What do you NOT find attractive?

Unattractive, by category. . .

Physical
Obese
Tattoos
Body Odor
"Attention getting hair color" (purple, pink, Kool-aid blue)
Frowns a lot

Emotional
Drama Queen
"The world is against me" attitude
Passive-aggressive
Mean, antagonistic
Self-centered, takes everything personally

Intellectual
Intensely political (heavily aligned to a single political party)
Mocks the intellectual values of others
Humorless
Reads & loves Twilight, Harry Potter, and Dan Brown, and asks me "Why don't you teach these novels to your classes. They're so addicting." To which, I want to say "So is cocaine, but I don't pass that out to the students" . . . but I refrain and say some lie like "maybe. I'll have to read those books more closely".

Peccadilloes
Constantly plugged into an electronic device
Checks phone/txts constantly
Picky eater (picks olive off of a pizza, for instance. I mean, unless (a) you're deathly allergic to olives or (b) you're 5 years old. Just eat the damn olive).
Scared of nature: mosquitoes, poop, fish, worms. . . . . .

I could add to this list, but it's all I can think of right now. . .

I also find fromunda cheese a slight turn-off.

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Originally Posted by Mutatis-Mutandis

I also find fromunda cheese a slight turn-off.

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Oh! Oh! Can I add that to my list!?

Easy there Encolpius...

Never fear, Giton... I have no such interest in becoming a switch hitter.:hand:

I don't know - a few things, I'm a little too tired to think. I don't like women's feet very much.

So you wouldn't have gotten on well with my college girlfriend... a lovely redhead with a thing for toe-sucking.:yesnod:

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Originally Posted by The Comedian

Oh! Oh! Can I add that to my list!?

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If you want. I'm sure some guys dig it.

Exactly what does passive-aggressive mean?

I really don't like it when girls or women use the F--- word. Please, it's vulgar when said in front of women, but it's just downright disgusting when said by a woman.

It's totally repulsive when a girl with a nice body part says something to bring this to my attention. Please, if you really do have a nice-looking a**, then I would have noticed. Don't point it out to me. Immediate turn-off.

Whether male or female, it is unnattractive to be overly argumentative. I enjoy discussing my opinions with people who believe otherwise, but there is no fun in arguing. I'm not reffering to someone who is opinionated; it is admirable to have firm beliefs. What I'm refferring to is like Everybody Loves Raymond type of argumentative, where people argue about trivial things.

In girls I do not like those which are popularly regarded as being sexy. I find the more guys who want to "get inside" a girl, the less I am attracted to her.

I don't like big breasts in a lady. They are just not something attractive. I prefer small breasts. Perhaps this is related to the reasoning in my previous note: many guys find big breasts sexy, therefore I am offended when a girl thinks she's attractive just because she has big breasts.

Oh and of course feminists. Like I said, there is nothing wrong with having firm beliefs. But I'm talking about the feminist women who are offended by the most sincere and heartfelt compliment, the ones who get defensive when no offense was intended. Did I somehow upset you by thinking about you? Or are you angry because I said hello?

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Originally Posted by The Kid

Oh and of course feminists. Like I said, there is nothing wrong with having firm beliefs. But I'm talking about the feminist women who are offended by the most sincere and heartfelt compliment, the ones who get defensive when no offense was intended. Did I somehow upset you by thinking about you? Or are you angry because I said hello?

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Ay if beauty was a recipe I would make a right mess out of it glad instinct is around I hate those measurements from ounces to gram to metrics don't you?!!

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Originally Posted by Mutatis-Mutandis

Stinky, rotten-egg smelling, skid-mark creating, wet sounding farts.

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I really don't like it when girls or women use the F--- word. Please, it's vulgar when said in front of women, but it's just downright disgusting when said by

F- that! The dude has too may rules or issues with what should and should not be.:wink5:

And if we combine these responses together, nobody finds anybody else attractive.







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After years of being somewhere between a punk and a hippie, I've found that I'm very much not attracted to "counter-cultural" girls. The whole culture of parties, booze, pot, casual sex, and drugs irritates me now - it all seems so shallow, impersonal, and ugly. I like high-strung feminists, and girls that are a bit more down to earth, and, dare I say, "boring." The ones that would rather spend a Saturday night studying than getting wasted.

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Originally Posted by Desolation

After years of being somewhere between a punk and a hippie, I've found that I'm very much not attracted to "counter-cultural" girls. The whole culture of parties, booze, pot, casual sex, and drugs irritates me now - it all seems so shallow, impersonal, and ugly. I like high-strung feminists, and girls that are a bit more down to earth, and, dare I say, "boring." The ones that would rather spend a Saturday night studying than getting wasted.

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Yes, high strung feminists and girls that are down to earth in equal measure.

