Originally Posted by Drkshadow03
Martin is denobilizing and desterilizing Epic fantasy. He is challenging many of the things that JBI I imagine dislikes about the Epic fantasy genre; Martin's world is not one divorced from reality or meant to provide comfort in predictability. It incorporates a hard-dose of reality into the Epic Fantasy with unglorified, very gruesome violence, and it relishes in its unpredictability.
It's worth noting that even given this gritty realism, Martin never directly depicts a rape that I can remember (I could be wrong about this); he usually talks about them indirectly after the fact. So a) the purpose obviously isn't to titillate because if it were you'd probably want to show it b) there really aren't much grounds to call those scenes a "rape" fantasy because of "A."
As far as Daenerys is concerned. It true that she is 14 and certainly "forced" into marriage to Khal Drogo by her brother, but I wouldn't exactly call that prostitution -- I want to be hesitant here given the various Feminist Theories that point out that often women don't really have much of a choice so it might as well be rape, and that seems to be the case here. However, it has more the quality of an arranged marriage. Daenerys in fact enjoys her life with Drogo as his Queen as is made explicitly clear in the subsequent chapters after her marriage to him.
Now it's true that they show the sex scene between what in our society is a minor and an older man. Most people I've talked to find this scene repulsive, including many male fantasy readers who JBI claims this scene was concocted for as an appeal to them, however, many of them note this scene as the one that really nauseated them.
Still, I think there are narrative reasons to include it:
1) Historical reality. It's based on a medieval setting. Women could marry at 14 in the Middle Ages (see pg. 98 at this link). Likewise, her older brother would've been her guardian and had the right to arrange her marriage.
2) Stylistic reasons. If you're going to include babies getting their heads violently bashed in and are willing to depict incest then you better have a good reason to shirk away from sexuality.
3) Characterization. As I already pointed out this a story about perspective. Everything is siphoned through the character's viewpoints. One viewpoint is Dany's. Dany is about to have sex for the first time, barely knows her husband, and is naturally frightened. It would hold that this constitutes a major event in her life; likewise, there is gender parity shown in the books. When Jon Snow first has sex this is also shown with as much graphicness (if I remember correctly). The Dany scene also serves as a transition from the scared girl who obeys her abusive brother to a Queen who has some agency of her own and is no longer afraid to mock her brother.
Lastly, there is no denying this an extremely misogynist world, but I think that's the point and there seems to be self-awareness of that fact rather than a blind relishing in the misogyny as an appeal to fanboys. In other words, Martin is in fact commenting on the misogyny of his world. The character of Brienne of Tarth (a minor character in the second book who continually grows in importance as she gains a viewpoint in the 3rd book) with her attempts to be a female knight in a man's world and her commentary on those difficulties I think proves this point beyond a shadow of a doubt. In fact, almost all the female characters at some point comment on it.
The rampant sexuality of the female characters isn't so much male fantasy as it is commentary on this world's patriarchal system; by telling the story from the perspectives of the most powerful women, including the Queen herself, we see that no matter what their rank women for the most part can only obtain power in this world through sexual favors. Martin is not putting this perspective forward uncritically, however. There are plenty of counter-examples of women who try to find other means to have agency and power. Arya, Dany, and Brienne are the most obvious of those examples.
In conclusion:
1) We have a lot of female main characters and an extremely diverse cast of women with very different personalities and who have fairly complex motivations (as equally complex as the male characters). Women are not stereotyped, but instead there is diversity.
2) The novel passes the Bechdel test, which so much fantasy and genre work miserably fails.
3) I think there is evidence in the narrative that it is self-aware of the misogyny and the female characters directly comment on the misogyny in the world and their lack of power.
4) There are quite a few female characters who find agency through means other than sexuality. To put it another way, there are main characters who provide counterexamples to the women who rely on sexuality for power.
On the other hand, it's true that there is a lot of violence against women in the series, and I although I think Martin is in fact commenting on it rather than promoting it, I can also understand why it would be a bit offputting for some people and why some feminists might read it differently than I do.