Ladies, what don't you like to be called by men?

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Originally Posted by Virgil

:lol: I tried calling my wife something silly like that once and I got struck with a baseball bat across the head. :p Of course it had to do with her weight. :D

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Always a touchy subject with women but I can believe that some New Yorkers have a problem in that direction; when the Chinese woman I mentioned moved to New York she actually had to buy her underwear from a children's store because the normal womens sizes were too big.

If you want to really piss me off you should call me sweety or female, especially the last one. Also honey, babe and the rest are accepted only from someone who is close. I love when he calls me "my girl" in that special voice which makes my heart melting. :-).
I am actually looking for a special name for him, the pet name nobody else called him before.
Any suggestions?

It completely depends on who's saying it. If it's my boyfriend or a close friend whom I've known for years, that's fine. But I don't like being called by a term of affection by casual acquantances much less perfect strangers.

There are several elderly residents where I work who refer to any woman or girl who is younger as "lady" or "mija" I think it's sweet, polite, and respectful.

So generally, I'll only answer to my name, Miss, or mija (or lady if they speak limited English) especially if I'm at work.

I selected other rather than an individual one for a reason. I hate being called babe (ugh) chick (chicken for some reason i'm okay with), bird, moth, the missus, my woman... i dont mind doll because my dad calls me that, but then, i think thats the only person i'd allow call me doll.
Oh and i also hate being hollered with "ma'am". different spelling to mam obviously but every time some one says that to me in the airport, i feel like saying "do i look like your mother?"

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Originally Posted by Olga4real

If you want to really piss me off you should call me sweety or female, especially the last one. Also honey, babe and the rest are accepted only from someone who is close. I love when he calls me "my girl" in that special voice which makes my heart melting. :-).
I am actually looking for a special name for him, the pet name nobody else called him before.
Any suggestions?

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How about Buggerlugs ?

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Originally Posted by Niamh

i dont mind doll because my dad calls me that, but then, i think thats the only person i'd allow call me doll.

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:) My mother always calls me Doll, so I'm in the same boat- no one else would ever be permitted to call me that.

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Originally Posted by Brian Bean

How about Buggerlugs ?

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If you would be so nice to explain it's meaning but it does not sound too nice after first reading.

Whatever a guy says, he's in the wrong - that's just the way it is with broads.

It all depends on the person and the context... Doncha think?

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Originally Posted by Olga4real

If you would be so nice to explain it's meaning but it does not sound too nice after first reading.

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To be honest, I don't know what it means. One of the guys I used to work for often used it to describe someone he didn't like. So perhaps it isn't suitable for your purpose after all. I just like the resonance of the word.

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Originally Posted by MarkBastable

Whatever a guy says, he's in the wrong - that's just the way it is with broads.

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:lol::goof:

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Originally Posted by Scheherazade

It all depends on the person and the context... Doncha think?

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I agree!

Although I HATE 'The Missus' UGH! I think it sounds awful.

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Originally Posted by Scheherazade

It all depends on the person and the context... Doncha think?

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it definitely does.

but in general, I think I'd feel pretty uncomfortable with the ones listed. I'd be okay with "darling" or "dear" or some such though. and if the person is older, I really don't mind much as long as they mean it with some degree of respect.

"Honey" is what my parents (now divorced) called each other. I could not possibly use it myself for that reason. Just the thought of it makes me cringe, it reminds me of their tense relationship with each other.

the pet names that my boyfriend and I use are entirely gender neutral and completely of our own devising. they would make no sense to anyone else, and sometimes they probably don't even make sense to us. It's probably pretty weird, but I like it.

First of all I want to thank everybody for taking part in my first poll since I joined Lit Net. Highly appreciated!

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Originally Posted by kasie

My husband once addressed a woman as 'madam' and was roundly told, 'Don't you madam me!'

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I know of someone claiming not to have been called a madam in all her life, until it happened, and she was so pleased that she even said "Hey you're the first person to call me a madam, thank you so much" :p
Same cause, different effects...