And yes - like any red blooded guy, any girl into casual sex is down right repulsive-even if she is charming and attractive(No Way). How many times does I guy have to say "Stop touching me there, or I'll to ask you to leave!!" or "No, you cannot blankity blank by duwop!!- on the first date!!

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Originally Posted by tonywalt

How many times does I guy have to say "Stop touching me there, or I'll to ask you to leave!!" or "No, you cannot blankity blank by duwop!!- on the first date!!

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Once, and after the blankity blank by duwop !! Then ask her to leave.

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Originally Posted by tonywalt

Yes, high strung feminists and girls that are down to earth in equal measure.

And yes - like any red blooded guy, any girl into casual sex is down right repulsive-even if she is charming and attractive(No Way). How many times does I guy have to say "Stop touching me there, or I'll to ask you to leave!!" or "No, you cannot blankity blank by duwop!!- on the first date!!

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Thank you for totally missing my point. Clearly, because I'm in favor of caution on the part of both sexes about who they end up in bed with, and am not in favor of indulging in casual encounters, I think women should have to wear chastity belts. Better yet, maybe they should all get stoned on their fathers' doorsteps. :rolleyes:

I didn't say I'm don't think people should have casual sex, smoke pot, drink copiously, or whatever else they want. I just don't want to partake in any of the above. Sure, I'm often totally reviled by how often men get women drunk or strung out enough to consent to something they'd otherwise not want to do...But, I'm all for women having fun when they say yes and really mean yes. I'm just not attracted to women who only want a casual thing and nothing more. I'm not that kind of guy.

It's called kidding around, Desolation. I don't think the humor in Tony's post cou,d be any clearer.

^I thought Desolation's was a solid post.

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Originally Posted by Desolation

I like high-strung feminists, and girls that are a bit more down to earth, and, dare I say, "boring." The ones that would rather spend a Saturday night studying than getting wasted.

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Eh, that's not so boring. First of all, more people get wasted on weekends than study, and rarity is intriguing. Secondly, I'd find it much less tedious to talk to someone about something intersting than to clean vomit off of them and pull them out of fist fights.

What is "casual" anyway? I wouldn't have a physical relationship with anyone I didn't strongly admire, but at the same time I wouldn't plan a joint life and a shared ma and pop business together or something.

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Originally Posted by Desolation

. I like high-strung feminists, and girls that are a bit more down to earth, and, dare I say, "boring." The ones that would rather spend a Saturday night studying than getting wasted.

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Actually, this is weird, but I don't think I could ever be with a girl like that. I am just so used to a certain routine, if you will, and certain types of people, that a girl who actually cared and took life seriously would just make me feel awkward. I have never thought, how getting drunk on the weekends is such an important ritual in my life, but it is and a girl who was not like that, I don't think I could ever care for her, especially if she is one of those many "flaws don't matter because they can be changed"

Anyone else concur with my sentiment?

It's not that it's a solid post or makes legitimate points (it does), I just found it odd that Desolation seemed so offended by what was obviously a jocular post made by one of this forum's most jocular members.

So anyway, what I find most unattractive in the opposite gender is the constant need to criticize or nit-pick my quirks. In my younger days, nothing turned me off faster than some opinionated little prick telling me how I should be or how women should behave.

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Originally Posted by Mutatis-Mutandis

It's not that it's a solid post or makes legitimate points (it does), I just found it odd that Desolation seemed so offended by what was obviously a jocular post made by one of this forum's most jocular members.

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I got the humor, but I took it in the wrong direction, I think. :blush2:

Must have been a bit touchy at that moment.

I am feeling very open minded these days so I'm just gonna say it would be hard for me to be with smoker and I have found myself looking the other way when I see a cigarette. Not because I am against smoking but because I used to smoke and I always want one.

Stupid men. And stupid women. Both are equally unattractive. By stupid I mean;
narrowmindedness and an unwillingness to learn; and that could be about anything.

I do not like haliotosis [bad breath] and body odour!
Also, insincerity and flattery are unattractive to me...

I don't like dating women who can't get past my supposedly good looks, who can't handle my over-protective nature, and who want to wait until they are in their late 20s, early 30 to have kids. When I meet my future wife I want to get married and have a kid. I don't know if I'll find the right woman here in Canada where it seems they're mostly all focused on their education and careers. I'll probably be single for a very very long time. I am thinking of travelling abroad to teach english. Doing that, in South America or Asia, I might find the young women there more keen on settling down. I'm becoming Catholic, which might help. The Catholic values really appeal to me. In Church last Sunday the talk was on the sacrament of marriage and how important it is.

Dude, Catholic? Are you serious? Did you make a conscious decision to go with the most morally and socially (and criminally) corrupt religion on the planet (Scientology excluded)?

