition would come much later when the kids have become mature and the parents have also have had some experience in parenting. I think this competing attitude would develop when the parent is confused as to how to deal with the emotion that at that age the child is doing much better than they and maybe competing is the best way they can adopt to deal with it, I believe all this would go on without the parent and the child understanding what it is until years later when they look back they would know what it was and that would be the time when they are mature enough to understand that it was actually a competition and provide equal space for each other to grow. I think one would not really be able to anything about it in the troubled times.

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I entirely understand, and see your point, ranging on the child's age and psychological maturity. Whatever happens, Madhuri, I hope for the best. Interesting question, regardless. :nod:

As for the most boring book I have ever read, besides some of my textbooks, probably Creation by Gore Vidal - a true cure for insomnia. :D

To the person below me: did your parents ever make you, or enroll you, in any extra-curricular activities (sports, music lessons, etc.) that you did not enjoy? If so, what?

Yes they did, it was Judo and it was supossed to help me learn how to control my aggression, but I never really liked it, and it certainly didn't help me control my aggression. I solved that in my own way. But I voiced my dislike of it several times and they gave in after two years. Apart from that I choose all my extra curricular activities myself, which means football, because I never did any other activities.

That's all many years ago, and I still play football. :D

Same Q, it's a good one, and I'm too lazy to think of any other one.

I had enrolled for cooking classes & now I know to cook all kinds of dishes - gravies, cakes, pastries, ice-creams, desserts, etc.,etc. I enjoy cooking even now.

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