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Originally Posted by TheFifthElement

I picked nearly all of them. Depending on the context almost all 'pet' names for women can be derogatory and the only way to be safe is to call people by their given name. You missed 'sweetheart' and 'love' from the poll too, oh and 'bird'. Sweetheart really makes me want to puke, 'love' less so but perhaps because culturally in the area where I live 'love' is a common term used in a friendly and not demeaning way, so in my local area if someone said to me, "excuse me love... I wouldn't ever take that as offensive. Chick, in some areas is used in the same way so I guess again it rather depends on context. Bear in mind, in the same area the word 'c*ck' is used as an affectionate term for a man "..are you alright c*ck? or 'cocker', and I have known of situations where people using the term in its colloquial, friendly manner have been told by call centre staff that they'll hang up if they 'speak to them that way again', which is quite funny. Note, I can't actually write the whole word on this site without it getting ****'d out, which would make it very convoluted to talk about male chickens if I needed to :D

Lady I think is acceptable depending on the context. So if you were introducing people to each other you might say 'and this lady is xxx' and that would be okay. After introductions I would then expect people to use either other's names.

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If you had a name like "Prudence Goodwyfe" you wouldn't be so safe (saw it on The Simpsons, so not my devise :p)
Apparently I missed many, including their variants, like sweetie, girlie, deary, babe, lassie and whatnot.
I would hate to be called a "c*ck" ... yuck ... :lol:
Whenever you need to refer to male chickens you can always say "male chickens" :p

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Originally Posted by JBI

I guess the terms "dame" and "lass" have finally bitten the dust? Bogart, You are out of luck!

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I like them both, but I have a preference for "lass"... which is not really important here given the fact that I'm a man. :p

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Originally Posted by Virgil

:lol: I tried calling my wife something silly like that once and I got struck with a baseball bat across the head. :p Of course it had to do with her weight. :D

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Virgil, Virgil, what were you thinking about? :goof:

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Originally Posted by *Classic*Charm*

What about broad? I think that one's kind of funny.

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Given the original connotation of the word, I wouldn't address anyone a broad. I wouldn't even call a broad a broad, if you know what I mean (the very fact of their profession is no excuse for disrespect... unless they like being addressed like that). I too dislike the way it sounds, though maybe its connotation has changed with the mingling of time.

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Originally Posted by Olga4real

If you want to really piss me off you should call me sweety or female, especially the last one. Also honey, babe and the rest are accepted only from someone who is close.

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No fully qualified gentleman pisses a lady off. That's why I thought of this poll in the first place... to know what ladies prefer and be a better gentleman. :angel:

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Originally Posted by Niamh

I selected other rather than an individual one for a reason. I hate being called babe (ugh) chick (chicken for some reason i'm okay with), bird, moth, the missus, my woman... i dont mind doll because my dad calls me that, but then, i think thats the only person i'd allow call me doll.
Oh and i also hate being hollered with "ma'am". different spelling to mam obviously but every time some one says that to me in the airport, i feel like saying "do i look like your mother?"

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"Moth" sounds terrible to address a lady, and "missus" and "my woman"... well I can't tell which of the three sounds worse. And about "ma'am", independently from spelling, some people tend to pronounce it without the "long a sound" involved, which makes it sound even more similar to "mam". If I were a lady I wouldn't like to be a stranger's mother either.

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Originally Posted by IJustMadeThatUp

Although I HATE 'The Missus' UGH! I think it sounds awful.

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My ears tell me the same!

Olga and Brian, this I found for Buggerlugs, and there's a fifth meaning I dare not post here for fear of being banned. Anyhow if you feel interested here's the link: http://www.urbandictionary.com/defin...erm=buggerlugs
Buggerlugs

1. Grumpy person - usually older, can be attributed to any person who is being a grumpy pain in the bum.
2. Affectionate term for a child
3. An affectionate term for a female friend, if you're from up north!
4. In British English, a term used as a polite euphemism for the stronger "bugger". Often the word is changed as the speaker realises his/her audience. Usually an exclamatory remark (as in "Oh buggerlugs!")
5. - check link if you want it -

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Originally Posted by kratsayra

the pet names that my boyfriend and I use are entirely gender neutral and completely of our own devising. they would make no sense to anyone else, and sometimes they probably don't even make sense to us. It's probably pretty weird, but I like it.

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Very nice to have an internal language that only belongs to both of you.

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Originally Posted by Maximilianus

Personally, I prefer the word lady because it gives me an idea of independence from men. I dislike the word woman because I feel it has an implication that they depend on men

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I agree with this Max. I once had this really adorable boyfriend when I was about 28 and he referred to woman as ladies and I really thought it was sweet and respectful. He was originally from the South so maybe that is a trait in his state...Southern hospitality. I don't like the other titles above at all. I would have chosen this or Other.