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Originally Posted by Mutatis-Mutandis

Dude, Catholic? Are you serious? Did you make a conscious decision to go with the most morally and socially (and criminally) corrupt religion on the planet (Scientology excluded)?

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If you keep your religion and politics separate like I do then Catholicism is not as bad as many people think it is. The Catholic Church is easy to demonize and I understand the hate it gets, but that hate is often the result of people over-looking the church's many positive contributions to people personally and socially. Faith and family are very important to me. That said, I do not vote according to my faith. Actually I stay right away from politics. I am a-political. Politics stresses me out so much I've come to just avoid thinking about it entirely.

Well, if that's the path you've chosen and it makes you happy, more power to you my friend. :nod:

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Originally Posted by Tournesol

I do not like haliotosis [bad breath] and body odour! Also, insincerity and flattery are unattractive to me...

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I do not think anyone does to be honest.

I guess you don't live with a coffee drinker.

I can't stand point scorers. those people who feel they need to get one over you either through humour at your expense or through 'proving' they are your intellectual superior. They suck big time and I don't know if they do this so they can get a hard on or because their mother made them feel insignificant but I stay away from them - except I've got a brother like that but yadda yadda yadda!

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Originally Posted by Buh4Bee

I guess you don't live with a coffee drinker.

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Hi Buh4Bee I do . He smokes rolling tobacco and drinks white coffee. I do not find it too bad. Do you mean to say black coffee?

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Originally Posted by Delta40

I can't stand point scorers. those people who feel they need to get one over you either through humour at your expense or through 'proving' they are your intellectual superior. They suck big time and I don't know if they do this so they can get a hard on or because their mother made them feel insignificant but I stay away from them - except I've got a brother like that but yadda yadda yadda!

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Haha complexity can be aggravating but I do feel a lot of it stem from the lack of confidence within one self.

I find women who "act dumb and giggly" a bit much and a little annoying. Well, maybe giggly is ok. But I do meet alot of girls who (even though I know they are intelligent) take on a dum dum persona.

Having said that, alot of my male friends like girls dumber than themselves - I never understood the dynamic.

Needless to say, this does not apply to onlitter babes:hurray:

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Originally Posted by Scheherazade

I should clarify.

I do not mean people who are content with their physical qualities but those who spend hours in front of the mirror as well as a small fortune to "improve" their looks... Those who are obsessive about how others perceive them physically. And that includes excessive physical training as well.

Another thing: People who fuss over food and drink.

I would, of course, like to have good quality but I find it very annoying when people keep talking about how their steak was not perfectly done or how their pasta was over cooked by 30 seconds. Have been out with people who actually sent their food or drinks back and I find it very embarrassing. I don't get it right every time at home myself and if one meal out of thousands in my lifetime does not turn out "just so", I feel it is OK.

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Physical training has a ton of benefits that aren't related to your appearance. If you were interested in strength training or "working out" you would see that while most people do begin with superficial goals (and many will quit without realizing these goals) the immense struggle and discipline required to maintain a great looking/strong physique without the use of steroids leads to strength training becoming something more meditative and complacant. The hours you spend maintaining your strength, health and lustre become part of you. It's a great confidence builder and a good way to prove to yourself that you possess the dedication and willpower that few others do.

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Originally Posted by Clopin

Physical training has a ton of benefits that aren't related to your appearance. If you were interested in strength training or "working out" you would see that while most people do begin with superficial goals (and many will quit without realizing these goals) the immense struggle and discipline required to maintain a great looking/strong physique without the use of steroids leads to strength training becoming something more meditative and complacant. The hours you spend maintaining your strength, health and lustre become part of you. It's a great confidence builder and a good way to prove to yourself that you possess the dedication and willpower that few others do.

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Plus ya look really hawt:smilewinkgrin:

It has to be arrogance for me. No matter what it is, when it's said, what context, or even if they're joking it pisses me off to no end. That's the major one. Others include the point scorers which is what Delta40 said. And the dumb people. I don't claim to be smart, but when people don't even try to figure something out and ask for help whining and complaining about how they're 'can't' do it I just walk away. (I've never run into someone who genuinely isn't smart enough to do something if they really tried.)

I really have a hard time with CRAZY. I have actually had to walk away from two "friends" because they were too emotionally unstable. I seem to be a CRAZY magnet. So I recently started to only make friends with psychologists. I have a psychologist friend and a social worker friend and no CRAZY.

Beards on women and people who talk too much.

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Originally Posted by jajdude

Beards on women and people who talk too much.

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Haha. I do not like beard on either men or women. Talking is healthy so I would not diss it lightely myself. I would say those who do not say much is problematic.