Originally Posted by
SilentMute
Haha! The old, "Do as I say, not as I do" problem.
Yes, preferably we should set an example. On the other hand, sometimes setting a bad example is just as good. My mom takes pride in this approach. When I was growing up, she never gave me a bedtime, she allowed me to eat when I was hungry--I had a lot of freedom of choice, though she wouldn't let me go past the boundaries of the front yard. That was one area she was protective.
My mother prides herself on setting a bad example--and that is why she has a child that is very disciplined, ambitious, and moral.
I did actually learn watching her eff up her life. However, if I had my own child, I think I might have chosen to raise them differently. I wouldn't be the "cool" parent I always thought I would be. I probably would put more restrictions than what I grew up with. I don't think it was a good idea that I was reading the works of the Marquis de Sade at 9 years old, for example. When I was growing up, there were several close calls with danger...enough to make me shudder every time I hear about a missing child or a dead child. It is definitely a "if not by the Grace of God, that would be me" type of moment.